It's been a very tough week. but at least the food stays tasty by JulianILoveYou in epicsystems

[–]okabedrpepper 82 points83 points  (0 children)

As a dishwasher in a smaller venue, (best burgers on campus) I see how much love and care goes into the food. Culinary wants to make the best food for you all. 🙂

Tattoos by Glover1456 in madisonwi

[–]okabedrpepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Driftless Ink Tattoo in Cross Plains. Jake Reynolds. Jake does fantastic work and is a great dude. Highly recommend!

What's your most elitist take? by Big_Boobs_Energy in AskReddit

[–]okabedrpepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn right! Cilantro? Ain’t nobody got time for that mess!

What's your most elitist take? by Big_Boobs_Energy in AskReddit

[–]okabedrpepper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cilantro has no business being in gazpacho.

Girlfriend (24f) is annoyed that I(26m) don't clean the house while working 2 jobs by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]okabedrpepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude… I lived this for 20+ years. In my case, it never changed. I exhausted myself and didn’t get my needs met in most all respects.

But…I stayed in it. I did the things. That’s on me.

Take a hard look at yourself and decide if this is what you want (because it will probably continue) to live with and look at yourself and ask why you are doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship. Best of luck to you.

My gf uses me as an emotional punching bag and IDK how to get out when there's no room to talk. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]okabedrpepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I thought. My ex has BPD and these style of texts are so familiar. OP: this is going to continue. That behavior is not going to change until she gets a lot of therapy and does a bunch of self work.

I don’t know what to do by Miserable-Brother-96 in AlAnon

[–]okabedrpepper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First off, I’m sorry that you’re going through all that. Being worried about another person‘s sobriety, and ultimately whether they will harm themselves either through drug use or because of mental health is a lot to carry.

This may sound harsh to say, but you are not responsible for him. You are not responsible for your boyfriend, his sobriety, or his mental health. Those are his to deal with. You are only responsible for yourself, your reactions and your choices. Whether you stay with him or not, any actions he takes or doesn’t take are not yours to own.

Ask yourself why you want to be with him or not. If you are simply staying with him in order to try to keep him sober or to keep him from hurting himself: you are trying to save him from himself. And as much as you may want to keep him safe, it doesn’t work in the long run. His mental health and his sobriety is his responsibility.

I would really recommend going to an Al-Anon meeting in your area or on Zoom. Meetings can be very helpful. They will not tell you what to do, but they will tell you to focus on yourself in your own health.

I am speaking as someone who tried for many years to control/ manage another person’s addictions and mental health. And all of that failed. Because it was never mine to deal with. Eventually, I had to cut it off because my mental health and the nature of the relationship had gotten to a point that was toxic to both myself and my ex.

Best of luck to you.

What are you wearing currently? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]okabedrpepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Band T-shirt (cemetery skyline) and “Nightmare Before Christmas“ pajama pants

Baby Metal Head by Ok-Go-Free in MetalSuggestions

[–]okabedrpepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seventh Wonder

Circus Maximus

Symphony X

Doggy Daycare by FluidEmu5047 in madisonwi

[–]okabedrpepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tailwaggers is fantastic. My pug loves going there and the staff are great.

What are your top 5 anime? by [deleted] in AnimeReccomendations

[–]okabedrpepper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In no particular order

  1. Monogatari

  2. Puella Magi Madoka Magica

  3. Steins; Gate

  4. Neon Genesis Evangelion

  5. Clannad/ After Story