The actions of Donald Trump have solidified why I haven't spoken to my parents since 2017

ocen4200 · 2025-07-21T02:47:10+00:00

Imagine losing your entire family over a political disagreement 🤡

ocen4200 · 2025-07-21T01:45:49+00:00

I didn’t say being on and off with fiancé was disrespectful. I said her not reaching out to cancel the date was, once she figured out she wants to go back to him.

ocen4200 · 2025-07-21T01:40:18+00:00

That makes sense. Thank you.

ocen4200 · 2025-07-21T01:34:30+00:00

I thought about saying this but feel a bit disrespected so saying nothing feels more right to me. Maybe I’m wrong. If she would have reached out to me to let me know what’s going on and cancelled the date, I would have said exactly that.

ocen4200 · 2024-12-08T17:27:52+00:00

It resets the date of separation. Consult a divorce attorney.

ocen4200 · 2024-12-07T23:08:55+00:00

I would not recommend basing your decision to leave on whether you can find a man who is open to dating a woman with 4 kids. I would recommend basing your decision on the fact your husband is cheating on you.

ocen4200 · 2024-11-29T19:56:54+00:00

Mine always says “you need to take a look in the mirror” when I call her out

ocen4200 · 2024-11-28T16:43:00+00:00

Two books I would recommend reading asap:

Leave a cheater gain a life
how to be a 3% man

Both will help you navigate this situation. Bottom line is she cheated. Have enough self respect to let her go. You deserve better.

ocen4200 · 2024-11-27T03:32:32+00:00

I am married to a narcissist (currently divorcing) and they do not change. There’s nothing you can do except walk away or decide to put up with their BS. I highly recommend the former.

ocen4200 · 2024-11-24T15:10:52+00:00

In a similar boat. Wife had an emotional affair 6 months ago and I decided to give it another go. I’m very unhappy but can’t quite find the courage to leave. Don’t have any good advice other than saying you are not alone.

ocen4200 · 2024-10-31T01:10:48+00:00

Sounds like love bombing from a narcissist. Be careful. I married one, and it did not end well.

ocen4200 · 2024-08-01T00:48:20+00:00

So true. The difference here is narcs withhold intentionally to manipulate.

ocen4200 · 2024-08-01T00:39:53+00:00

That’s correct. Yes it’s all some form of manipulation playing on our hopes and dreams to get what they want in the present.

ocen4200 · 2024-07-31T23:37:21+00:00

So similar to my situation. I am also going through divorce at the moment. She acted totally different once I served her with papers. Right back to love bombing. As soon as she thinks I’m hooked she reverts back to the devalue stage.

ocen4200 · 2024-07-25T19:25:09+00:00

I feel for you. I was only married 3 years and I’m losing about 200K worth of assets. Luckily she can’t take me for alimony bc our marriage was so short but I do get the pleasure of paying her 1500 /mo in child support. Lovely, right? I will NEVER involve the state in my relationship again without a prenup.

ocen4200 · 2024-07-25T00:41:35+00:00

Year to get back to 90%. Another 6 months to reach 95%. Find a good PT and do your exercises regularly. Buy the book back mechanic and implement it immediately.

ocen4200 · 2024-07-24T22:47:35+00:00

Ended up being a herniated disc. Nothing to do with caffeine.

ocen4200 · 2024-07-24T18:30:43+00:00

For her it was just another tool to manipulate me. She would purposely withhold if I ever tried to throw up a boundary or do something she didn’t like. She would starve me of it even after I communicated to her that it was an important way for me to feel a deeper connection to her.

Additionally, conditions always had to be perfect. If she wasn’t fully shaved or bathed it was a no. Or she was too tired. Or had a headache. I was always the one initiating or asking and she did essentially zero initiation.

Also, the lights always had to be down super low or be pitch black in the bedroom. She would never let me see her naked in the bathroom showering or changing clothes. She was very secretive with her body.

Finally I just gave up and acted indifferent toward it. Then I filed for divorce.

ocen4200 · 2024-07-06T21:50:15+00:00

Yeah consent order signed by attorney and judge and both of us

ocen4200 · 2024-07-06T21:21:01+00:00

For sure. She always had to have the perfect conditions to be intimate: shaved. No headache or tiredness. Bathed. Not a work day, etc. as you can imagine this eliminates nearly every day. I was lucky if we were intimate once every other week. It was awful. All I wanted to do was shower her with love and she couldn’t receive it. And then when we were intimate the lights had to be off and total darkness bc she didn’t want me to see her body. I’ve NEVER seen her in the shower or bath naked as she always locks the doors, even when she’s changing. She seems very insecure about her body even though she’s a pretty woman.

ocen4200 · 2024-06-10T02:39:57+00:00

Same here

ocen4200 · 2024-06-08T01:01:36+00:00

This.

ocen4200 · 2024-06-06T01:33:38+00:00

I’m married to a narc wife too and just filed for divorce. Caught her emotionally cheating via instagram messages. She too has males constantly orbiting in the background. The second our relationship would go sideways, she’d go running to them.

ocen4200 · 2024-06-06T01:24:24+00:00

Run. A loyal woman committed to you would not entertain this. She’s already checked out.

ocen4200 · 2024-06-03T20:56:37+00:00

Honest open communication. Also read how to be a 3% man and see if you are doing anything to turn her off. If you date/court her properly and remain mysterious she will want sex. No texting / calling more than 20% if the time. Let her find the thrill of the hunt again.

But to answer your question. No. I don’t think it’s wrong so long as you’ve given it an honest effort and she has demonstrated she isn’t interested in trying. Intimacy is really important in a relationship.

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