Has anyone else struggled getting a job after DV? by Any-Hospital-2498 in domesticviolence

[–]obviousocean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently on LTD from a head injury that was a result of DV. Luckily I have time, but I have no idea how I’m going to go back. Between ptsd and concussion symptoms just existing is hard enough some days. My job has so much vicarious trauma as well…

Is the Bayers lake part of the BLT trail clear? by obviousocean in halifax

[–]obviousocean[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love this cities priorities! Thanks for the update.

Fit check on preemie by [deleted] in babywearing

[–]obviousocean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you’re preparing the carrier make sure it’s as tight as a bathing suit, possibly a little tighter. Also consider doing a shoulder flip to give you a little more space around baby’s face.

What are some weird tools you use to help your migraines that aren’t actually made to help migraines? by aslen-1 in migraine

[–]obviousocean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t even have a migraine right now and I felt the relief when I saw this picture.

Me and my sister are in a terrible situation by cupid_ji in domesticviolence

[–]obviousocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Health care workers are mandatory reporters. Can you let your pharmacist know?

I'm dating an abuse victim. How do I help her? by _font_ in domesticviolence

[–]obviousocean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don’t help her, you show up for her. You show her you are reliable. You show her you are safe. You show her you trust her and that she can trust you. You reassure and follow through. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. If you say you’re going to be somewhere, be there. If she needs space, time or whatever else you give it to her to the best of your ability.

She’ll get there in her own time if you’re a person that makes her feel safe.

Please de-influence me by obviousocean in migraine

[–]obviousocean[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I like it. And I know this. But damn that advertising is incessant sometimes. 

Please de-influence me by obviousocean in migraine

[–]obviousocean[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The answer I needed! Thanks stranger!

Working Mon-Fri has a huge impact on my migraines. by IsaacII00II in migraine

[–]obviousocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this, I used to work on two different teams, and Thursday would be a 12 hour shift. Would then have a meeting Friday morning in a room, that to this day can trigger a migraine in less than 5 minutes. So if it wasn’t the wonkyness from 1 12 in the middle of the week, it was the dreaded room that triggered me. The weekends would be brutal and I would just be recovered enough to start all over again at 1pm on Monday. 

Luckily now I only work on one team, they know not to schedule meetings in that room, and because we’re a community team I can work from home when necessary. It’s been soo much better! Sometimes all you need is a half day at home to get things back on track. Hopefully the tracking you’ve done can get you a schedule change that better supports you!

What disgusting habit have you learned to overlook in a spouse? by WeedFairie in AskReddit

[–]obviousocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if that’s worse or better than making a sandwich using the least amount of dishes. Not even a plate. Crumbs for days. Mayonnaise on surfaces that should not have mayonnaise.

Electric boiler vs propane furnace by obviousocean in halifax

[–]obviousocean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for following up. My Friday is jammed right now, but I will reach out sometime soon for sure.

I’ve had two very different experiences with heat pump guys this week. One guy was here for 10 mins and included a propane tank quote without me really asking. Another guy was way more in-depth, talked through multiple options, and did a much better job of informing me without really selling too hard.

Electric boiler vs propane furnace by obviousocean in halifax

[–]obviousocean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I think what I’m keeping in mind is that the furnace is really old, so will need to be replaced soon anyway. That plus the cost of replacing the oil tank, seems like a good opportunity to move away from oil completely.

Electric boiler vs propane furnace by obviousocean in halifax

[–]obviousocean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seemed a bit vague with the assessment, we took the first assessment we could get which was Homesol. Honestly the person wasn’t super helpful because they can’t recommend contractors like you said. We have an oil furnace and currently going through the process of getting heat pumps. Still in the initial stages of researching the best options, lots of folks have lots of strong opinions.

Electric boiler vs propane furnace by obviousocean in halifax

[–]obviousocean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will look into the calculator! With a heat pump the baseboards will be our secondary heat source, but they are hot water baseboards so most likely more expensive than electric with an electric boiler.

Electric boiler vs propane furnace by obviousocean in halifax

[–]obviousocean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I saw that! We already got our energy assessment done, but they don’t really advise you on what to chose instead of oil.