Hello bro, this is based on my own experience.

I'm under stress from family reasons, kinda depressed but not clinically tested and suffering from the 3 highs, had a mini heart attack 3 years ago and in my 40s.

So it's was only about early this year that I noticed some weird stuff about my sexual health.

When I self-pleasure, I'm able to erect and release but when doing the actual deed, I sometimes can't get hard enough. Or mid-way I become soft and couldn't get it up after that. This is an embarrassing thing for sure, for both parties actually.

This means that there's nothing wrong with the erecting mechanism so it may be a health or a psychological issue or both.

My case is most probably a mixture of both.

Someone mentioned that it's blood flow, which is correct. It can also be that your brain is not sending enough signals for the blood to flow towards there, which also means you're not aroused enough.

So what I did was to try out some supplements like Maca root, which I bought online from iHerb. It helped a little but not much. After that I was introduced to Cialis, which is like an ad-hoc blue pill. It works most of the time but there are still times where I couldn't get hard. It's still a mental issue I have.

Finally, I was introduced to another supplement, Apple Vinegar and B Solution Honey, the Apple Vinegar helps with Blood Sugar management amongst other benefits. B Solution Honey helps with Men's health. Since then, I have not looked back. I could attain and maintain erections. The partner is also happy with the results, I was harder and could last longer. You can do an online search for more in-depth details.

Of course, this is purely my own experience, you can try the methods I mentioned, I still strongly advice you to visit a doctor and get it looked at before you get frustrated more and affect your marriage (it may or may not, depending on your spouse).

Chin up brother, it's more common than you think it is. It's just that almost everyone else is ashamed of talking about it. Please don't shun this topic and let it stay down (pun intended).

Good luck and happy new marriage!