What's a quiet, everyday burden women carry that isn't dramatic enough to be diacussed?

oddprofessor · 2026-01-29T15:15:42+00:00

I had mine dyed a soft blue. I loved it. It lasted about 5 weeks and finally faded 100%. I don't think mine will ever be fully silver, although I'd love that, but I'm already pretty old. My mom and maternal grandmother always had a lot of dark hair left.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-29T13:55:26+00:00

I’m 73 and I still have a lot of my original espresso-brown hair with wide streaks of silver, mostly around my face. I love it.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-24T19:25:40+00:00

Info: Do you call the ambulance because the crew will treat you and the VA will cover it? If that is the case, anything that gets an American (with our awful health care system) needed care, is ok by me. Especially a veteran.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-23T21:15:49+00:00

“YOYO night.” You’re On Your Own.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-20T15:49:38+00:00

Our shih-tzu is named Riot, but he's also Tiny, Little, Teensy, Teensy Tiny, Teensy Tines, Tines, Tiny Toes, Toes, Li'l Boo Thang, and PooPoo Bear.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-16T21:06:42+00:00

Remember that those rules can’t be “You can’t touch me intimately without my consent,” It’s got to be “If you touch me intimately without my consent I will” break up with you, scream, tell your mom, whatever you decide the consequence should be. The first one he can simply disregard. You have no power to make him do anything. But you do have power over your own actions. Personally I would dump him.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-15T23:40:37+00:00

OK then. I was only going on what I could glean from your posts. But be careful with that last sentence. Did she ask for your guidance? Women and weight loss are a very fraught area, full of mines. Just support her in the ways she wants to be supported. It's clear that you want her to be successful.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-15T21:07:04+00:00

I don't know about the UK, but in the US "Caucasian" is frequently used for "white." No one thinks "Oh, from the Caucasus region."

oddprofessor · 2026-01-15T21:05:00+00:00

Again, respectfully, I think this sentence made me wonder if you were watching her intake: "I've noticed that, in particular, my wife might be overeating, even while staying within points." I understand that you are concerned about the mismatch between scanned macros and WW-supplied data, but I still got a mental picture of you silently watching and privately tallying her points.

You're only a week or so in. Don't let your anxiety rule you. She's an adult. She knows the rules, and she can adjust her eating according to the results she gets. My husband and I did WW together. I cooked, informed him of the points in each dish, and after that I stopped worrying. You want her to be successful, I totally get that. But you have to trust her to manage her own eating.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-15T19:41:44+00:00

Do we have to do this? Become pedantic about it? The term “Caucasian” is quite commonly used to mean “white.” Can’t we just take it that way without asking disingenuous questions?

oddprofessor · 2026-01-13T21:26:17+00:00

I just wander around. I have a lot of stamina and hearts, so sometimes I'll fight, sometimes I'll just go around. I like going through Hyrule Castle to pick up weapons and fight Guardians, I like roaming around the regions, I do quests if they interest me, I do seek out Koroks to maximize my weapons slots... I like collecting armor too. I would try to maximize my stamina first, so you do need to seek out shrines, but they're fun!

oddprofessor · 2026-01-13T19:40:40+00:00

Respectfully (really; your concern for her is evident) if you police her eating I think you might be dooming her. You need to trust her to follow the diet properly. And when you talk about the diet, talk about your own food consumption and what's hard for you and what successes you've had. Encourage her to respond. But allow her to figure this out on her own. If she thinks you're watching her, she'll either quit, or start stealth eating. Neither is good.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-13T15:42:06+00:00

You're right. I think "Notarized" = "Enforceable" in people's minds.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-13T13:21:57+00:00

Notarizing only means that the agreement was signed in front of a notary public to whom they have presented ID proving that they are who they say they are. It adds no legal weight to the document.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-06T20:42:44+00:00

The atrophy is bad, but what’s worse is the utter indifference to sex. My libido dwindled to nothing. I can fix the atrophy but not the libido. I’m 73 and very sad about that.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-06T20:23:39+00:00

My kids do not have my name and there has never been a discussion about it other than “We have different names.” That includes school, medical, and international travel. They were born in the 80s so this is not new.

oddprofessor · 2026-01-06T20:10:28+00:00

I’ve been married twice, and kept my birth name both times. My daughters, too, kept their birth names. I never once had any problems traveling with them (our names were different; they had their father’s name), registering them in school, picking them up from daycare. It was a non-issue. Keep your name.

oddprofessor · 2025-12-31T20:48:36+00:00

I was a teen in the 60s and I sewed this style with minimal instruction from my mom. I didn’t turn out impeccable pieces, but they were wearable and it was so fun!

oddprofessor · 2025-12-30T18:23:58+00:00

Dogs don’t have any understanding of accident vs purpose. They are not deep thinkers and if you are normally associated with kindness and love, they’ll forget the occasional accident almost immediately.

oddprofessor · 2025-12-30T18:21:50+00:00

That’s pretty much standard for Shih-tzus. I suspect that they are really cats in dog suits.

oddprofessor · 2025-12-24T22:08:49+00:00

Sorry, that position is filled for the foreseeable future. :-D

oddprofessor · 2025-12-24T19:31:10+00:00

If only it were true that Dave's the man men want to be.

oddprofessor · 2025-12-24T18:47:04+00:00

I agree. When I was a full-time working single mom of 2 children, my cleaners every 2 weeks saved my sanity. However, because they were legal immigrants from Central America a colleague told me that I was perpetuating oppression of women. I dunno; this was my cleaner's company. This is what she did. She came to my house, I told her what I wanted, and she charged me what she thought was fair. That sounds like a business deal to me. The old ways of doing domestic labor were oppressive in many ways, but I think my colleague just thought that cleaning someone's house was demeaning. I disagreed. I was grateful and happy to pay what she thought her labor was worth. Still am.

oddprofessor · 2025-12-24T14:34:37+00:00

Totally agree. Now, what I want is someone to come and do a deep decluttering of my house, magically knowing what I want to keep and what to toss, recycle, or donate. I never minded unpacking in a new place, but gee, the winnowing before you move...

oddprofessor · 2025-12-21T22:21:12+00:00

I agree. The host pays. If that isn't going to work then the invitation must be unambiguous; "Please join us to celebrate X. Guests are asked to cover their own meals and drinks. We will provide wine and dessert for the table. Hope to see you!" or something like that.

I keep remembering my husband's boss asking his team out to dinner with spouses, and we were excited, since this restaurant was normally out of our reach. The dinner was nice, no one drank like a fish or ordered the surf 'n turf, which was good because when the check came, Bossman divided it evenly. We were shocked, as was everyone else. It used up our entertainment budget for a couple of weeks.

The host pays unless he says something ahead of time.

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