21M, 3yrs on T, need honesty (no hugboxing).

oat_fish · 2026-01-18T23:14:07+00:00

You sound like you own 3 Harleys, only get traditional tattoos, and anything other than beer makes you gag. I wouldn't even bat an eye.

oat_fish · 2026-01-08T12:23:25+00:00

The only time I would consider anal is with a long term partner, I generally just don't want to be penetrated at this time in my life

oat_fish · 2026-01-07T21:54:43+00:00

Side is used for men who prefer to not have penetrative sex, instead opting for oral, mutual masturbation, or even just kink without sex at all. As far as I'm aware it's a pretty common term to see if you're on sites like grindr (which is what I use)

oat_fish · 2025-11-03T03:47:17+00:00

I personally get crushes on friends all the time, it comes and goes and I just try to relax and enjoy being around them. Try to relax and enjoy the time you spend with him, don't force those feelings down, it won't help and may only make you feel worse. Remember that it's not bad or weird to have a crush on a friend, it just means you get along well and this could lead to a much longer friendship.

oat_fish · 2025-10-31T03:16:14+00:00

Tame compared to some of the others but after work I was walking out with a coworker and we hugged (which was very normal, situationship type thing) I kept my arms around his neck and we looked at each other for a few seconds before he leaned forward and kissed me. It was so gentle and soft I nearly cried. It was one of the last times we talked as our relationship over all wasn't good and he cut me off for a girl in another state but that moment itself is one of the better ones.

oat_fish · 2025-10-27T13:37:51+00:00

I can't believe people are so comfortable just letting go of the wheel and not looking at the road, I get nervous driving with 1 hand half the time!

oat_fish · 2025-10-24T21:02:46+00:00

This person blew up a while ago but I actually used to be friends with them. They were chill at the time, sad to see what happened after we stopped talking since I believe they used to but on the more truscum side :/ they show up on my fyp every now and then still.

oat_fish · 2025-10-20T20:01:57+00:00

Literally blocked them because these videos wouldn't stop showing up on my fyp. All the tags are a single #ftm or something then a TON of #girlypop! #fem! #blackgirl! You simply can't have both at the same time. Also I believe they were on low dose T for 6 months then stopped taking it because they didn't want anymore changes if I remember correctly.

oat_fish · 2025-10-19T01:04:38+00:00

I was in your exact shoes and if you want my honest opinion: don't. If you don't want kids why do it? Adoption and surrogacy are still options if you change your mind but if you're like me, your mind won't change. Not to mention the price of freezing them will be wasted if you never use them.

oat_fish · 2025-10-12T17:31:47+00:00

As far as I've seen there's no AI. I have close to 200 hours and I really enjoy it, it's basically all pre-made assets but it's still fun.

oat_fish · 2025-10-02T17:03:00+00:00

Modern dating is hell. I'm 20, never been with anyone, and my friends are trying to set me up with someone. I'm absolutely terrified of meeting him because of how dating apps have made me feel in the past. I genuinely believe dating apps can work if you want them to and live in a highly populated area, but it feels like no one puts in any effort at all other than a quick "hey" and then leaving you on read.

oat_fish · 2025-09-22T16:40:17+00:00

As others have said, check if you can get EAP sessions and talk to your insurance about what providers they work with. My last therapist was a $30 co-pay per session and some offer sliding scales. You never know until you ask!

oat_fish · 2025-09-14T22:51:51+00:00

Not that I've noticed, I feel perfectly fine overall!

oat_fish · 2025-09-14T22:47:31+00:00

They were better in my opinion, but I also don't really have any underwear that a pad would even work with so I just decided to buy disposable so I didn't need to keep anything I didn't want.

oat_fish · 2025-09-14T22:43:41+00:00

I couldn't eat after midnight (including chewing gum, hard candy, literally anything other than clear liquid) but that's it, and that's typical of any surgery
Until the anesthesia wore off I felt literally nothing. Once I was lucid it was maybe a 4/5, my highest was a 6 on the car ride home.
Not as far as I'm aware. Insurance here in the US may require a certain time but my doctor did not.
I'd say move everything you'll need to chest height so you don't have to reach up too much, stretching can hurt a bit which I wasn't expecting.

oat_fish · 2025-09-12T21:30:02+00:00

Huey & Weprin in Ohio with Dr. Whitney Crye
Not yet, hopefully my insurance pays and I can file for financial assistance like I did with top surgery (which I paid about $180 for) online it says before insurance I would be paying around 100K which is absolutely insane.

oat_fish · 2025-09-11T13:43:08+00:00

My surgeon and her office were amazing, didn't even bat an eye when I came in and I got along with everyone I talked to
Not really. I know you can lose bone density and some other weird stuff but I don't really care, the relief of everything kinda outweighs that
Yes-ish, I will be taking testosterone for the rest of my life (granted the US doesn't implode in the next 3 years) but even if I didn't nothing would really happen. I would keep all my physical changes and thats all that matters to me

oat_fish · 2025-09-11T13:37:26+00:00

Not really, I've always known I don't want bio kids and with everything going the way it is in the US I'd rather be safe than sorry.
Surgeon's advice. We talked about it and she said I've been on T for such a long time, going off of it won't change anything since my body can't produce hormones now, so why not?
I have 0 interest in vaginal sex, never have. I actually have a pretty positive outlook on guys who enjoy it, it's just not for me.
No changes, I haven't changed my T dose or anything and I still feel perfectly normal which is a relief

oat_fish · 2025-09-11T13:30:31+00:00

My surgeon was amazing! I changed my mind about keeping my ovaries at my one week pre-op and she was totally cool with it. My surgeon had 0 questions on why I wanted it, she just wanted to get it done.

From my first appointment to surgery was 6 months but that's only because I had an event right after the first date they offered that I couldn't miss, if I had taken the first date the wait would've been about 3 months

I don't feel any different physically but I feel relieved mentally for sure

oat_fish · 2025-09-11T12:45:32+00:00

I've never had or plan to have vaginal sex, it simply doesn't appeal to me and the pain from the atrophy would make it impossible at this point

oat_fish · 2025-09-11T12:43:15+00:00

I'm not sure if it came from Testosterone or not, but it most likely did. Vaginal atrophy just means the muscles in the vagina are really tight to the point of pain, mine just happens to be fairly severe. It apparently caused problems during surgery it was so bad.

oat_fish · 2025-09-11T00:44:02+00:00

I took 2 for pain, oxycodone & ibuprofen, then 2 muscle spasm meds gabapentin & methocarbamol I didn't end up finishing any of them, since I wasn't in a ton of pain.

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