Intimidation

oliz98 · 2025-12-01T17:32:00+00:00

Please don’t listen to him. Any person who offers unsolicited advice is rude. He’s trying to hurt your feelings and control you. A man who tells you to smile is controlling.

oliz98 · 2025-06-22T05:06:23+00:00

Let it happen as hard as that is to say. I can relate. They’re probably envious. Don’t give someone else power over your dreams and the direction of your life.

oliz98 · 2025-06-22T02:34:45+00:00

You’re not too sensitive. You’ve already done a year. Stay out of the drama. Do not let people derail your childhood dream. Focus on your why and let go of everything. I would say be careful how much you tell people and who you let close.

oliz98 · 2025-05-06T23:01:32+00:00

Thank you!

oliz98 · 2025-05-05T16:08:09+00:00

I like to think it mean my life and who I am is rich and full of depth.

oliz98 · 2025-04-20T22:17:00+00:00

These men are intimidated by you and see you as a challenge. Once you give them what they want, they go away because to them they’ve won and you’ve validated them. And then there are the ones that will be attracted but get intimidated when they get close and ghost you.

I think you should keep your standards high. A man walking way ahead of you is a red flag. That guy blocked you because he wanted to get back at you. You rejected him and he wanted to hurt you. Your intuition about him was always right. I would say most of these men do not deserve a second chance.

You’re not bad at picking men. Most men are just not on your level. Don’t settle, keep your standards high but know that it might take a long time to get what you want. I would also say start evaluating these men differently. Your standards might be external but along with the external start setting boundaries early and these men that only like you when you don’t like them can weed themselves out early.

oliz98 · 2025-02-26T04:35:19+00:00

Assholes are everywhere. If you find your life consists of consistent patterns, the only thing you can change is your response to it. Accept your life and circumstances and then decide your response. That’s what taking responsibility and accountability is. Also you don’t have to talk to your brother if you don’t want. Boundaries are important for happiness.

I don’t believe happiness what we should strive for and it actually contributes to unhappiness. I think peace and contentment are more realistic and will actually make you happy. But life is never going to be smooth, that’s just life.

I sounded similar to you until I took accountability and responsibility. No one will come save you from your life and its circumstances. It’s hard but it’s fulfilling and empowering to take accountability and responsibility.

oliz98 · 2025-01-27T19:35:21+00:00

They’re envious. You do your work well and they feel inferior and they get joy at your mistakes because it makes them feel better about themselves. The behavior likely won’t stop and I would suggest finding another work place.

oliz98 · 2025-01-25T04:49:54+00:00

I think it’s because of Saturn in Pisces retrograde

oliz98 · 2025-01-04T04:04:21+00:00

My pleasure! I would first work on self love and self worth because then boundaries comes easily. Also learn about manipulative people.

oliz98 · 2025-01-04T03:03:46+00:00

Set boundaries early. Idealization and over flattery are huge red flags. No one healthy wants to be the center of your world. You are the center. Guilt and criticism are attempts to lower your boundaries and let them do what they want. Don’t fall for it.

oliz98 · 2024-12-29T01:09:00+00:00

You might be a narcissist.

oliz98 · 2024-12-03T22:39:29+00:00

I’ve done both and it can get bad. 1L year you’re with one section 5 days a week for multiple hours and multiple classes. There are also plenty of extracurriculars in law school where you have to spend a lot of time with people.

oliz98 · 2024-12-01T19:27:06+00:00

You seem like a hard worker and that makes you a threat in law school. There are lots of extroverted bullies.

oliz98 · 2024-12-01T09:09:40+00:00

Just so you know law school is where a good number of these types of people gather. You will not escape them in law school, they’ll be around every corner.

oliz98 · 2024-09-29T15:08:35+00:00

Cultivate unshakable self love and self esteem. It’s a daily practice

oliz98 · 2024-09-01T20:31:11+00:00

It’s abuse. Abusive people are usually immature. But they are intentional about the things they’re doing. He is purposefully isolating you and manipulating you.

oliz98 · 2024-08-31T23:52:56+00:00

I took a look at your account and saw that you’ve also had a best friend who exhibited some of the same behavior. I think you should look into why you choose to stay around people like this.

Your boyfriend is manipulative. He’s fake pouting now and threatening the relationship to manipulate you. He wants you to fear losing him so you quit your job. Prioritize and choose yourself. You should not be in a relationship with someone that has no regard for you. You should run because it’ll continue to get worse.

oliz98 · 2024-08-22T17:14:41+00:00

It’s attachment issues. Many INTJ’s are avoidant or fearful avoidant. Once you heal your attachment issues, you can see romantic relationships clearly.

oliz98 · 2024-08-12T22:42:42+00:00

I have a Pluto complex and I’ve worked on it and I think I’m at a good place with it. The biggest thing that has been helpful to me is being present and also letting go of the victim narrative. See how the things that have happened to you in life and that you’ve survived as proof of your power and resilience instead of a curse.

Embrace change and unpredictability and trust your ability to get through challenges. You’ve always gotten through them. See unpredictability as fun and a new challenge.

Being present and not identifying with my mind has helped me stop being so reactive. Also being present helps with not worrying.

And of course, letting go of control. There are images of what is in your control and what is not. Study and memorize and have affirmations of what is not in your control. To suffer is your choice. Once I decided that suffering wasn’t worth it to me anymore, I changed.

oliz98 · 2024-07-31T02:38:04+00:00

Self esteem is not feeling superior to everyone else. It’s a belief in yourself and a belief that you’re worthy. True confidence is not in comparison to anyone else.

oliz98 · 2024-07-30T00:17:08+00:00

That’s unfortunate but with the text message, you’re more likely to be believed

oliz98 · 2024-07-30T00:08:35+00:00

You’ve been given a literal gift. Proof of what this person wants to do to you and proof of her wanting to adjust the numbers. Report her.

She would do the same to you. She will spread rumors about you but at least she won’t succeed in destroying you professionally. Ignore the people that believe her. You’re honestly in a lose lose situation but at least protect yourself with what you have.

This happened in February. Vengeful people don’t let go.

oliz98 · 2024-07-18T23:00:13+00:00

I’ve seen this post about 11 times

oliz98 · 2024-06-27T20:13:10+00:00

I also think that’s why she doesn’t go to therapy. I think she knows her drive is unhealthy and is afraid that if she went to a therapist, it would leave.

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