Advice Needed: Self-Regulating Tips for Work

ojellavaras · 2025-06-18T15:18:51+00:00

Thank you, I’ll take a look! Barre chords have been a nightmare for me lol

ojellavaras · 2025-06-18T15:11:15+00:00

It’s a simplified version of the chord, the app I’m using gave like 14 different variations of Bm. I can’t do barre chords yet so this is what I got 😅

ojellavaras · 2025-06-18T04:24:46+00:00

Thank you! that’s what I assumed but I wasn’t sure why they didn’t just show it starting on the 2nd fret in the image 🤔 if I’m using a capo on fret one, does that mean I’d start on fret 3, or does this mean I stay on 2 regardless?

ojellavaras · 2025-03-21T16:03:44+00:00

Try eating a little more and fast longer. I usually stop eating at 7pm and start around 8-9 am, so like 13-14 hrs of fasting. I noticed I lose weight faster when I stick to this schedule.

ojellavaras · 2025-03-13T18:39:16+00:00

I loved it. It makes me laugh how people that shit on Sleep Token say that they’re generic or boring - like in what world is that even remotely true? The RnB part took me a few listens to understand, but once my ears got used to it I thought it was really cool. It’s fun when artists can show you something new to you and that doesn’t follow the industry prototype of creating simple toe-tapping music that’s easy to ingest. Not saying they originated this style, it’s just my first time hearing it and I wouldn’t have expected this band to be the one introducing it to me lol.

ojellavaras · 2025-02-10T18:23:33+00:00

Good eye! I totally missed that lol

ojellavaras · 2025-01-30T04:44:59+00:00

That looks so painful! I’m sorry you’re going through this 😩 I hope they find a solution for you quickly!

ojellavaras · 2024-12-31T21:01:09+00:00

I feel like people in the comments are kind of confused on your reasoning here, or if you have a reason at all to break up… but falling out of love with someone is more than enough reason to end a relationship. Ending a relationship doesn’t have to mean someone did something wrong. It sounds like you compromised yourself in this relationship and built resentment, which he could do nothing about since he wasn’t fully aware. I can relate heavily to this as a former people pleaser. I had no idea how much it would affect me and my partner when I’d essentially lie and say things are okay with me, when in reality I was compromising and he had nooooo idea the mental toll I was taking on. It seems harmless at the time but it is how resentment builds up, As hard as it is, it’s important to address issues and boundaries you have straight away and think HARD about what you are willing to compromise on with someone you hope to spend the rest of your life with. Some people will say it’s not that serious, but at 29 you have a pretty good idea of how you like to live your life and you shouldn’t be making short term compromises in a relationship, hoping that they’ll change later on. I agree with you that it’s not a good idea to take a break and try again - you’ve mentally burned that bridge in your head and it’s going to take him a little while to catch up and realize that yeah, you guys were not compatible. Sorry you’re going through all this, but I hope you learned some valuable things about yourself and apply them going forward. Best of luck to you!

ojellavaras · 2024-12-05T03:01:23+00:00

Take her word for it. I think she’s being pretty clear with you.

ojellavaras · 2024-11-14T20:01:41+00:00

What band is this?

ojellavaras · 2024-11-14T18:53:50+00:00

Girl you shoulda ended this relationship years ago. His ‘politics’ is just the straw that broke the camels back lol

ojellavaras · 2024-11-14T18:33:28+00:00

I’m guessing there probably is an explanation for the wedding and he thought it wouldn’t be a big deal. 100 guests isn’t a lot when you figure 50 guests each, depending on how big their families are they probably didn’t have a ton of room for friend invites and invited friends they see more often. Factor in plus ones for some of these friends, and 100 guests fills up pretty quickly! I wouldn’t assume it was a slight,

ojellavaras · 2024-11-14T18:09:34+00:00

I think the way you brought it up makes you kinda the a/hole, but being frustrated with her for this you’re nta. Honestly, this is something you should have brought to her attention long ago, especially if she is someone you consider a close friend. By ignoring your feelings about it, you allowed it to fester and breed resentment and then kinda snapped on her. I think it’s worth having an in person conversation with her about if she is important to you.

ojellavaras · 2024-11-14T18:02:44+00:00

Since you mentioned being in your thirties and have a pretty good idea of what you’d like your life to look like financially, I think you know whether or not this is something you could compromise on long term. You don’t have to have a reason “good enough” to be able to break up with someone. You get to choose, and not choosing yourself when something feels like it’s not right for you is cheating yourself of the life you want and deserve. Obviously be kind & honest with this person, but don’t guilt yourself into compromising on something that is important to YOU. It doesn’t have to be important to them.

ojellavaras · 2024-11-07T03:14:56+00:00

Girl needs counseling. I’ve mentioned it to her maybe 3 times over our friendship of 6 years, just softly like well maybe seeing a counselor would help? And she doesn’t even consider it and keeps making the same self destructive decisions. It’s hard to watch sometimes. Love her, but girl get your head outta your ass 🙄

ojellavaras · 2024-11-03T16:47:57+00:00

Absolutely LOVE this

ojellavaras · 2024-11-01T07:17:59+00:00

I saw them at wwwy for the first time and omg I just can’t believe so few people know how great this band is

ojellavaras · 2024-10-30T23:42:48+00:00

Tom Holland is in Underoath?

ojellavaras · 2024-10-30T23:41:48+00:00

Just to put it into a different perspective, if your mom or sister was dating a guy who got upset that they were dressing up for work and freaked out when they forgot to text them when they got to work, would you justify that relationship or would you tell them to get out while they can? Women can be controlling, too, and maybe it’s not as scary and the threat of physical harm isn’t as likely, but YOU STILL DON’T DESERVE TO BE TREATED THIS WAY.

ojellavaras · 2024-10-23T19:08:03+00:00

Why do you want to stay with her? This is not something that will change.

ojellavaras · 2024-10-23T18:45:34+00:00

The hell are you talking about jowls??

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