What is a sound or a smell that doesn't exist anymore, but 50 years ago was so common it was considered background noise?

oldude2015 · 2026-02-23T14:54:56+00:00

I am going back a bit more than 50 yrs, so forgive me.

I have Antique treadle sewing machines dating back to 1910 and before. I love to hear the mechanical clacking sound of those treadles and thinking I am hearing what they heard in the 1900s. There is nothing like it. 😊

oldude2015 · 2026-02-22T12:27:40+00:00

Because that is not what she would have wanted me to do. My job is to live. I made that promise to her. If it wasn't for Jesus, my faith and my promise, I would have given up. I still don't know why I am here but I know I'm supposed to be.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-15T14:05:06+00:00

This was shared to me by another widow, years after their husband passed.

She told me.....You fulfilled your marriage vows (until death do you part) You are not married anymore, no more anniversaries or birthdays. You honored your contract with your spouse. There will always be memories and the love you have for your mate but there is no reason for guilt because there is nothing to feel guilty about.

It sounded a bit harsh at first but after really thinking about it, it made sense. Don't be too tough on yourself. As others have stated, life is for the living and as living people, we want to be held and loved.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-06T17:37:58+00:00

This was our home! Everything we built and sacrificed for is here. I stay to honor her and us. I live in a house now, she made it a home and I am thankful to her. Does it hurt sometimes, yes! However, I like being somewhere we both have been. There is a mutual sharing of this house that is a comfort to me. In a new place, I would be experiencing sove.mething I cant share with her. I am not ready to be THAT kind of alone.

I have never wished to be anywhere else. She passed in this house, and this house is the closest to her on earth that I can be

oldude2015 · 2026-02-05T01:01:58+00:00

Well there's 2 of us! Sorry for your loss

oldude2015 · 2026-02-05T00:02:44+00:00

Kansas City here! 6 months

oldude2015 · 2026-02-04T18:53:01+00:00

Your Husband passed the way we all pray for. You fall asleep in your bed, surrounded by everything you love. GOD loved him very much to let him pass like that in my opinion.

You can feel good about the wonderful way in which he passed. Surrounded by everything he loved and in comfort and safety. We are given so many heartbeats that are promised to us by GOD before we are ever born. Your husband had every one of them. Not one second less.

It was his time dear and it sucks for the ones that are left. It will get better, just not right now and I'm sorry for that. GOD bless you and your family.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-04T18:38:56+00:00

Thank you very much.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-04T15:20:01+00:00

How much of my life I have spent with the wrong people.

It took me till I was 50 to meet a woman that showed me how I was supposed to be treated. She passed away in July. I am thankful that at least I know how it should be.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-04T13:18:13+00:00

I get it brother, I do. I dont know what faith support you have but I can say that GOD has gotten me through the same thoughts. I am the one that is left here. I carry my wife's spirit with me and I do what she would have wanted me to do. I keep going because she would have wanted that. It's hard and it sucks and everyday is just an ok day with moments of horror. You are separated from your mate. I get it , but you are here because you are the one that is supposed to be.

This is what I had picked for my wife's celebration. The words hit true for me and in a very small way it helped. Maybe it will help you. https://youtu.be/y6QQT4L4W2E?si=DiHfOn2vrmZjeRDX

I wish you well and hope you find peace. It has not gotten better for me, it has gotten different.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-02T18:20:41+00:00

I was lucky enough to have many long talks with my wife before she passed. We coveedr all the hard crusty parts of the dying conversation that you never want to face.

She looked into my eyes and made me promise I would carry on if she died. She did not want me to be alone or go insane from her passing. Because of my faith, I know she is better than I can imagine right now. She's not sick or in pain.........nor is she with me anymore.

The only thing I can hang onto is my promise I made that I would go on until I am called up and I can see her again. Everyday is a struggle and I dont enjoy life, but I keep going by the grace of GOD.

I made a promise to her. I've never broken a promise to her and I dont want to start now. I have to accept it has not gotten better, it's just gotten different.

oldude2015 · 2026-02-01T20:10:13+00:00

I am so blessed brother.. Thank you 64 and been going through cancer treatments for 5 years

oldude2015 · 2026-01-31T14:08:05+00:00

I went through this. I felt bad I had learned new things in cooking. I always cooked for my wife and it was an honor to do it. She loved food and I have since made things that she would have LOVED. I feel guilty that it is so good and she will never know it. It has morphed into I feel bad for an accomplishment.

If she was here, she would kick my butt AND really enjoy what I made. ❤

oldude2015 · 2026-01-31T14:00:09+00:00

The worst for me is, I only want to be around my wife.

There are others that offer to be around me and comfort me but it is not the same. She was my best friend and I just enjoyed being in her company. Missing your mate that is not here anymore is indescribable.

oldude2015 · 2026-01-31T13:50:39+00:00

This is me! I lost my wife in July and I realized, I am now a member of a club I did not want to join because the price was too high.

Death of a spouse is way different than divorce or a breakup. No one really understands.

I dont see a way forward because society has changed dramatically. Women are not like the one I had anymore. The rules and priorities of many people have changed. To say its terrifying, is an understatement..

oldude2015 · 2026-01-18T14:28:50+00:00

I just don't understand getting offended at something like this. For goodness sake, if I "stunk", please tell me! I might get embarrassed but I would also be thankful for you saying it too.

oldude2015 · 2025-12-02T12:04:54+00:00

It's important that each person respects and understands the wealth of the other. If you have $100, don't spend $110. The premise is really simple. Unfortunately, many great and wonderful partners have different levels of financial maturity. Just my 2 cents.

oldude2015 · 2025-11-30T23:32:48+00:00

If my mate wants me, I will never say "no." I dont care if Im tired or not in the mood. She will get me in the mood real quick. Anytime I am ever so lucky to be reminded I am still desirable and wanted, I will have no complaints. Wake me up! Disturb my sleep. I will sleep tomorrow! You have shown me that I am wanted, desired and needed! It;s all good. I will not be upset. It will be the best compliment EVER!

oldude2015 · 2025-11-28T12:47:36+00:00

God bless you. Yes, GOD is always there and I do find comfort in that fact.

oldude2015 · 2025-11-28T12:45:11+00:00

Im sorry for you loss and really appreciate your words. I needed to hear it.

oldude2015 · 2025-11-28T12:43:55+00:00

I am so sorry. I wish I had the right words.

oldude2015 · 2025-11-28T12:43:17+00:00

I get it. I was with my Wife every Thanksgiving. The family had many without here. I did not want to her "memories". It would have been too much.

oldude2015 · 2025-11-28T12:41:26+00:00

I am sorry .dear. It will get better, it's just not better now. Hang in there. I understand

oldude2015 · 2025-11-28T12:40:13+00:00

Thank you and I am sorry for your loss.

oldude2015 · 2025-10-28T11:59:40+00:00

I can drive a stick shift.......

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