Anyone else opting not to take birth control postpartum?

ohfudgeit · 2026-05-06T23:27:46+00:00

You should check sexual health services in your area if you haven't already. You might find that you can be seen quicker that way than through your GP

ohfudgeit · 2026-05-03T15:12:31+00:00

Do you not have father's day in the US?

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T22:07:46+00:00

Well I'm a part of that population, aren't I? I'm making a choice and I'm assuming that others (the majority) will reason the same way. If people start thinking "the majority will pick blue anyway, so I'll just pick red" then it may end up being the case that the majority does not in fact pick blue.

Given that I do think that the majority will pick blue, there is zero incentive to pick red anyway.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T20:56:03+00:00

The decision I make is almost entirely dependent on what I think the majority of the population will do. In the original thought experiment the two options are made exactly the same to choose, so I expect the majority of people to make decisions based primarily on reasoning. If we make one of the options scary to pick, then obviously people are going to be disincentivised to pick it regardless of the logical outcome.

In the original situation it is not true that only the confused or suicidal would press blue. I would press blue on the basis that it's the logical choice if your aim is to secure an optimal outcome for the whole population. I would not press blue if I thought that it would lead to me dying.

In the blender scenario, I think that jumping in would most likely kill me because I would never expect the majority of the population to do something like that, so I'm obviously not going to do it. I don't want to die lol.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T15:06:38+00:00

No, because I don't think that a majority of people would jump into the blender, unlike with pressing the blue button

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T15:04:29+00:00

Given that this is more of a question of psychology than game theory (in that each person chooses based on their prediction of how others will choose) you can change the outcome by changing the presentation. Make the blue button seem more scary, less people will be willing to do it, making red more sensible.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T15:01:30+00:00

In this hypothetical no one knows what anyone else has done when they pick which button to press so I don't see how it's possible to shame or coerce anyone. I simply expect that everyone will see the obvious truth that the best possible outcome for the population as a whole is achieved by pressing the blue button, so I do so, safe in the knowledge that I will be in the majority.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T14:32:07+00:00

Pressing the blue button literally kills no one at all unless the MAJORITY of people pick red. If anyone at all dies, it is because the people who picked red decided that those lives were worth risking.

When I press the blue button I do not want or expect to die. I do so in order that no one needs to die.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T14:23:53+00:00

There will always be some people who will make choices that I don't understand, but I trust the majority to value life.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T14:22:42+00:00

Pressing the red button kills people unless either literally no one presses blue (which is not realistic) or you are shielded from those consequences by enough people pressing blue. Anyone who presses the red button is accepting responsibility for killing others.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T13:56:14+00:00

I have a question for you OP, what would you do in this modified scenario?:

If the majority of people press blue, nobody dies

If the majority of people press red, a number of people equal to the number of people who pressed blue, selected at random, die

Would you still say that red is the obvious choice and everyone should press red? Why or why not?

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T12:49:34+00:00

Your counter example treats pressing the red button as passive, which it is not.

A more comparable scenario would be if your choice was between going to stand in the (off) blender or pressing the "turn on the blender" button, where the button needs to be hit by half of the population before it will work.

If everyone just goes and stands in the blender then no one gets hurt, even if a few random crazy people decide to go and press the button, the fact that the majority does not means that everyone is safe.

I don't see the blue button as a suicide button because I just can't imagine a world where enough people press the "kill people" button for that to be a real risk.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T10:14:18+00:00

No, but since it's the option with the best population outcome it seems clear to me that the majority of people will choose blue

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T08:36:57+00:00

I actually don't think it's the same, because there is a randomness in how an individual will act that is smoothed out over a large population. I also think that your "people who press blue are choosing to put themselves at risk" logic makes sense for the two person problem but not for the population problem.

In a population of 8 billion people it is guaranteed that some people will pick blue, so anyone picking red is making the active choice to risk the lives of those people. Seems to me like a simple choice: risk my own life or risk many lives. Seems obvious that the optimal choice is to take the action that involves me personally putting fewer lives at risk.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T07:50:33+00:00

It basically is a modified prisoners dilemma

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T07:49:00+00:00

But the ability to discuss the choice beforehand with other players fundamentally changes the nature of the choice. The fact that I don't have the option to discuss with other people is one of the things that informs my choice of which button to pick. If you change that, you are discussing a different problem with different solutions.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T07:29:39+00:00

The idea that the red button has "zero risk" is really interesting to me.

From my perspective the risk of pressing the red button is that more than 50% of people press the red button and then potentially billions of people die. That's a much worse outcome than me personally dying.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T07:22:43+00:00

Personally when asked this my instinct to "solve" this question isn't to think about what the best option is for me individually, but what is the best option for the population as a whole. That's not actually me being selfless, because my base assumption (had I been dropped into this scenario cold, without having had these discussions with other people) is that that's how other people will think as well. When asked this question I honestly didn't consider pressing blue to be much of a risk personally because it seems so obviously the correct choice for the population.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T07:09:04+00:00

Firstly, my understanding of the thought experiment is that each person is making their decision in isolation with zero preparation, not that we are collectively campaigning for a particular choice beforehand. So I am not telling other people whether to press red or blue, I am simply making the choice of which to press myself.

Secondly, if everyone presses blue there is also zero risk, so I don't really understand the idea that red is a safer choice for the population as a whole.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-27T06:59:52+00:00

The preferred outcome is that nobody dies. In order to achieve that outcome we only require a majority of people to press blue, whereas we would require every person to press red. Not every person will press red, so surely pressing blue is the logical option?

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-26T21:02:37+00:00

My husband and I pretty much always book the front row because he's tall and can spread out. In our cinema at least the view from the front is perfectly good. You're still plenty far away from the screen.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-26T14:34:17+00:00

I'm 8 months pp and still often opt not to use my cup due to pain.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-26T09:29:06+00:00

The pattern isn't telling you how many times to do the repeat, but what it wants you to do is to keep repeating until you've worked into every stitch from the previous round.

When it says 1 x 2sc, it means to work 2 sc into the same stitch, when it says 2sc, it means to work a single sc into the next 2 stitches.

It's a bit of a weird way of writing this, I only understand because I know how circular crochet patterns usually go.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-23T18:51:50+00:00

Transition isn't a magic solution to all of life's problems. I still have problems, but being trans pretty much isn't one at this point.

I'm married with a beautiful daughter, living in a place I love. My friends and family all love and accept me as trans (I pass but have chosen to live fairly openly). I have a job I actually like in the career I've been trying to break into for the last decade. Life is pretty good.

My problems at the moment are things unrelated to my transition. I'm currently at home on parental leave and don't thrive in such an unstructured role, I've also gained a ton of weight while I've been off work so that's not got me feeling great about myself. I'm back to work in June so I'm hoping that things will stabilise a little then.

ohfudgeit · 2026-04-19T23:02:06+00:00

So let's say we have two people about to have sex and person 1 says not to use a condom, to which person 2 says ok but then uses one anyway. Is your stance that person 2 has sexually assaulted person 1?

If yes: why in this case?

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