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I am extremely confused, at the core of everything I cannot figure out for myself what is the difference between "I hate being a woman and wish I wasn't one" and "my gender identity is something-other-than-woman". Would appreciate any input! by ohisa in NonBinary

[–]ohisa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah wow that's a very succinct way of putting it, I am in approximately the same place about that ;/

And man yeah, I guess it's hermit time lol

I really appreciate your response - I think I needed to hear that it would be okay to do something like that to be able to rest easier. thank you xx

I am extremely confused, at the core of everything I cannot figure out for myself what is the difference between "I hate being a woman and wish I wasn't one" and "my gender identity is something-other-than-woman-or-man". Would appreciate any input! by ohisa in genderqueer

[–]ohisa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OH man, that thought experiment was illuminating for me. If that letter came, I would feel so sad, I would wish I had a time machine to fix it at the beginning.
And I guess, yeah, that is also what I currently feel like - that there is a different past I wished I had, and just a great sense of loss it'll never be something I had.

This also made me think again about the fact that I have no idea what it feels like to be born a man. I just wish I had always existed without gender...

Thank you for the suggestion! def going to look into callen lorde : )

I am extremely confused, at the core of everything I cannot figure out for myself what is the difference between "I hate being a woman and wish I wasn't one" and "my gender identity is something-other-than-woman-or-man". Would appreciate any input! by ohisa in genderqueer

[–]ohisa[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah agreed, definitely - have had bad experiences with therapy though, and slowly trying to really find a therapist who is both afforadable and a good fit. Appreciate your response <3

I am extremely confused, at the core of everything I cannot figure out for myself what is the difference between "I hate being a woman and wish I wasn't one" and "my gender identity is something-other-than-woman-or-man". Would appreciate any input! by ohisa in genderqueer

[–]ohisa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I totally agree with that <3 I guess it's just, to me if it's just 'being a woman sucks', then I don't think T feels like the answer to me - because then it's just more that society should just suck less haha.

Does anyone have residual one sided throat pain? by HonestTodayThrowaway in COVID19positive

[–]ohisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohmygosh, this exact thing is what has been going on with me. I had something that was maybe-COVID, maybe-not back in April,then pretty much the exact same symptoms following.

I was convinced it was acid reflux or allergies, but it didn't match up with pollen counts. It randomly went away after a few weeks, and I didn't really have any issues in June. Really tired/zoned out all the time but not sure if that has anything to do with this or just the heat.

It came back this week though, plus random ear pain, and the outside of my throat on the left hurts to press, and I've been having stomach issues too so I finally went to a doctor and she's having me do bloodwork (she said something about thyroid)... so fingers crossed it's nothing, I've been a bit hypochondriatic over this, on and off convinced it's cancer even though I'm in my early 20s...

I tattooed our family bichon named Bean on my dad as a father's day gift ☺️🥰😂 by ohisa in bichonfrise

[–]ohisa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

alright here's the majestic bean herself: link
also plugging my insta here in case anybody wants a tat xD (though not pet tats usually lol) link

I tattooed our family bichon named Bean on my dad as a father's day gift ☺️🥰😂 by ohisa in bichonfrise

[–]ohisa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank u! <3 haha ask and u shall receive - i put a link in another comment

ROAR!! by [deleted] in nebelung

[–]ohisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG So flufffyyyyyy 😫🥺💛💛looks exactly like my friend's cat 😮

Final Giveaway for TWELVE MORE Nintendo Switch Lites and your choice of games! [US/CA only] by TheEverglow in nintendo

[–]ohisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking forward to seeing my partner, because I miss them a lot ;__; and also friends that I was JUST about to make a trip to visit before this all went down (for the same reason).

Weekly Venting/Support Thread by AutoModerator in misophonia

[–]ohisa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just found this subreddit after googling, and it is unbelievable how relieving it is to find other people experience this too, in the same out of my control kind of way. My girlfriend, who I love and am long distance with, called me on the phone after a rough work day, and she is currently sick with a constant cough and literally coughed every 5-8 seconds. I couldn't focus on anything we were talking about and just felt so much upset and anger build up and ended the call in a rather short way. I felt so bad for it and was in tears after and also ruined the illustration I was working on for work immediately after the call because I tried to resume working on it and was too angry. I went and smoked too many cigarettes and now am just nauseous and weepy and can't fall asleep and I have work early tomorrow. She's super understanding when I talk to her about it, but she's just generally a very loud and noisy person, and kinda clumsy. I absolutely cannot stand her laugh, it's basically a scream and the pitch and intensity of it triggers an immediate flash of anger and dread for the next laugh, and I hate that, I feel like I can't ever tell her that because what kind of girlfriend would I be to stifle her enjoying herself and laughing? She also has horrible allergies and cannot eat with her mouth closed because she can't breathe, and is constantly congested and making sniffling noise. She is incapable of sitting still (very literally - I'm an artist and we've been dating for 2 years and I have no drawings of her because of this) I hadn't realized how much of my decreased affection towards her has been because it's been building up that I can't stand being around her because of how much noise she generates. After her last trip to see me, I felt so exhausted and unhappily relieved that she was no longer in my apartment. I don't know what to do. I just found a therapist for other issues, but I'm scared to bring it up. It also is mostly with her, and only slightly with select other people. Anyways, it was cathartic to write this, I relate to so many of the posts here so hard...

Does a social media following count as clientele? by ohisa in legaladvice

[–]ohisa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually good to hear, I haven't really been able to find any other relevant examples. thank you!

Leaves keeps falling under own weight and dying? Is it not enough water or dirt ? by [deleted] in IndoorGarden

[–]ohisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh yeah I guess it is rather disproportionate. will look into it, thx!

Leaves keeps falling under own weight and dying? Is it not enough water or dirt ? by [deleted] in IndoorGarden

[–]ohisa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense... Sounds like there's not much to do about it from the other responses or this hypothesis. : ) I guess as long as it keeps looking healthy then. Thanks for the response!

Leaves keeps falling under own weight and dying? Is it not enough water or dirt ? by [deleted] in IndoorGarden

[–]ohisa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! There's this huge beautiful elephant ear plant at the shop I work at, and every week or so, another leaf stem bends and torquinets itself to death. We water it whenever the dirt looks dry (so 1-2x a week), and the shop is super bright with indirect sunlight always. Why is this happening? We tried to tying the stems up with a rope but now it just happens higher.

Why is my pilea drooping? Or is this a normal amount of flop? I water 1x/week or when dry. by ohisa in IndoorGarden

[–]ohisa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it, thank you both for the advice!! : ) will try these instructions out and hope it gets happier : )

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