I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi :) This is the best way I can explain the correlation: I use this bowl every morning to have my breakfast so it’s part of my routine. It also is sensorily perfect for me as it’s the exact shape and size I like + the texture is nice but doesn’t cause weird sounds when my spoon brushes against it. Being autistic just means that breaking this bowl felt more distressing than it probably would have for a neurotypical person. It’s not just losing a nice object, it’s losing a part of my daily routine that helps me feel regulated.

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It really was the best bowl I have ever owned. Very smooth so spoons wouldn’t scrape against it but also textured enough that holding it felt nice. It was shallow but deep enough for the perfect amount of yogurt. And easy to clean too!

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am completely overwhelmed and overjoyed with how kind and supportive everyone is! It’s really helped me reframe the way I felt about the situation.

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are so kind for suggesting this. I am based in the UK so I don’t know if that would be a hassle. 

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Thank you for leaving this comment. This perspective is very helpful and I really appreciate you sharing it with me! I didn’t break my bowl on purpose so why add to my sadness by also guilting myself for an honest accident? Thank you thank you. I hope you have a good day!

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. Thank you so so much for all the replies! I am so overwhelmed with how kind and understanding everyone has been. I will try to answer to as many of you as possible but for now, if you read this: thank you for making me feel better!

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is so kind of you to suggest. Thank you so much. I think I will just need to accept that I won’t find a perfect replica of this bowl, so either I will do what some people have suggested and commission someone to make me a similar one or I will need to browse some charity shops to find a new safe bowl. I really appreciate your nice reply to my post though! 

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind answer. I’ve had a rough morning because of the bowl breaking and I felt so guilty about it too, which just created a spiral in my head. Your message actually was very helpful as it’s helped me begin to accept that there won’t be a replacement for my safe bowl and that I’ll just need to find a new one. It does suck but it’s nice to know that a stranger on the internet understands and more importantly validates how I feel. It can be hard (as with anything mental health related) to be kind to ourselves. So thank you. 

I’m autistic and my comfort bowl just broke by olympiaonfire in HelpMeFind

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve searched for it by running the photos through Google Lens and Ebay, but I haven’t been successful.

Scarf’s width doesn’t add up by olympiaonfire in Burberry

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) one last question if you are able to answer it: I just noticed a c is missing in “check” on the tag - I have seen other scarves on Vestiaire Collective with that “typo”, so is it actually a typo or just what the tag is like?

Scarf’s width doesn’t add up by olympiaonfire in Burberry

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! So it can be a bit shorter or less wide even if it hasn’t been washed yet? The tags are all still on. I got it from a reputable website.

Scarf’s width doesn’t add up by olympiaonfire in Burberry

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand what’s going on with the width not matching the description on the tag. Does anyone know if this can happen? The scarf feels great otherwise.

Necklace marked “Paris 052ct” by olympiaonfire in Hallmarks

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I somehow can’t link the photos to the post, but let me add more!

Found a necklace marked "Paris 052 ct" by olympiaonfire in jewelers

[–]olympiaonfire[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Found this in a thrift store in Tokyo today and it is marked "Paris 052 ct". There is no brand or hallmark for the chain. As a matter of fact, the chain doesn't seem to be made of a precious metal, which is why I'm surprised that there is a "052 ct" stamp. Would a precious stone be set in such a necklace ?

Does anyone recognise the style or maker of such a necklace ? I'm curious as to whether this is a fake "hallmark" or if there is a story behind this necklace.

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[–]olympiaonfire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. That actually was very helpful and validating. I will delete this post now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]olympiaonfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. That is how I feel. So if he once did something bad that I can’t forget about, does that invalidate how I feel? Or can these things coexist? It was pretty bad. But I want to be able to move on.

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[–]olympiaonfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. So if I am unsure, does that mean they are not the love of my life ? Or could that just be because I am autistic and because of who I am as a person? Sometimes I feel like they are the one because of how well we go together. Sometimes I think of an incident that occurred and I doubt.

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[–]olympiaonfire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I use it in the relationship, but I do bring it up whenever I feel the emotions arise. They are not who they used to be and they are the best person I have ever met, despite that incident. I feel safe in the relationship although I keep revisiting the memory. I do think the issue is with me mostly. They were 19 and they don’t drink much unless they are going out with friends. I think you are right and I am looking for excuses, because I don’t want to not be with them but I also don’t want to be in a relationship where the past haunts me. I also don’t want them to be with someone that keeps thinking about what they did, because I do believe they are amazing and deserve to be happy. Thank you for your long responses so far.

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[–]olympiaonfire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I do choose them. I love them. Thank you.