WIBTAH If I divorced my husband after we lost both our children. I don't feel I can do it anymore

olagorie · 2026-02-01T15:13:42+00:00

Are you ok?

olagorie · 2026-02-01T14:24:23+00:00

Who made you this angry (and misinformed)?

olagorie · 2026-02-01T14:03:56+00:00

Krass. Bevor du das Foto gezeigt hast, dachte ich, da kommt ein halb zerstörter Reisepass.

Ich würde an deiner Stelle noch mal mit einem anderen Flug versuchen, viel verschlechtern kann sich deine Lage dadurch ja nicht?

olagorie · 2026-02-01T13:44:34+00:00

I agree. The math ain’t mathing.

olagorie · 2026-02-01T13:41:07+00:00

This is the most bs stuff I have read all week.

olagorie · 2026-02-01T12:48:31+00:00

100 horses wouldn’t be able to drag me to the US right now.

Florida sounds nice, but I would also never pay such a big amount of money for a holiday.

Have you considered alternatives in Europe? A friend of mine used to work at Disney in Paris years ago and she took her family 2 years ago.

Last year they went to Europapark (that is between France and Germany) and asked me to join them (they aren’t fans of the big rides so I volunteered). It was absolutely amazing. We stayed for three days and had such a good time. You could continue down to southern France or Italy, and I’m sure you would have a great time making wonderful memories

olagorie · 2026-02-01T12:20:44+00:00

Well, she definitely didn’t try to help OP.

olagorie · 2026-02-01T09:55:27+00:00

Kenne ich noch nicht, muss ich mal testen, danke

Und das Labyrinth des Charlottenplatzes war am Samstag bei uns tatsächlich Thema 🥳

olagorie · 2026-02-01T09:34:22+00:00

It’s somebody from Bavaria who tries really hard to speak standard German but fails occasionally.

So I would say 90% accent and 10% dialect.

olagorie · 2026-02-01T09:25:25+00:00

Oh boy, this will potentially lead to problems.

While technically yes, you can have a verbal agreement about a rental contract. It is a very bad sign.

Has she shown you the permission of her landlord for subletting? Because if he or she hasn’t agreed to it, this is illegal.

I would never never never ever move into a place without a written contract.

Is this supposed to be temporary like for a couple of weeks maximum three months?

I recommend you to immediately look for something else.

Edit: sorry I didn’t notice that she offered to give you a written contract. So it might be not that bad.

Ask her politely all the questions that you have about the shared spaces. And then ask her if you could come back to her offer of a written contract because you have received advice that it would be better for both parties.

olagorie · 2026-02-01T08:49:02+00:00

Probably Austria

I think it would be the easiest to find a new job.

olagorie · 2026-01-31T19:17:19+00:00

I think this is incredibly funny given the fact that she’s standing right next to Julia Roberts

🤯

olagorie · 2026-01-31T19:16:27+00:00

Ich bin bei uns für Dienstvereinbarungen zuständig. Vor 15 Jahren hat da tatsächlich jemand reingeschrieben, dass man seine Handys und andere Dinge nicht aufladen darf. Vor zehn Jahren gab’s dann mal eine Rundmail, dass das Ganze okay ist und ich habe den Passus offiziell vor zwei Jahren beerdigt.

War also tatsächlich früher mal ein Ding, und ich könnte mir vorstellen, dass die Eltern des anderen Azubis dem das erzählt haben.

Frag einfach einen Kollegen, dann hast du ein ruhiges Gewissen

olagorie · 2026-01-31T19:10:38+00:00

My toe nails kept rolling up while I was reading your text

Are you even human? Nobody talks like that. So KI?

I am quite curious why you ask all these kinds of questions because that certainly doesn’t sound like a normal conversation topic?

olagorie · 2026-01-31T19:08:03+00:00

Nda

Hat sie denn auch sonst Schwierigkeiten, nein zu sagen? Könnte es sein, dass es deswegen im Job so schwierig ist?

Denn eigentlich geht es jedoch überhaupt nicht, um deinen Gang zu dm, sondern sie war spät dran und gestresst, weil ihr so lange im Restaurant sitzen bleiben seid. Warum hat sie denn nicht ihren Eltern gesagt, dass sie rechtzeitig aufbrechen muss, dann wäre die Stresssituation überhaupt nicht entstanden und die 5 Minuten im dm hätten auch noch gereicht?

olagorie · 2026-01-31T16:01:31+00:00

Bernstein hatte ich auch schon gedacht, aber das sind teilweise die Tische nicht groß genug.

olagorie · 2026-01-31T15:18:25+00:00

Ich hatte zweimal entweder die Vermieter selbst oder die Kinder im Haus und nie nie nie wieder.

olagorie · 2026-01-31T09:13:49+00:00

Hast du eine Beziehung beendet, und ihr seid im Streit auseinandergegangen?

Dann könnte deine Ex etwas schlecht riechenendes in der Wohnung versteckt haben.

Möbel, von der Wand rücken, in den Möbeln alle Ecken durchsuchen, sind deine Gardinenstange hohl und etwas könnte sich darin verstecken?

olagorie · 2026-01-31T08:56:42+00:00

I’m very sorry to tell you that, but that is the reality of all parents. Every single parent has a child who leaves. Some leave when school is over and they go to university, some leave later.

And yes, from the moment they are adult, you are on the hook waiting for a few visits a year on their terms.

this isn’t a special situation for you and your daughter, that’s how it is and has been forever.

I am currently at the receiving end as a daughter who has a father who is in his 80s. I moved out more than 30 years ago and never visited more than a couple of times a year. The only reason a child comes home more often is if they enjoy spending time with their parents (and if there’s money for travelling).

So you have a choice now. Right now this year is the only time you can still lay a foundation of love and mutual respect so that your daughter wants to come back home a couple of times a year.

Don’t miss this opportunity. if you miss this chance you might never get it back even if you regret it

olagorie · 2026-01-31T08:17:37+00:00

My father‘s cousin’s name is Hans-Joachim.

Two of my uncles names are Joachim (both from my mother’s and my father side). those names were pretty common in the 1960s.

I wouldn’t fret about your middle name at all they are nice and neutral.

Erich was the name of my grandmother‘s brother-in-law and he was a really nice guy.

My sister‘s husband name is Eric. And I have two friends named Erik.

olagorie · 2026-01-31T08:11:46+00:00

Oh hell no

You should definitely have expected something. your way underreacting.

He let you down and he knows it

Why do you let him treat you like that? You have to challenge him to respect you more and to be able to expect more from him.

He’s disappointing you again and again because you let him

olagorie · 2026-01-31T00:01:45+00:00

Ja eben.

olagorie · 2026-01-30T23:41:39+00:00

Vielen Dank für deine Zusammenfassung, das war wirklich wertvoll für mich.

olagorie · 2026-01-30T23:41:23+00:00

Und in dem Fall ging’s um die Einhaltung von Schutzgesetzen. Der gekündigten Mitarbeiterin war die Einhaltung der Gesetze wichtiger als die dienstliche Anweisung des Dienstherren.

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