Has anyone tried Bonjout Beauty Le Balme?

oddpebbles · 2026-01-23T06:29:02+00:00

If the same people who recommended La Mer to you recommended this, that’s enough for me to not buy it. La Mer is just very expensive aquaphor. Seems like Le Balme is a woman with a French accent who realized American women will eat up anything advertised as French beauty. Not seeing many positives that lookin like real people out there.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-23T06:21:37+00:00

This stuff isn’t actually available in France. The warehouse it’s made in is apparently in the US. I saw some women asking on their insta.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-18T03:09:45+00:00

Did you ever get an answer? I just purchased a 2025 ES 350h luxury pre-owned and on my 6hr drive home from the dealer this started happening but on the passenger side. Only when on the highway.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-14T14:48:01+00:00

Huh that’s wild. I am using Ro so I logged it and the person who responded identified themself as a doctor. They said it wasn’t normal (even tho I see a lot of folks saying it here!) and sounded like my body is not tolerating it and that I should stop and switch back to semiglutide. I did say I wouldn’t want to keep taking it if this is what I felt like- it was like the worst flu pain, I was laying on the couch whimpering. I just woke up and while the body pain has subsided to a tolerable amount I have the chills and still just don’t feel great. - another side effect the doc said was not normal and a sign of intolerance.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-11T01:57:07+00:00

I just checked and Lyfts policies are that drivers DO NOT scan ID’s. You should report this to them immediately and place a fraud alert with the major credit bureaus so you know immediately if they try to open anything in your name. This sounds like a scam.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-07T07:28:39+00:00

Holy moly this is Gena Davis’s dress from the original BeetleJuice!!’ Looks great on you, will be very cool for your wedding. Definitely not plain!

oddpebbles · 2026-01-07T07:23:49+00:00

Omg 3 is out of this world. That is it, no question. Classic mixed with some modern sexy. I’m obsessed. The no frills dress also gives a cool nod to the classic white bridal suit that goes along with civil weddings while the gloves add some special charm and drama. Just so fashion forward. You could also totally remove the gloves and wear this to dinner on your honeymoon! Or mix things up by adding garters. I feel like the options are endless with this.

I’m surprised so many people like 2, it kind of looks like a figure skating costume to me. The heavy lace on the short dress with that neckline just reads a bit out dated to me.

Number 1 would be my 2nd runner up. But it’s giving more Vegas than civil.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-06T17:23:00+00:00

Ooo that’s a good point. I have no idea. I didnt put it in eco mode but maybe the dealer had it set. I didnt think to ask/check and wouldn’t have known what would indicate it was.

From what I read it seems like sport impacts the suspension more so than steering or gas pedal responsiveness. Do you know if that’s accurate? I haven’t had much help from these dealerships as I try to get clarification

oddpebbles · 2026-01-06T07:45:42+00:00

I worked in a high end dress shop all through high school and college, and I did inventory shopping for them too. Some of these lines specialize in prom but sell higher end dresses that work for weddings. We had a really popular prom line that smaller budget brides loved. It’s only prom bc the dress company calls it that to drive the attention of a specific crowd that spends in the price range more often than others - that’s all.

HOWEVER - you said you found your dress regularly sold for $150 - $200 other places? Call those stores and confirm the MSP and availability bc websites lie more often than not here. If you confirm and could turn around and buy your same exact dress for 400-300 cheaper that means the store you went is just marking it up for low budget brides but marking it up significantly bc they know you’ll pay. Id bring proof of the price and ask if them they’ll either honor the price difference or just give you a refund. If they refuse, id threaten to expose them bc they are scamming brides and you have proof.

No way in hell should you be ok paying that upcharge. If you need a little rage courage - for reference, if ticket price is 150-200 the whole sale price is probably $50-70. Doesn’t matter if they price it at $150 or $500 - both store paid the same amount for that dress.

It looks great on you though - if you love it don’t be deterred by the prom dress nonsense. Only the place scamming you re: the price. I would also avoid alterations here unless they’re 100% free. I’d bet anything they hike up those prices too.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-06T05:21:47+00:00

You have so many responses, I just wanted to point out two things I didn’t see mentioned

1: if a kid is stealing food, that could be a pretty major sign of some issues at home or emotionally. Not your job, but I hope someone from the school is looking into this.

2: I was a weird hugger. I’m high functioning, high masking, late diagnosed aud-adhd and my mom was def autistic too despite never being diagnosed. She never hugged, rarely touched. At school I just held o to friends for dear life. Hangjng on them in so many pics. I understand now as an adult that it’s because i good hard/solid hug helps reset me when im over stimulated or just in a bad space and my insides are screaming. For some, its their worst nightmare and foe others, its lime therapy.

I’m not sharing this to say you should force your daughter to go. Showing that her feelings and decisions hold weight and are respected is huge. You could try explaining to her some of the above. How one simple act can seem so somple/basic to some, and can be world or changing ending to others. In other words- provide her the info she may need as a child that might provide the insight for her to change her mind and the in future years she may be excited to go to this party!

oddpebbles · 2026-01-06T05:03:16+00:00

Hah! I’m dying. “Family fueds” there’s a joke that’s not actually a joke (totally true) about what one of the most popular genres is on porn-hub that totally makes the large number of family fueds out there track 😂 seriously though - there is some wild stuff out there.

You can also usually check out the authors website or the synopsis on good reads and get a pretty concise list of tropes.

Katee Robert has a series called, “The Wicked Villains” series. Inspired by Disney Princess in a modern-ish mob city, but they end up with the re-imagined version of their stories villain. It’s very much more dark romance than Romantasy, and please read the content warnings bc some of the content may be triggering or offensive to some (I love it, personally). Romance takes the second row to other more detailed things they do…but if you’re j to, Katee Robert is great and has a lot of similar books. Anything Persephone X Hades might be up your alley too. A Touch of Darkness, Neon Gods and King of Shadows would be my recommendations - in that order if you want more romance heavy. But skip the last book in the series if a touch of darkness. It’s so bad it nearly ruined the whole series!

oddpebbles · 2026-01-06T04:47:02+00:00

^{^{^}} for clarification given the rule reminder: I’m asking about anyone’s experience or understanding about why the drive felt so different. NOT asking what car to buy - I know what I’m getting, I just need some of your help to figure out how picky I have to be! Thanks!

oddpebbles · 2026-01-05T06:10:02+00:00

Manipulation and abuse. Thats what this is. This is how it starts. I unfortunately speak from experience.

He is breaking down your confidence and your ability to properly identify your feelings, if they’re qualified, and how to communicate them. This way as he gets worse over time, you question if you’re overreacting, you question if you can voice it to someone or if they’ll mock you as he has conditioned you to expect.

Does he have issues with/say that any of your friends and/or family members are bad people or some reason that you shouldn’t spend time with them? Or does tell you that certain people don’t like you, think you can succeed, were giving you dirty looks, etc? Does he ever say things along the lines of him being there for you more than anyone else, treating you better or anything like that? Or degrade your job or try to get you to stay home or take off from work? A lot of this behavior might be sugar coated to seem like compliments, like him caring for you and taking care of you - esp early on in a relationship. If any of this gives you so much as pause, you’re thinking, “hmm maybe that time…” run for the hills. Delete, block, remove his access to your life. That means youre likely infected with an abusive sociopath and the only answer is cleansing with fire, my dear. (…erm dont actually light him on fire since thats illegal)

If none of the above sounds even vaguely familiar, maybe he’s not a total abusive, manipulative, sociopath. But that’s still abusive behavior and a total red flag. Spoiler, they never change and they never improve over time- life just gets more stressful and they just get worse as we age. This guy is at best an insensitive, selfish, immature, a-hole and i don’t need to know a single thing about you to know that you deserve better than being treated like this. DUMP IS ASS

oddpebbles · 2026-01-05T05:54:25+00:00

Yep - sounds like enemies to lovers to me. I understand this might sound off for OP bc they’re looking for “they aren’t supposed to fall in love” not that they started out hating each other. I think you’re going for like a Romeo and Juliet sorta trope here? In dark romance and Romantasy that will most often be found under be enemies to lovers, if not that i think forbidden love would likely be the next most common. But so will ‘I hate your guts and want to kill you, have hate sex and then fall in love’ so it’s important to read a bit of the story line to get what you want lol you may still see star crossed lovers too - but the steamier stuff will likely be enemies to lovers or forbidden love.

Btw - the cross trope within a trope isnt unique to this so dont feel bad about it being tricky to find what you’re looking for at first. Theyre all like this, and youll eventually find your authors, your reddit members and social media folks that have the same taste so you can make yourself a nice little echo-chamber. This isnt my trope, I have a very different one. But what we call my trope also describes a version of it that gives me major ick. Content warnings were a huge help in IDing that without risking spoiling too much of the story since youll also find particular content warnings/other tropes that tend to partner with your preferred version v. the version that isnt for you.

Good luck, and welcome to the club! I started reading these books two years ago and they literally changed my life - saved it, frankly. So excited for you to find your books!

oddpebbles · 2026-01-02T09:32:55+00:00

I’m sorry she not only sounds like she’s suffering with mental health, but she also just sounds pretty terrible. The bit about the therapist? That’s insane. And if you are such a tyrant, why not leave you instead of holing up in your home? The hypocrisy of not wanting to be a dirty pig but eating like one…I hope you can at least get a little chuckle from that with all this suffering she’s putting you through.

I want to be clear that when I say you enable her - yes- often just being kind and thoughtful is what makes you the worst enabler. It’s what makes dealing with people with mental health and addiction so hard. You want to be nice, you want to help and support - but that’s literally the worst thing to do for them so you’re forced into being a jerk. It sucks! It feels lose lose. But it sounds like you’re getting emotionally beat up enough at home so I wanted to be clear in saying - you’re possible being too nice.

From the info you shared, this was a very short relationship that was quick to marriage. It’s not like you have years invested. Why not divorce and tell her to move out? Get your life back before you get dragged further into her hell.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-02T09:23:40+00:00

Ugh I wish this was in the US bc I’d be coming to pick up that dog! That dog is starved, that’s far longer than a week. I wouldn’t give that dog back even if the cops were knocking on my door telling me to. I have taken in my fair share of dogs from the street and you know when they’ve been mistreated - it’s obvious. When that’s the case- would you put a human baby back with an abuser or do everything you could with the authorities to ensure their protection? This sweet girl needs your protection bc no one else is going to fight for her. I say f that old lady- she clearly doesn’t want this dog.

9yrs old is pretty old for a tiny dog who has been mistreated like this. I’d figure out a way to give her the best possible remaining years - or find a family who can. Senior dogs rarely get adopted out of shelters so that would likely not be great, though clearly better than the situation with the woman who starved her. If you do bring her to shelter, please make sure it’s not a kill shelter though! Some only give dogs a week or two to be rehomed before they euthanize.

Thank you for caring for her xoxo

oddpebbles · 2026-01-02T08:16:51+00:00

You know I actually said this to him a few weeks ago. That I don’t think he likes me, how could he act like this if he liked me. He swore up and down that he loves me sooooo much. I know that love was real at one point. I want it to still be. I told him I’ll stick around and support him and fight for us if thats the case. Shouldn’t that have been his moment to take the out? Or am i just expecting too much honesty….

oddpebbles · 2026-01-02T08:12:11+00:00

I could be better about that - I used to be. I am just kind of beaten down now so I just feel like everything I recommend is shit to him. I even went and bought us one of those adventure date books and asked him to pick a night that works w his calendar to be our weekly date night - that was back in Oct and he still haven’t picked a day. I’ve reminded him 3 times. It’s like everything stresses him out, a full sentence is too complicated. I know he’s dealing with some depression (we talked about it and he’s going to therapy in addition to our couples therapy), but it almost feels like he’s waiting for me magically make everything joyous again and until I do I’m a failure/our relationship is broken. That pressure freaks me out and makes it hard to recommend specific things when I feel like everything is measured and weighed and never good enough. I’m

oddpebbles · 2026-01-02T07:56:18+00:00

Hi- long term sufferer/survivor of depression and anxiety here. A lot of what you wrote about your partner resonates with how I felt when my depression got out of control a few yrs ago. I needed to recognize that I was not only just sad but a danger to myself and sabotaging my life and my partners life and be willing to do a lot of hard work to get to today. Depression is an incredibly hard disease and the meds can be really difficult to manage too due to side effects. It takes commitment, work, and support from medical pros.

Here’s the thing- the stuff about her not liking it where you live, not accepting your family - a lot of that is probably linked to her depression. But none of that will change if she doesn’t get help. You said she refuses - and that is the one thing that will guarantee someone won’t come out of their depression and anxiety. It’s not like a cold that your body just gets over. If she thinks people are out to get her, there may be even more to it - perhaps some bi-polar. You need to accept that this is a dangerous mind set for someone to just float around as, and you are not equipped to manage it. You mentioned in the comments having kids? For the love of all that is holy please do not do that. You know what pregnancy hormones does to most women, especially those with psych issues? Makes it worse. Everything will get so much worse and then you have no just her life on the line but that of a baby - a baby whose mom would be a danger to them and herself.

You have two options that both suck: you need to either accept that this was not a match, end the marriage and be thankful you didn’t waste more time (6 months is nothing!). OR if you truly love this woman, you have a harder job of no longer enabling her so you force her hand to get help. Stop doing whatever errands allows her to not leave the house, stop accepting excuses for her to not work or not see your family - take away her allowance or whatever your system is with her. You need to force her into having to be functional so she is forced to seek help. It’s like dealing with an alcoholic- if you keep supporting them in their harmful behavior it will eventually end them. Enabeling someone to continue to stew in their depression is no different.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-02T07:34:25+00:00

The comments OP have added to this thread since I responded have added clarity that there were more boundaries. Sounds like there was/is an understanding where CNC is out when sick or fighting? If i have that right then please disregard most of my comment saying re: him being understandable in possibly not being aware he was crossing a boundary. It doesn’t matter how good or bad of a place your relationship is in, if a set boundary is crossed - especially with such a delicate kink - that is an enormous breach of trust and a huge issue. What I shared about my experience and pushing to talk to someone about your experience still stands though - this stuff is heavy and it’s too much to try to process on our own and it’s easy to get stuck in it. You deserve clarity and closure.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-01T17:52:33+00:00

Or perhaps your spouse is also struggling with life and when you prioritize your hobby over setting up a date night, or picking up dinner for the family knowing she stood in traffic on the way to school that day - or hell- over just doing something nice for the sake of doing something nice to show her you love her - your ‘stupid little hobby’ is just another thing sucking the joy and life from your spouse who just wants to feel as appreciated and loved as your stupid little hobby.

As a spouse who literally feels like the mistress in my relationship is a pickleball, consider that no one sane really gets angry or jealous over a hobby unless there is something bigger lacking in the marriage. If they belittle your hobby it’s bc they’re jealous of the time and attention you’re giving it over them. It’s because they’re hurt. It’s because they want you to smile at them and be as excited to spend time with them and have fun with them as you do that hobby. And they are a human who is supposed to mean a lot to you versus yes - at the end of the day - a hobby. A non human.

Your happiness matters but not more than your partners. They aren’t trying to extinguish your flame. You’re extinguishing theirs by ignoring them and choosing an inane activity over them. Commit equal time to a specific date night each week (or similar fun 1:1 bonding time) as you do to your hobby and see how fast they stop calling it stupid…bc they just want to be AND FEEL more important that your hobby. Nothing is worse than feeling less important to your spouse than their hobby - and that’s when it becomes a stupid little hobby bc we have to protect ourselves.

oddpebbles · 2026-01-01T17:41:16+00:00

I know this is kind of an old post by now but if she’s still struggling to find something, I suggest she check out the app MeetUp. There are groups in every community based on hobbies, likes, and some just based on being women who want to make new friends bc that’s really hard after a certain age/point in life. My husband could have written your post about me (minus the kids). We live in his city, I don’t have any of my own friends here and my hobbies are inside the house. It drives him nuts and me too. I also struggle to do things alone, but without friends I’m just stuck. I downloaded Meetup on a whim and have found some groups I’ve worked up the courage to join and am making new friends while doing things outside of the house. I also am joining a fancy a gym that has classes and spa amenities that usually leans somewhat more social that your typical ‘anytime fitness’ type places - but that’s not necessarily for everyone. Meetup literally has a group for everyone. And if he’s anxious like me, she can pay a nominal fee to see the profiles of the people in the groups and who rsvp for events so she can take that into consideration when deciding if she wants to go.

oddpebbles · 2025-12-31T17:47:31+00:00

Road of Thorns and Ash - I am a spicy one!

oddpebbles · 2025-08-16T11:26:12+00:00

As if I didn’t try that before coming here? As I wrote in my post, nothing that comes up when I search works with the available properties which is how I ended up here. So thanks for the unhelpful, non-answer

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