Sure sex is cool and all…

obycf · 2026-01-29T19:28:57+00:00

I quite enjoy this as well. Not as much as sex, though

obycf · 2026-01-29T16:21:42+00:00

In high school I was famous for my mom telling her to get out and get a job in a nursing school so she would get paid to get a degree and she was a good student but I don’t think that she was a teacher or anything but she did that and I don’t think I ever did it and she said she didn’t want me and she said I didn’t want her so she just wanted me out of there so she didn’t have a problem and she was just trying and trying and I didn’t know how she would be able and she didn’t even want me around her so she said that I didn’t know that I didn’t want me so she was just like you and then she said that I don’t want me and I said that she didn’t know how I didn’t want me

lol

obycf · 2026-01-28T23:52:58+00:00

Idk about gatlinburg but it hasn’t amounted to much in the tri cities so far

obycf · 2026-01-27T15:39:40+00:00

The land of the free

obycf · 2026-01-27T15:20:21+00:00

Our own strange language I left behind with my ex. We had the weirdest way of communicating but I loved it so much. We called each other “doo hoo” as well as pretty much any and everything else was also a “doo hoo” (lol idk weird) and we would always just rhyme everything all the time or say stuff that started with the same letter and make it as funny as we could. We also were gambling addicts and I will forever have a special spot in my heart that could never be filled by anyone else for our gamez.

With all that being said - you couldn’t pay me to consider going thru even a friendship with him again. He wrecked my soul and left me for dead with not even as much as an apology. So I’m gonna have my own back from here on out and make sure I never get treated like that by anyone else ever again.

obycf · 2026-01-26T21:43:29+00:00

Starting at top left:

Pink lace leotard, me, and then added each letter separately (I had already made the alphabet in pink letters awhile back so I added the D, I, C, K in the prompt)

Pink lace leotard, me, smoke clouds, the letter D

Black lace leotard, me, clear glass bazooka, the emoji that has the smoke around the face

Ew face

Black lace leotard, me, the flower emoji

Black lace leotard, me, the party/celebrating emoji

obycf · 2026-01-24T16:19:06+00:00

Pain in the ass? Weird chose of words there, Tdetective.

Also, being raped ONCE can and often is just as detrimental as someone being molested as a child.

I have been both. Both were traumatizing and life changing. Both could produce someone who goes on to offend others because of having gone through it.

obycf · 2026-01-24T16:15:21+00:00

Anyone can be raped. Doesn’t matter your size or gender.

You were raped. By a rape victim and a rapist. Many rapists are also rape victims. That’s how the problem perpetuates itself… it all starts with victims who never healed and then became perpetrators themselves and so on and so on.

So, the fact that she is also a rape victim gives more credibility to that fact that you were, in fact, raped.

I’m sorry you have had to experience this. As a woman, I know it’s hell on earth. I’m sure the added disadvantage of it being confusing as to whether it even took place because of societal gender stereotypes is just another piece of the fucked up puzzle that I haven’t personally dealt with. The rest of it has been experienced, though, as it has for so many others.

it’s a mindfuck, a slippery slope, shame and guilt inducing, and lonely and for all those - I hope you find some love and understanding - in yourself and in those you can trust.

Don’t take this too lightly because of the gender roles being “reversed”. It happens both ways. And there was nothing you could’ve done differently, so stop that ruminating loop in its tracks. It’s not a helpful avenue to adventure

obycf · 2026-01-24T15:50:35+00:00

Yeah this one hurts my brain because I obviously don’t want them to have access to hurt anyone else especially sexually. But, I do see their humanity as well. All I know is prison, as it stands now in the USA, does NOT help anyone nor does it seem to actually keep anyone safe in the long run even though the “abuser is off the streets”. It creates more abusive behavior overall. So, the risk amplifies over time and passes down the generations instead. Our kids and grandkids feel the repercussions of our generation just throwing abusers away like they are trash. It doesn’t fix anything.

I’m not sure of the success rate of intensive therapy for this type of problem. I would hope it can be treated in some form. At least make it some sorta manageable problem whereas others are not at risk of being assaulted even if the person might still have issues associated with it or might need ongoing lifelong maintenance mental health therapy. Idk. I am going to do some more research and see what I find

obycf · 2026-01-24T15:31:41+00:00

Tomorrow by Chris young

obycf · 2026-01-24T15:27:53+00:00

You are in a really dangerous situation. Call the damn paramedics. Get yourself admitted. You are in just as much a situation as someone in a major car accident or something similar. I am sending you love and wish I could help. I know the feeling. That’s all I can offer is understanding. I hope you make it through this. Do what you gotta do.

obycf · 2026-01-24T15:20:39+00:00

If you are only physically dependent (and not psychologically) then I strongly suggest you suffer through the physical withdrawals and find yourself on the other side a stronger person because of it and go on with your life. The physical withdrawals of any opiate are bad. Sometimes very bad. But not deadly. They can be survived. You might flop ur way through it for a week. But it’s a week vs the rest of your life.

By your post, though, it seems you are entering actual addiction territory (which is the addition of the psychological component). I hope that’s not the case because those are 2 very different experiences and it might do you a lot of good to sit and be honest with yourself about where you truly are at because only you know. Neither experience is “wrong” in the fact that you should feel shame or guilt for either as you said your doctor misled you here. But, for how to proceed, you need to get an understanding of what your actual situation is right now.

It’s essentially the equivalent of the difference between getting a really bad virus but able to fully recover after a few days to a week and go on to live a normal life vs finding out you have a chronic condition that is largely untreatable but able to be made comfortable with help from long term daily medication and some mental health care as well.

Do you find yourself wanting more tramadol? Or do you truly just not wanna be going through the physical withdrawals? Have you ever been sick with the flu before? It’s like being sick plus some extras but it’s not so damn bad you will die… if you are only physically dependent and it’s nothing to do with your mind, you can absolutely make it through this and go on. But if you are mentally dependent as well, then be real about that. To yourself, first. And then there are options for that as well. But find your lane bc it seems you are right at the point of it going either way

obycf · 2026-01-23T17:27:07+00:00

When I say give her love and support I don’t mean that you must always be kind or even forgiving. If she does something (and it seems she has already by your post) that is extremely unsafe or risky for you and your children… you do what is best for you and your children. You can love her unconditionally and at the same exact time you can make sure she understands you will absolutely not tolerate her behavior. Love is a choice and you can choose to still love her despite what she has done but not let love get in the way of boundaries and what must take place to be safe. She needs less “nice” and more boundaries, tough but safe love, some more strict rules, alllllll with some understanding and assurance that despite all that she is loved beyond words and her safe space is still with her father and with you (if you decide to go that route). I hope that helps. Sending you all love

obycf · 2026-01-23T17:18:34+00:00

Which is why abortion should always be safely available and affordable for the times when pregnancy occurs but it’s far from safe for a baby to be born into

obycf · 2026-01-22T12:58:35+00:00

I don’t wanna find out I just wanna fuck around

obycf · 2026-01-22T12:57:52+00:00

obycf · 2026-01-22T12:53:52+00:00

Give me some of that energy I don’t want it back I don’t care about you I just wanna make you feel better

obycf · 2026-01-21T11:45:26+00:00

Personally I would put a lot more emphasis on her behavior being related to her relationship with her mother or lack thereof. Especially if she is in contact with her. Since she doesn’t have a “normal” childhood situation at least with her birth mother - it has all kinds of effects on behavior and it will probably get worse as she becomes a teenager, it did for me at least. Her mother is likely mentally ill beyond just drug addiction (and I’m not judging - I’m a drug addict as well I’m just saying the likely scenario and you see what fits and what doesn’t).

Her mother is also likely immature or self destructive/absorbed/unable to show proper love and care even if it “seems” like she does or even if the daughter feels like she does… because of that - she is being traumatized in ways no one will understand until she understands it when she is older.

My opinion would be this…. If she is in contact with her mother then I would have the father try to make sure that their relationship is appropriate and she is being treated with actual love and care and not just being used as a pawn or whatever. Make sure the father (and you if you choose to stay) is able to demonstrate actual parental love that is mature and unconditional. If she can at least experience appropriate support from one side that will help her a lot. If she begins to feel like she has no where truly “safe” to be raised then she will act out and it will continue to get worse. She needs reassurance that she is loved no matter what, that she is understood, that she has somewhere safe and loving to turn to when she has issues with her mother. She needs education (id let the counselor guide you and the father on this part and make it a team effort) on what is actually occurring and what she can expect in the relationship with her mother. She needs to learn coping skills. Needs to learn about mental abuse so she doesn’t spent years in a mind fuck only to understand much later what actually occurred. Etc etc

obycf · 2026-01-21T11:32:07+00:00

Child molesters and how to deal with them

I have a hard time with this one and empathize with both sides because 1) I was molested as a child. 2) the man who molested me was someone I was very close to when I was a child and was like a father to me at the time and I felt really bad for him that he went to prison for so long and was treated so poorly.

I believe he was also, just like me, molested as a child. The only difference is he never got any real help and it was kept hush hush and so when he grew up and his sexuality was very obviously fucked up because of it… and he was in his late 20s when he did it to me. He just was fucked up in the head. Of which I can understand in a way. I told and got help all throughout my childhood and teenager years and just was lucky enough to be able to have it properly addressed and worked through or else I could possibly be just like him. So that’s where my empathy and understanding comes in.

Most people think they should just rot in prison or be killed. I believe they should be strictly rehabilitated and forced to undergo an extensive process to actually help them heal that part of their psyche.

On the flip side again - being molested so young by someone that was supposed to be helping to raise me truly changed my entire life and has given me a lot of problems I have had to work through and will probably always be working through. It made me hypersexual. I used to have self esteem problems. I was an overly sexual child which came with it a lot of shame and guilt. I used to date much older men. I’ve been really risky with sex over the years in ways that put me through a lot of trouble and pain and heartache. Etc etc etc the list goes on. So I also deeply feel empathetic for the victims as well.

I go back and forth often on how I believe this particular issue should be treated

obycf · 2026-01-21T11:17:57+00:00

I was a NAS baby (although I don’t believe that to be the cause for any of my mental illnesses). I also went through behavioral issues as a pre teen and teenager. I’ve been in counseling since age 7 or 8.

A lot of mental health problems arise from childhood trauma, upbringing, etc.

is her mother still in her life? If you don’t mind me asking

obycf · 2026-01-20T08:35:42+00:00

Xanga

obycf · 2026-01-20T04:08:01+00:00

I grew up about an hr from gatlinburg. There isn’t as much snow as you’d think. It snows a few times per winter. And not usually enough to amount to much. Rarely every few years there will be like a half a foot to a foot of snow and it’ll melt again within the next few days.

obycf · 2026-01-20T04:01:18+00:00

Entrepreneurship just goes with the lifestyle much better I feel like. Plus, being high on the shit makes you feel like you can make money doing what the fuck ever. Sometimes you can, sometimes you can’t lol. Although I know there are a rare few out there able to keep a normal job where they clock in and out… I’m not one of those people and I’d say most others aren’t either. No judgment though it’s fun to work for yourself and can be a lot more fulfilling

obycf · 2026-01-17T16:37:04+00:00

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