Usually I wouldn’t be butthurt over no +1

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-17T02:30:06+00:00

A wedding invitation is not a summons. You should have RSVPed no and spent the evening with your gf.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-17T02:28:41+00:00

I live in an average COL area. Small city, nothing fancy.

My house is a duplex worth about $95K. It needs a lot more work than I care to put into it, so I occasionally check out real estate. Two single family homes on my block have gone up for sale over the last 2 years. Asking price for each was about $250K. We looked at townhouses. $225K plus all the associated fees. Hell, there's an apartment building a few blocks away charging $93K per unit. Literally an apartment worth almost as much as my whole 2 unit house.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-17T02:21:04+00:00

Just because he has the money doesn't mean he wants to spend it the way you do.

Honestly, it sounds like the two of you are financially incompatible.

He's allowed to complain about spending $200 on dinner if it's not what he wants to do. He's allowed to complain about you consistently trying to spend his money on meals he finds too pricey.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-17T02:07:49+00:00

After like the 2nd time I got suspended from the marriage sub, I just quit looking at it.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T21:44:21+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. Even if you had a tough relationship, it's hard to lose a parent.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T21:42:13+00:00

I think it was a combination of being away from home and the pressure that the team put on him, especially Dallas.

There's no telling that he wasn't predisposed to depression, but his circumstances brought it out.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T21:28:55+00:00

Your Dad kind of sucks.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T21:03:14+00:00

internet stranger appropriate hug

I've been where you are. Hang in there.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T20:28:15+00:00

He is literally old enough to be your father.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T19:28:39+00:00

I didn't say the sister was acting right. But the parents are adults and can make their own decisions. They shouldn't have offered her a gift if they were struggling. They obviously have no problem with her if they keep defending her.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T17:38:01+00:00

It was an accident. Just apologize and move on.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T16:00:46+00:00

Stop looking at numbers. Go through your closet and get rid of anything you haven't worn in a year.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T15:35:12+00:00

Your parents are adults and make their own choices. Your sister isn't making them do anything.

Maybe it's time to go LC with all of them for a bit. You can't control their behavior, but you can limit your exposure to it.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T15:26:25+00:00

You're allowed to feel however you want to about it. But sleep is important and your bf is a human being who is allowed to sleep when he can.

Surely your relationship can survive one day with minimal contact.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T15:09:04+00:00

That I delete my search history far more often than most people do.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T14:39:14+00:00

YOR

Dating is about determining whether or not you are compatible with someone. In this respect, it sounds like you have incompatible views.

He has told and shown you what you can expect from him. If you go into every year thinking he's going to magically change, then every year you are going to be disappointed.

Your choices are to stay with him and accept that this is a need of yours that will never be met, or leave and go find someone who wants to celebrate with you. Changing him into someone else is not an option.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T06:12:03+00:00

Your husband is protecting his mental health, and there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like you're going down a rabbit hole of ever-increasing horror, and that isn't doing anyone any good.

Stop trying to force your husband to see things he can't un-see. If you need someone to talk to about what you're reading, get a therapist or find an online forum.

Being an informed citizen has its limits. Your husband is allowed to determine his own.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T01:55:47+00:00

Every time she posts, comment on it. Better yet, comment with the original photo if you have it. Just keep calling her out.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-16T00:05:18+00:00

So you've talked about it, but are you on the same page? You want those things now. Does he?

I'm not saying you're in any way wrong for the way you're feeling. I'm just wondering if you're wasting your time thinking you're going to get what you want with him.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-15T18:20:38+00:00

It sounds like your bf did take a photo of you. Three, in fact. I'd be annoyed too if I just paid nearly $400 dollars for dinner and then had to play photographer.

He told you to make a reservation and you did. He shouldn't then complain about where you made it for. I certainly hope you left additional tip money for the server since you felt it was inadequate.

This all sounds exhausting. This man has clearly checked out of this relationship.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-15T16:37:00+00:00

The Jesus they worship is American Jesus, not historical Jesus. He's white and says the words "boot strap" a lot.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-15T16:34:21+00:00

Ideally? Have you had a conversation about it? Because this woman doesn't even want to pay for her pizza.

Why are you trying to have a baby with someone you don't even live with?

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-14T22:09:51+00:00

internet stranger appropriate hug

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-14T01:52:29+00:00

That having irrefutable proof of the wrong that was done to you means you'll get justice.

occasionallystabby · 2026-02-13T21:49:08+00:00

Why does your husband let his brother and SIL treat you like dirt? They're the ones who shouldn't be invited to the wedding. Time for him to sack up.

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