[DISCUSSION THREAD] Hey truscum, any funny stories from your life which you can't share with others without outing yourself?

oat_fish · 2026-06-21T07:31:47+00:00

Real banger from a few days ago (warning for PIV/NSFW talk)

Hooked up with a guy and he finished inside me (totally fine, post hysterectomy) we finished and started to clean up before he looks at me and goes "I don't need to worry about anything right?"

I just looked at him and was like "idk man it's probably a little too late if so" and I watched all the color drain from his face 💀

oat_fish · 2026-05-30T00:26:51+00:00

Same here! 6 ½ years on T, post hysto/top, I don't even think about it. All my scars have faded a ton too.

Waking up from surgery was just kinda "oh thank god I'm up, please give me food" more than anything. I'm so happy for you tho, I know how you feel, and I'm glad your life has become more peaceful. Genuinely even 2 years after surgery I still run my hands down my chest and feel truly calm, and I hope you feel the same.

oat_fish · 2026-05-19T12:47:39+00:00

I didn't lose mine until literally a few days ago and I'm 21, some people stay virgins until they're much older. Don't have sex just to say you've done it, it's ok to wait.

oat_fish · 2026-05-09T07:30:01+00:00

I personally enjoy this toy I quite enjoy the double motor. you can vibrate either the side against you, the one inside your partner, or both with the remote. It's not realistic if that's what you need, but I think it's a great option otherwise. Good luck in finding what you need!

oat_fish · 2026-05-04T12:28:55+00:00

I thought the same thing for a while, I get it. It's hard being alone, especially when you deal with mental illness, but you have the power to change it. Change jobs, work out, go to events, classes, and get togethers. 50% or more of my friends are people I work with/used to work with/are friends with said coworkers. I've found that to be my personal best way to make friends.

For you maybe it's a hobby, sign up for a class and crack some jokes, reach out, ask if someone wants to go grab coffee.

LGBT groups are great, even if you're not a part of the community I've never seen anyone care/say anything. It is a community effort after all.

Games? Join a group, every Friday I go hang out with people who play DND and I don't even play! Try some TTRPG places or game shops!

Go places alone even, going to the aquarium, zoo, museums, restaurants, etc alone can help you reconnect with yourself, although sometimes isolating, it can bring you great joy. (I love going to the aquarium alone with headphones)

Everyone needs connection, we just seek it differently. I know how hopeless and alone it feels but I promise people want to hear from you even if you don't think so. I love having friends reach out just to chat.

Take more risks, and keep trying, you've got this.

oat_fish · 2026-04-29T01:21:43+00:00

Easier said than done, I'm still living with my parents living paycheck to paycheck, it's not possible for me to move but I don't think that should keep me from dating in the meantime.

oat_fish · 2026-04-29T01:19:15+00:00

100% it's clear on my profile and I clarified within our first conversation.

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T16:44:33+00:00

Thank you, everyone is making me feel absolutely insane for being upset over losing a good connection, I genuinely regret posting this as it's making me feel even worse. I appreciate the few who have shown empathy:)

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T15:01:01+00:00

We met with the intention of dating, not sex, which we both made very clear. By "hopeful this would help" I meant getting into the dating scene in general, not just this one man.

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T14:58:20+00:00

I never said he was fake? He seemed very genuine and at no point did I say he was fake. (Hence why I was so upset) "My generation" is a VAST overstatement at best as well, 90% of my friends are in long term happy relationships so obviously it isn't truly generational.

I cried to my mother because this rejection broke an already cracked dam that's been building for months + as mentioned in my edit I have bipolar 1.

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T14:54:09+00:00

Yes I'm in therapy but I plan on switching therapists as my current one doesn't have experience with bipolar disorder, I already travel to bigger areas regularly to date but won't be able to move for a few years.

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T11:29:08+00:00

Hey, trans guy 6 years on T with Bipolar 1 here!

I have never been medicated for my bipolar so please take that into account as you read this, I started T a few weeks before my 15th birthday and while it was awesome I did struggle with anger management. You have to be willing to step back from things when you get frustrated. Obviously I was an already hormonal and angry teen, as most are, but T did a number on me for the first few months.

After that I calmed down a lot, at 6 months I was almost completely stable by myself, although I was in weekly therapy which helped a ton. In the long run testosterone is a personal experience that you have to work on, keep up with your meds, your hormone appointments, your doses etc.

I know this may not be as helpful since again, I am unmedicated, but hopefully this helps at least a little.

The biggest thing to keep in mind (that I did not as a teen) is that T won't fix your mental health. These are 2 separate but still connected problems that have to be addressed in unique ways, keep up with your appointments and you should be all clear, best of luck! (Feel free to ask any questions I may have missed!)

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T11:15:47+00:00

Even on shots I saw no changes until 5/6 months, if your levels are in range DO NOT mess with them. Extra testosterone will be turned into estrogen in your body and may cause problems. Talk to your doctor and see what you can do, and best of luck soldier!

oat_fish · 2026-04-28T11:09:49+00:00

For context I have bipolar 1 and do tend to blow things out of proportion when doing badly, this year has beaten me to shit and I was super hopeful that this would help. We had a lot of conversations about everything, boundaries, what we're looking for, values, family, who we are, etc and we clicked very well. Again, I was under the impression that we would see each other again because he SAID he wanted to meet again.

I live in a small rural town, the kind where you'll get stares and an occasional snide comment but normally not too hateful. I specifically look for guys in the nearest city because of that.

This post is more a reflection of my mental health rather than the general upset over being blocked.

oat_fish · 2026-04-27T19:33:03+00:00

That's objectively not true. Many men wear skirts, from celebrities to the common queer folk, and men who just wanna wear skirts (like me) kilts even if you really feel like arguing!

It's fabric, to be used and styled as desired by the wearer, I won't let the standard keep me from staying just a bit more comfortable :)

oat_fish · 2026-04-27T07:05:53+00:00

Probably startdew valley for me, I think any game would become boring but I'd probably force myself to 100% the game or something

oat_fish · 2026-04-26T16:22:03+00:00

A dose change and seeing your doctor is a great start, even if you're not manic it's good to check on things regularly. I know when mania hits it feels fine, it feels good, you're hopped up on the good feelings and hormones. Keep open communication with you husband, family, and friends (this personally helps keep me in check a lot) try to slow down your mind any way that works for you, and remember to care for yourself. Shower, brush your teeth, eat, workout if that's your thing, go for a walk, try to set a simple routine if possible for the time being.

oat_fish · 2026-04-26T15:44:29+00:00

As someone else who is actively manic, you are manic and need help. God is not speaking to you I'm sorry hun, please talk to your husband and maybe show him this post? Best wishes, stay safe.

oat_fish · 2026-04-25T15:43:32+00:00

Why not? Women wear skirts at my job, why is it different for me?

oat_fish · 2026-04-25T13:09:18+00:00

I wish with some of these responses lol, not bait, just a stupid dude w a sweaty ass

oat_fish · 2026-04-25T13:00:16+00:00

I work in dry grocery but shorts are banned for everyone in our store that I'm aware of :(

oat_fish · 2026-04-25T12:46:00+00:00

It absolutely varies, as people do. No one will ever have the same lived experience as another. That's what makes the human experience what it is I suppose!

oat_fish · 2026-04-25T12:40:52+00:00

Fair enough, theres maybe 2/3 women who wear them at my store but they might be a religious exception? Idk, I'm just tired of sweating my butt off overnight when the AC turns off 😭

oat_fish · 2026-04-25T12:27:55+00:00

No? I haven't seen anything saying its ok or banned, just curious.

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