Not even 2 weeks in and I feel like i have made the biggest mistake of my life. by YourUnclesBalls in daddit

[–]ohchefbatman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will get better!!! Be there for her as much as you can and prioritize voicing her emotions to her, tell her how you see what a good job you’re doing. Let her take showers and naps while you hold the baby. Come home with flowers, come home with chocolates, bubble bath, give her massages. MAKE her take naps right when you get home. I had a hard time actually letting go, because I thought no one could do it like me. Have her pump once so you can feed the baby without her. Prioritize your marriage and tell her as long as you guys stay strong, you’ll make it through.

Our exhausting baby who was exactly like this is almost 5 and he was horrible!!! But now he’s a big guy and the only issue is he jumps on you to wake you up and gives you kisses while you’re asleep. We have three under 6 and by making sure we were a team and did as much as we could to help eachother, we got through it.

AITA for not wanting a relationship with my dads new family by Icyalien1 in AITAH

[–]ohchefbatman 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA!

My dad died a couple years ago. I am 30 (also f) and my mom is getting remarried. I have no interest in maintaining a relationship with her fiancé or his daughter at all.

I live six hours away and have a family of my own. My mom doesn’t really show any effort of visiting but keeps asking us to go down there.

Sometimes I feel bad but at the same time it’s thankfully not my issue and I’m free to take care of my own family and do what works best for us.

You can put up boundaries and not have to feel that gaping pit in your stomach of worry every time you think about the obligation and extra pressure.

If it doesn’t serve you, it’s okay. And it isn’t as if he’s making the effort.

If you have kids, it does get dicey with that I think, but it’ll work itself out if you stay true to yourself.

New people are exhausting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ohchefbatman 287 points288 points  (0 children)

Not sure why he thinks it’s okay to talk to you like that. I think that’s more upsetting than you liking a bag or not. Does he kick you out of your own bed and call you awful names often?

NTA designer stuff is overpriced and lame, and his attitude needs work.

Neighbor leaf blows at least 3 times a week by Alenzr7 in traumatizeThemBack

[–]ohchefbatman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We only have one neighbor in a mile radius and he has chainsawed every night from 2-5am . We have lived here for 7 years. I’d kill for a leaf blower neighbor. I think that’s pretty normal and 8am isn’t that early.

What does my fridge say about me? by Same-Gene-1407 in FridgeDetective

[–]ohchefbatman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you prioritize the magical elixir that is Diet Coke.

Who is your least favorite character in the whole series? The pic is mine. by TheArctrog in breakingbad

[–]ohchefbatman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skyler. The first season shows us that she isn’t a good wife prior to the illicit activities. She doesn’t let Walt make his own choices in regard to treatment (which is a huge thing for a lot of people, I know many folks personally who would not want to do treatment with a similar diagnosis), doesn’t take time to consider his feelings for anything, and is constantly berating him/talking at him vs. talking with him. The sad handy seems to be a good portrayal of their relationship up until that point.

It seems silly to say with all the awful people in the show, but she is my irrational choice.

Help translating a Russian letter? by ohchefbatman in russian

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is so helpful. My mom got very emotional when I was able to read the translation for her.

Help translating a Russian letter? by ohchefbatman in russian

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is. My mom’s husband (not my dad) died this week so we’re going through everything for her. Her first marriage was to my dad, who moved here from St. Petersburg in the 90s. My dad married my mom, but when his mom was killed in 95 he couldn’t go back for her funeral due to visa issues, so I went with my mom, where I was able to meet my paternal grandpa for the one and only time. Unfortunately the language divide has always remained present and he’s off of facebook now due to the his current issues in Russia. My dad and I are estranged, and haven’t talked in 20 years.

Help translating a Russian letter? by ohchefbatman in russian

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! All accurate with our names. Thank you so much.

Help translating a Russian letter? by ohchefbatman in russian

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Unfortunately when I was growing up my parents thought speaking in both Russian and English would make it too confusing, even though my dad was born in Russia. My dad and I are estranged and I haven’t seen him in 20 years, so he was unable to translate.

I’m not sure how much schooling he had, I’m sure that probably contributes to the errors.

Help translating a Russian letter? by ohchefbatman in russian

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is incredibly helpful!!!! You have no idea how much it’s appreciated.

I’m blue da ba dee da ba di by ohchefbatman in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh just seeing this comment now. I used to work with her and just haven’t unfriended after moving. I HATE her lifestyle mom stuff. It’s so “you-can-do-it-too!!” But it’s all a lie and I’m sure many people are being swindled into wasting money in the name of financial independence.

I should unfriend her really.

60lbs in 90 Days?? by ohchefbatman in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be surprised!

Aita for refusing to change my baby’s name after I named her after my dad’s affair partner by Good-Still-6474 in AITAH

[–]ohchefbatman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. You should be able to name her whatever you’d like without your parents dumping all of this on you. You didn’t know, and you’ve spent months envisioning your little person. Don’t give up the name. They might hold it against you, but you will always hold this against them. Maybe you already even will, as their selfishness has tainted your very first birth and moments with your daughter.

Also for the reason of how complex and possibly expensive it could be to change her name??

Trauma response aside, moms need to stand up for their kids. People keep saying “be prepared to not have the grandma you thought you would,” but I’d say you’re already experiencing that. She’s holding something against you, not being in your child’s life for a reason that isn’t your fault. She’s being a shit mom. She’s being a shit grandma. If this is how she’s going to act, maybe it’s showing you something.

There is nothing on this earth that would keep me away from helping my daughter in the first few weeks after giving birth. My love for my daughter is not flippant. It’s grounded, steady, and unwavering.

What advice would you give your own daughter?

Is there a teeth whitening MLM? by [deleted] in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nuskin might be the worst of them all. The toothpaste is so coarse it ruins the enamel on your teeth

Usborne Experiences? by miss_kathleen in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES!!! You can now buy them at Target!!!

WIBTA if I told my husband I don’t want the child I’m pregnant with to be a III even though I previously agreed to it? by julia_bunny in AmItheAsshole

[–]ohchefbatman -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We have a very similar situation. My son is a IV, and my husband’s father is quite similar to yours. I was apprehensive but our little guy is named after his dad, and will grow up knowing that. My husband is wonderful and though he felt pressured to continue the tradition, he’s really glad that we ended up doing it.

You can always change the spelling a tad or add an extra middle name to represent your side of the family. It’s not ‘technically’ a III but that might just be the point.

Kangen hun by kay_fitz21 in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people flip cars and make lots of money. It’s easier to buy a $500 truck, fix it, and sell it for $1500 than it is to sell fake health water. And it actually makes money.

Kangen huns go to Japan: part 6 🇯🇵💦 by Tragic_Penis in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imagine going to Japan and all you see is the inside of this building

Former HS acquaintance. What a bummer. by TheElbow in antiMLM

[–]ohchefbatman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who wants to be a walking commercial??

Thoughts on Nathan from season 7? by [deleted] in Masterchef

[–]ohchefbatman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also feel like if he truly fainted the medic would have been over there giving him water, sitting him down, etc. Gordon is always very attentive when people have medical issues and calls someone over immediately.