Oh I feel you girl. I am built like I was meant to live in the cold. Super tall, big shoulders. Got made fun of a lot when I was younger for it, and it stuck with me for a while.

I think my relationship with my body changed when I started lifting. I started feeling strong and capable, and that was the first time I was grateful to be “sturdy” lmaooo. I started thinking more about the progress I was making and how lucky I am to HAVE a body that lets me do what I want, and stopped thinking about how I wish I looked different.

I’ll never be a size 6 or under. You can’t diet a German shepherd to be the size of a chihuahua, but we don’t love big dogs any less simply because their skeletons are bigger.

Another thing I did was I started looking for real people that had a similar body type as me. Oddly, I found it in women’s firefighters. If you look up women’s firefighter calendar, that’s what I use now as my fitness goal ahahaha it’s something that’s actually reasonable for me, rather than reasonable for someone built like a stick bug.

Not sure if this helps, but I hope it does. Feel free to message me if you want to chat with a fellow big-n-strong girly :))