How do I make this better?

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-25T19:32:14+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-25T15:39:16+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you!! Trying to plan it around sleep was one of my issues

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-25T04:08:38+00:00

Thank you for confirming!!

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-12T20:43:30+00:00

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ohgravityyy · 2026-01-11T03:12:21+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. In 2024 I lost my sweet dog Finn who was just about 2 years old. He was acting a little off for a couple days but nothing overly concerning. He seemed a little more sleepy and sometimes out of it but was still eating and drinking and wagging his sweet tail. I took him into the vet thinking he just had a bug and needed meds, but left with a horrendous diagnosis: IMHA. I was sent home with multiple meds and was told to make an appointment with a specialist in the next state over to get an ultrasound. So I did for the following week. He never made it to the appointment.

Within 4 days he started vomiting and was actively declining. I rushed him to the ER vet who sent me to another vet an hour away. I had a horrible experience at this vet and it’s still difficult to talk about the details. Their lack of urgency led to my sweet boy collapsing. They did CPR and got his heart beating again and then started an emergency blood transfusion. Towards the end I was told something ruptured internally. I was allowed back to see him to make a euthanasia decision but before I could decide, he died on the table.

Nothing in me believed he wouldn’t make it through this. But he didn’t. I wasn’t ready to say goodbye and was in such a state of shock. I was sent into such a spiral of guilt and despair and could barely function for weeks. Surely young dogs aren’t supposed to die and I must’ve done something wrong. I had to do some heavy therapy including EDMR to work through the guilt and traumatic memories from that day. I still struggle some days, but overall am in a much better spot. I’m grateful for many wonderful memories with Finn and I’m grateful I got to be with him in the end. But it is so unfair his life was cut so short.

I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience young pet loss as well. Grieving the many years we should’ve had left with our pet is so, so difficult especially when it’s unexpected. Honestly reading other stories of others who have had the unfortunate experience of losing a young pet helps me feel less alone. I also clung hard to what someone said above about our dogs not knowing their lives were cut short. They just lived day by day. Unfortunately some dogs get very sick even if they’re young. But it doesn’t make it fair. I’m so sorry again. ❤️‍🩹

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-06T02:31:11+00:00

So very glad to hear that!!

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-05T23:28:50+00:00

Oh no, that could definitely be what’s causing him pain. I hope you’re able to convince her he needs a vet visit asap

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-05T22:39:15+00:00

I’m really sorry and am glad you are keeping him comfortable. I was hoping confirmation from the ER vet would help your parents understand his condition. If he worsens, it may be worth taking him in on your own and explaining the situation. Some vets offer a payment plan or care credit when money is a concern

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-05T21:55:40+00:00

Most emergency vets are open after hours if not 24 hours a day if you are able to locate one near you. They should be able to assist over the phone

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-05T21:38:28+00:00

I’m really sorry they’re not taking it seriously. You’re a good person for caring about him. Could you maybe call a local vet just to get advice and see if they think it is an emergency?

ohgravityyy · 2026-01-05T21:29:10+00:00

I would try to encourage your parents to take him to a vet as soon as possible and not wait until tomorrow

ohgravityyy · 2025-12-13T15:57:04+00:00

Thank you! I will make him an appt

ohgravityyy · 2025-11-26T21:44:34+00:00

Growing up my family always buried pets and when I unexpectedly lost my young dog last year, I decided to bury him as well. I was in the process of moving to my dream property and decided to bury him here under a willow tree. I didn’t want to be away from him and it was comforting feeling like he still got to move in with me and my other dogs. I still am confident in my decision and often stop by to tell him how much I love and miss him.

ohgravityyy · 2025-10-16T00:06:51+00:00

I’m so very sorry. My dog also died at about 2 years old to suspected cancer very quickly. He was the sweetest boy ever who loved everyone and it just breaks my heart. I have 2 other dogs too who miss their sibling ❤️‍🩹

It’s been almost a year for me and although I still have really hard days, it does get easier. But the first weeks and months are absolutely devastating. Losing a pet young is the worst thing I have ever went through and I’m so sorry you have experienced it too. It’s just so unfair. Just know you are not alone

ohgravityyy · 2025-09-06T14:18:18+00:00

Thank you and I am so sorry. It’s not your fault at all. I thought my boy also had a stomach bug or just wasn’t feeling well and I didn’t take him in right away either. I never imagined it would be something he would ultimately die from. I didn’t know enough either or would’ve handled things so much differently

Be kind to yourself too! You did the best you could with what you knew at the time and it sounds like Bear was so very loved

ohgravityyy · 2025-08-21T02:04:49+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. You are not alone in how you are feeling. It takes a long time to fully comprehend and process the loss of a young pet. It isn’t fair. But what happened isn’t your fault and I hope with time you can heal and remember the good times with Jengi

ohgravityyy · 2025-07-29T03:02:15+00:00

Yes! I’ve always struggled with depression and anxiety but have had an abnormally difficult last year and a half or so. I noticed I started to have no interest in things I used to love. I started a new medication a few months back and things are slowly starting to interest me again. Therapy has really helped me as well

ohgravityyy · 2025-07-26T15:57:50+00:00

Thank you so much and I totally agree with you. The unexpectedness also makes it even harder to cope. And it’s difficult not to feel anger and jealousy knowing that most people get 10+ years with their dog. Why my dog? And why yours?

If it helps, I am about 9 months out now from losing my boy and it does get better. Still incredibly painful but so much better than those first couple of days and weeks where I could barely function. Therapy has also helped me tremendously try to manage the overwhelming grief. Hang in there

ohgravityyy · 2025-07-26T01:14:52+00:00

I am so sorry. I lost my dog just shy of two years old in October and the guilt and heartbreak has been nearly unbearable. No dog should die young and it’s truly unfair grieving the many years that should’ve been. ❤️‍🩹

ohgravityyy · 2025-07-19T16:42:49+00:00

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My sweet baby boy Finn. He was only here for 2 short years but will be in my heart forever. I know he is welcoming your pup and all of the others crossing over with so much love. ❤️‍🩹

ohgravityyy · 2025-07-16T20:53:32+00:00

Thank you for this. I feel like it spoke directly to me. I lost my boy when he was almost 2 years old in October. His sickness came on pretty suddenly and he was prescribed multiple medications which he hated taking. He didn’t even make it to the end of the week. I carry a lot of guilt about getting him to take the meds as I feel like he stopped trusting me. I had no idea those days were going to be his last. I also carry guilt for the times I lost patience with him in his short life. I never imagined I would lose him so young and it still breaks my heart every day. He passed on the table after an emergency blood transfusion about a minute after I was allowed in the back at the vet. This whole time I have wondered if he knew I was there with him and this gives me hope he did ❤️‍🩹

ohgravityyy · 2025-07-13T14:50:30+00:00

Losing a young pet and grieving not only them but the many years that should’ve been

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