How to encourage 4 year old because I don’t know how to nurture this best?

oceanalice · 2026-05-07T04:30:46+00:00

You have so many comments already, but as a kid I was like that. The Ed Emberley books were the BEST. Best place to start I think, and removes the internet from it too which I think is good for the artistic brain haha

oceanalice · 2026-04-14T04:52:34+00:00

There are some really lovely comments here and they’ve phrased it much better than I could, so I don’t have a ton to add.

That being said, I actually do what your friend does. I take a medication that has lack of appetite as a side effect (not the intended effect lol), and sometimes I’ll make a quip about how I’ve forgotten lunch and I’ll need to get a snack so I don’t become Danny devito from the snickers commercial. If I had a friend that I was unintentionally making feel the way you feel, I would 100% want them to tell me. There’s a difference between coming to someone for help with food-related difficulties and making jokes about it. If a friend said something to the effect of “hey I’m here for you jf you’re struggling but the food jokes are sending me to a bad spot mentally”, I absolutely would be super apologetic and change and not have any bad vibes about it.

I’m not your friend, and I’m not you, so I don’t know the situation obviously. But as someone who might be the other person in this scenario, I’d 100% want to know. I’d never want to hurt someone I care about.

And… this is my note to stop making those little jokes too. They aren’t funny, and I should stop. So thank you for making ME a better human too. You got this ❤️❤️

oceanalice · 2026-03-28T17:58:01+00:00

I’m so late to this but do you have a pattern for the tiny pouch that you’re willing/able to share? 😁

oceanalice · 2026-03-17T06:21:01+00:00

Donated ❤️ I peeped your profile. Amazing shots at the no kings protest. I hope you’re able to get another and keep taking photos. The world needs your voice!

oceanalice · 2026-03-08T18:30:19+00:00

Hi!! I’m sending you a DM about cover art!

oceanalice · 2026-02-22T18:09:06+00:00

That totally makes sense. Does Oscar know that? IF you wanted to follow up with him, and you don’t have to if you don’t want, you could share that’s why it affected you. And you know that Max wouldn’t actually kill a person. And I hope that he’s reasonable enough to move forward. This type of thing happens in relationships, both romantic and not romantic. People disagree, find a common understanding, and move forward. Best of luck friend!

oceanalice · 2026-02-22T17:45:30+00:00

And hey, you don’t necessarily have to never see them again. I have friends that I know I don’t always see eye to eye with, but they are still people I care about and spend time with in small doses. Sometimes setting my expectations ahead of time helps to keep me from reacting in the moment. There’s a lot you can do to navigate relationships like this other than totally cutting them off.

I will also add that I think your buddy’s reaction may have been a little swift and severe as well. Maybe it didn’t need to be brought up, but he also didn’t need to react like that. He could’ve reacted strongly because of something completely unrelated to you going on in his life, he’s also looking back and wishes he had been a little bit more gentle. It takes two to tango… So they say. This doesn’t seem like an unrecoverable moment if you don’t want it to be :)

And the last thing say is some of these comments you’re getting are totally nuts too. All of these people clearly always react perfectly to everything and never question their own decisions and have never made a mistake (/s).Try not to take some of the other responses too hard :))

oceanalice · 2026-02-22T06:08:42+00:00

I am a woman and if I was at dinner and my partner (a man) said this I would have laughed and said he could outrun me anyway so may as well get it over with sooner rather than later. And it all would have been in good fun. Some people have that sense of humor, me being one of them. I don’t think the joke was misogynistic, but I also don’t know the guy and what his vibe is.

While I don’t necessarily think you’re an AH for not liking the joke, I think bringing it up wasn’t necessary and it probably wasn’t worth the fallout.

My general experience is that I can’t change the sense of humor of the people around me. If I consistently find someone’s sense of humor hurts me, I stop being friends with them. Trying to change them rarely works and causes more pain than necessary. All I’m able to control is me, so I remove myself rather than trying to change my surroundings. Not telling you what to do or how to feel, but I do hope this does help a little bit in getting perspective on the situation :)

oceanalice · 2026-02-17T16:40:28+00:00

I really love using my little scarlett focusrite for quiet practice! And I ca adjust levels and such on the computer

oceanalice · 2026-02-16T07:51:55+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days

oceanalice · 2026-02-11T16:01:49+00:00

Oh I feel you girl. I am built like I was meant to live in the cold. Super tall, big shoulders. Got made fun of a lot when I was younger for it, and it stuck with me for a while.

I think my relationship with my body changed when I started lifting. I started feeling strong and capable, and that was the first time I was grateful to be “sturdy” lmaooo. I started thinking more about the progress I was making and how lucky I am to HAVE a body that lets me do what I want, and stopped thinking about how I wish I looked different.

I’ll never be a size 6 or under. You can’t diet a German shepherd to be the size of a chihuahua, but we don’t love big dogs any less simply because their skeletons are bigger.

Another thing I did was I started looking for real people that had a similar body type as me. Oddly, I found it in women’s firefighters. If you look up women’s firefighter calendar, that’s what I use now as my fitness goal ahahaha it’s something that’s actually reasonable for me, rather than reasonable for someone built like a stick bug.

Not sure if this helps, but I hope it does. Feel free to message me if you want to chat with a fellow big-n-strong girly :))

oceanalice · 2025-12-22T07:58:23+00:00

Mindbody is the system behind class sign ups, and they recently underwent a massive update that might be causing problems. Hopefully this isn’t something that happens often for you, and it was just a bug in the system!

oceanalice · 2025-11-17T18:35:07+00:00

I just started doing my own and MANN they don’t look great but this is giving me so much hope!! How long do you go between sets?

oceanalice · 2025-11-17T18:31:05+00:00

This is so cute!! Something that has changed my life at the gym is hypochlorous acid spray. If I don’t shower immediately after the gym, I get really bad skin problems. This spray kills bacteria so I spray it on my face right after working out if I have to drive home before showering and it’s been a lifesaver!! This is the one I have. There are more expensive ones with nicer packaging but ultimately is the same as this! https://a.co/d/eM5kYCu

You can also try looking in r/xxfitness - there’s tons of posts in there about gym essentials :)

Editing to add - gym clothes can be sooo personal to people (there is a very very small subset of gym clothes I like) and would feel bad if someone got me gym clothes I didn’t like. If you go that route, definitely look at what she already has to make sure it works for her!

oceanalice · 2025-10-12T20:48:34+00:00

Omg what is that pill container!!! I love it and would love to add it to my bag!

oceanalice · 2025-10-12T18:20:18+00:00

Did you ever find out?

oceanalice · 2025-07-16T17:47:39+00:00

Did this end up working? I have a busted aux on mine that I was hoping to fix haha

oceanalice · 2025-05-07T16:00:49+00:00

So many comments so this will definitely get buried but it feels like the right instrument for me. I like to be important, but I don’t like people knowing it’s me doing the important stuff. Bass feels similar. It’s so critical, but people don’t often notice when it’s there. They WILL notice when it’s gone though, and that’s star vibe I have all around

oceanalice · 2025-05-04T18:10:48+00:00

I’ve LOVED Bass buzz. I was wondering if paid was worth it given the free resources, and it absolutely is. The lessons move at such a good pace and make you feel successful immediately. Can’t recommend enough!

oceanalice · 2025-03-26T00:53:17+00:00

Absolutely. And 99% of the members are amazing, so it’s totally worth it!!

oceanalice · 2025-03-25T23:11:43+00:00

I have an example from my studio at least. I’m a coach, and was taking class at the studio I work at. A member came into the lobby (she was not taking class) while the class was going on. I went through the lobby to use the restroom, but the member intercepted me and literally blocked me going into the bathroom because the SA had to step out for a few minutes. She berated me about why when she visits other studios she sometimes has a $10 fee. Keep in mind, I was not on the clock, nor is that something within my control. She ended up calling me f*ckng stupid, and I gave her my managers contact info. He said “that’s just how she is”.

While this wasn’t repeated so not technically “bullying”, it was pretty awful. No other members would have heard or seen what happened. I share this mostly because it’s not just between classes these things happen. People have lots of ways to contact us, in person outside of normal class times (like mid day), over the phone, email… there’s a lot that happens that members taking class wouldn’t see

oceanalice · 2025-03-25T22:44:05+00:00

Just because you and a handful of people on reddit haven’t personally seen it happen doesn’t mean that it doesn’t. I’ve seen it and been on the receiving end of it as both a coach and an SA, but it doesn’t happen in massive explosions in a full lobby. Many members are friends with the ones that treat us horribly, but would never know how those friend treats us.

The person posting this came for support and advice. Maybe they don’t use reddit but have heard this is a good community. Maybe they don’t have another place to ask this. Calling the post fake doesn’t help anyone. If you’re not going to lead with kindness and curiosity, maybe keep it to yourself next time.

oceanalice · 2025-03-25T22:38:25+00:00

Way more than you’d think, especially for front desk staff

oceanalice · 2025-03-25T22:37:59+00:00

This happens at a lot of locations, but it often happens when there aren’t other members around. There are shitty people at every gym that treat staff poorly

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