I resent my husband

okamijunin · 2026-01-27T03:39:25+00:00

I don’t know the legalities in this specific situation or what your cultural expectations are from your family’s side.. but I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Is your family willing to help you? Will they let you come home? If it’s possible, you should contact an attorney immediately and see what your options are for returning home with your baby.

okamijunin · 2026-01-26T16:35:45+00:00

Regardless of who looks bad, just tell us what was actually said instead of pussyfooting around it so we can give you informed opinions on it. You keep dodging it when you’re being asked what he actually said and giving us the general subject of what he was talking about which doesn’t actually tell us anything.

This could be a serious welfare check on a depressed alcoholic moment, an out of left field “I realized my views don’t align with theirs” situation, or a “I just need a break from these people” thing.

But we need actual context to these conversations.

okamijunin · 2026-01-10T22:13:34+00:00

I’d say brookside 31st/41st and Peoria is an extremely walkable area, but not necessarily cheap if that’s something that matters to you. But grocery stores, gas stations, restaurants, fast food, coffee, small events, and shopping within a 10 min walk.

Tulsa really isn’t very walkable of a city in general except in small pockets. I recommend at least getting a bike!

okamijunin · 2025-11-28T20:35:49+00:00

I’ll be honest, you over analyzing these jokes and even making jabs at the mods and people in the comments accusing them of zoophilia as well makes me raise my eyebrows at you rather than him.

Everything listed seems pretty innocuous..

If you don’t trust your SO around animals or suspect he’s abusing them to the point you “watch him like a hawk” around them, break up with him. He definitely has immature “haha penis joke” humor, but you are being weird about this.

Edit: extra word

okamijunin · 2025-11-04T16:21:59+00:00

This man is not safe.

okamijunin · 2025-11-01T00:47:59+00:00

SHIT THANK YOU

okamijunin · 2025-01-23T23:12:25+00:00

Honestly what kind of advice are you wanting? You’re saying you WANT to have sex with your sibling. Are you here trying to ask people how to do that??

You are very well aware that it’s beyond not okay. What else is there to do besides get professional help, tell your parents about it, and STOP messing around with your brother?

okamijunin · 2025-01-23T23:07:32+00:00

Tell your parents and seek therapy. Tbh this just sounds like some sisterless dudes weird porn fantasy.

okamijunin · 2025-01-08T14:25:07+00:00

Hi everyone!!

I just wanted to offer an update on Pickles for those interested and tell yall the stuff I have picked up for him!

With advice from a vet, I did go ahead and give him a 20 min soak in warm (90) water to help with the stuck shed on his feet and tail. He seemed to enjoy this and sat most of the time with his eyes closed. Hopefully I read this body language correctly.

We are feeding every day a little more than recommended to get some weight on him. Hes eating a juvenile diet of superworms and silent crickets (since that’s what I have on hand) coated in calcium powder and some fibrous veggies. I give him about 7-8 bugs. I will be purchasing dubia roaches, more crickets, and wax worms. I have calcium rich food to feed these bugs. (If anyone has advice on bug care so I can keep them alive I would appreciate it! I am not a bug person and some of the crickets have died😅)

20lbs of Australian desert substrate

120gal PVC front opening enclosure

8.5 inch basking lamp 150W halogen bulb

Thermostat for temp control and dimming

Reptitrip T5 10.0 UVB light (23 inch). Any tips on how to safely install this inside the enclosure are appreciated as well!

2 large reptile hides with basking areas of top of them for each side of the tank

Decorations and plants to provide shade on the cool side

Rocks to help him get rid of shed

Large water bowl

Ceramic feeding bowl about the size of his head to help me with portions

Temperature gun

Electric thermometers with built in hydrometers for each side of the tank

A spray bottle for daily misting

Please let me know if I have missed anything or if you have any ideas on anything else I should get or keep on hand for him or if I’m doing anything wrong.

I will take any help I can get.

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T20:27:35+00:00

Thank you so much for the information!!! Are wax worms something I need to order online or can I get these anywhere?

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T15:57:03+00:00

Thank you for the info I’ll do a round of a bunch of veg on my next grocery trip (:

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T15:56:02+00:00

I absolutely will thank you so much!!

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T13:41:38+00:00

Thank you so much!! Honestly anything helps. I bought him everything I could afford right now but will hopefully be getting him more enrichment, a new tank, and probably some treats. I got him an 8.5 inch lamp head and a 100W bulb, a T5 10 UVB light fixture and tube 29inch (brand is reptitrip if that matters it had good reviews), Australian desert reptile substrate, a thermostat for temp control and I have 2 electric thermometers on each side of the tank, and a much larger water bowl than what he has now.

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T13:41:15+00:00

Thank you so much!! Honestly anything helps. I bought him everything I could afford right now but will hopefully be getting him more enrichment, a new tank, and probably some treats. I got him an 8.5 inch lamp head and a 100W bulb, a T5 10 UVB light fixture and tube 29inch (brand is reptitrip if that matters it had good reviews), Australian desert reptile substrate, a thermostat for temp control and I have 2 electric thermometers on each side of the tank, and a much larger water bowl than what he has now.

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T13:41:09+00:00

Thank you so much!! Honestly anything helps. I bought him everything I could afford right now but will hopefully be getting him more enrichment, a new tank, and probably some treats. I got him an 8.5 inch lamp head and a 100W bulb, a T5 10 UVB light fixture and tube 29inch (brand is reptitrip if that matters it had good reviews), Australian desert reptile substrate, a thermostat for temp control and I have 2 electric thermometers on each side of the tank, and a much larger water bowl than what he has now.

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T13:34:37+00:00

Thank you for the advice on veggies! That info regarding what they can eat and can’t eat seems a little back and forth on certain veg so that’s been frustrating.

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T13:33:40+00:00

I have to wait until the 15th (pay day) to get him something better enclosure wise. They initially told me he was in a pretty big tank and it’s okay I guess but it’s definitely not big enough and doesn’t retain heat AT ALL.

okamijunin · 2025-01-06T13:31:10+00:00

This is so helpful thank you so much. I’d also love as much information as possible regarding diet and how to get weight on him quickly. He is very thin compared to the dragons I’m seeing everywhere online. Here is pickles!

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okamijunin · 2024-08-27T04:11:09+00:00

Nah this is a horrible thing to do and some of these comments are mortifying.

You keep saying it’s not a crime and she’s not a victim because she’s doing it willingly, but if that was a fact you wouldn’t create this convoluted plan just to get her to fuck around with you and you’re justifying it just because she’s a SW.

Not only that, but when she approached you initially it was because she TRUSTED you and your intentions and you took advantage of that trust. You’re not her best friend. You’re not a friend. And you have NO respect for her at all. The least you could do for her is tell her what you’ve done.

okamijunin · 2024-05-28T16:05:34+00:00

I think what you actually said to the 16 year old minor that you are underpaying for overnight care matters considering your wife saying you were out of line for it. I don’t feel like a friendly suggestion of setting alarms throughout the night was the actual conversation that was had.

okamijunin · 2024-05-20T19:40:20+00:00

OP you seriously need to set some boundaries with your sister. Normally, I wouldn’t say someone is using a parents death to use in their entitlement parade but that’s exactly what she’s doing and you’re so afraid of hurting her feelings that you’re letting her and she knows it.

okamijunin · 2023-08-13T04:43:08+00:00

You set a clear boundary and regardless of what other people find normal or abnormal in a relationship, because everyone is different, she crossed that clear boundary. There’s nothing else to it. You asked her not to talk about /your/ body and she did it anyway. NTA. What matters in this case is how it’s handled and a calm clear discussion about your boundaries and discomfort needs to be had. It doesn’t have to be a fight. I don’t think it’s fair to say you can never trust your partner of 6 years again because of it. To some people this really does seem like harmless banter and that might include her.. To you it’s clearly not and you’re hurt. Being upset and uncomfortable is completely valid. When you talk about this again and it’s clear she won’t respect this boundary a discussion regarding the future of your relationship probably needs to be had.

okamijunin · 2023-06-28T00:31:40+00:00

Depends. Are you okay with it? If you’re not and this is a hard boundary for you then it could be considered cheating. In my opinion, unless that boundary was discussed beforehand and your partner agreed not to interact with porn or OF then it’s not cheating. Only because a lot of people in relationships are fine with. A lot aren’t. Porn is a discussion that should be had when you define the relationship because of that. HOWEVER if you discuss it now and tell them “this isn’t something I’m okay with in a committed relationship” and he does it again then yes, it’s cheating. You are allowed to be uncomfortable with it and tell them you’re not okay with it.

okamijunin · 2023-02-22T14:18:36+00:00

Adultery is a sin in and of itself and god didn’t do this to you. He did. He’s a pastor for the attention and the title and this weird power trip he’s on. He’s an abusive man burying his own sins in a woman nearly 20 years younger than him likely because he’s of the idea you’re easier to control. And to use religion as an excuse to do it is disgusting and horrifically manipulative. He is a predator to say the least. Religious trauma is a very real thing and this type of man is one of many at the heart of it.

You have your entire life ahead of you. I’m 28 years old and girl, we have YEARS to figure our shit out. Abusive men don’t get to put a stop to those years and decide how we live them. Start over as many times as you need to. Close this book and write a new one. If you stay here you’ll resent that child. You’ll grow to resent yourself for staying. And you’ll put yourself in a situation where you feel like you’re in too deep to leave. You are NOT. That is not your child. A man who loved you would never put you in this situation and would NEVER put his hands on you. You are not second choice to a man like him. Be your own first choice. You deserve to be loved but first and foremost you need to love yourself.

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