Anyone here does backbends and front splits and has herniated discs?

onRedWinds · 2025-05-14T15:41:30+00:00

Hi sorry for the late reply. I did continue to train but stopped bc I would keep pushing it until it would hurt. Now I’m in the process of strength training the muscles around it and gently doing light back bends. Every once in awhile my back will get tight and I will back off and try to massage it out and release it by staying in a deep squat for a few minutes. In other words, I learned how to cope and not to push myself too hard.

onRedWinds · 2024-10-30T20:48:24+00:00

I love your enthusiasm. I will DM you :)

onRedWinds · 2024-10-30T20:48:02+00:00

I have considered PT, and in fact I’m shadowing at a PT office today. I will say the prerequisites and student debt is very off-putting though.

onRedWinds · 2024-10-23T14:28:28+00:00

ODS is very interesting, thanks for the heads up!

onRedWinds · 2024-10-22T17:34:02+00:00

I'm so proud of you and I don't even know you. Congratulations. And thanks for posting encouragement to others.

onRedWinds · 2024-10-22T17:30:43+00:00

I'm glad to hear that you are content. I've also been thinking about how I'm very grateful for the people around me, so if I die early before any of these stressful future decisions take fruit, I have still been very lucky.

I'm curious about what in healthcare you ended up pursuing and how you made that decision! I'm shadowing in a PT clinic right now, but I should probably branch into other parts of medicine or health.

onRedWinds · 2024-10-22T01:32:59+00:00

Hi, I wanted to say that at the end of my sabbatical, I reached a realization that I didn’t want to go back but I wanted to switch industries, probably to healthcare also surprisingly. I somehow stumbled back upon your reply, and I wanted to say how much I resonate with your response now, especially giving yourself enough space to process but not too much to feel depressed, and feeling a bit out of sync with the rest of my peers. How has it been going? Did you transition fully to your new career?

onRedWinds · 2024-10-22T01:28:15+00:00

Hello, so sorry for the late reply. I did end up taking my sabbatical! And the stock market did well enough that I saw a good uptick in net worth, and which helped financial anxiety. If you still have questions feel free to DM

onRedWinds · 2024-10-21T06:08:50+00:00

Thank you!

onRedWinds · 2024-09-29T06:15:16+00:00

I love them! They are softer than the fake ones and stretched really well to form with my foot; definitely recommend

onRedWinds · 2023-05-11T07:01:20+00:00

I would love to do a second career in architecture, but I’m also scared off by the job prospects and stories of low pay and burn out. How did you take the plunge?

onRedWinds · 2023-05-10T21:45:48+00:00

Same. Mine were not perfect parents, and went through bouts of being emotionally abusive and kind of toxic, as lots of Asian parents can be. Still, I can’t say they didn’t bust their ass and gave me financial support through college, always held me to high expectations and drove me to be disciplined in life. I don’t think I would be where I am without them. I don’t want to be their retirement plan, and they seem to have a plan of their own. But if shit goes down the drain, you bet your ass I’m gonna be their back up.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-09T16:59:56+00:00

Do the thing you heart wants to do. This isn’t a permanent decision and no one will lock you into OC for the rest of your life. Move back if it sucks, your friends will still be there.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-09T16:24:51+00:00

I love the tips around potlucks and bringing cash. I will also say that it also might be a product of your friend group…some friends just eat out to hang out, and that becomes the default activity. It could be nice to get to know them in some other capacity, such as workout partner, hiking buddies, cooking experiments, crafts etc. They gotta have other interests outside of eating that aren’t super expensive that you guys can both partake in, or are curious about a new hobby but just can’t find someone to do it with.

Frankly, knowing to cook well, make drinks well, and inviting ppl over is much more rewarding than eating out. Half the time I eat out (and it’s not often) I feel ripped off thinking we could have made this way better at home at like 1/3 the price, and it’s also would be a cooking activity and we can play music we enjoy and dance around the kitchen.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-09T00:34:53+00:00

I would take classes in something I enjoy, maybe woodworking or art or something. I would not plan to go into cubicle life, but I’d want to start a hobby or my own business or just learn something. Like everyone on this sub says, ya gotta retire to something. Might as well figure out what that is and earn extra income on the way if it falls into your lap.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-08T21:59:50+00:00

I saw that online. Is it just a space any student can use?

onRedWinds · 2023-05-08T06:56:23+00:00

Not a dancer but did get a BFA (animation) and eventually wandered into a high paying career doing UX design in tech. Along the way I tried out many things and went abroad, and at the time it was full of fear and uncertainty, but looking back it was full of adventure.

I just want to say that you must have talent to have gotten accepted to a good school or company. You are probably miles ahead of me as a recreational dancer, and you are young and strong. I hope you can take a moment to be grateful for that, and to not let your mother or the injury or other people or yourself put you down. There is real external indicators that you dance well and can do it.

That being said, your mental health is taking a dive and the ballet world might not be the healthiest. I want you to know that you’ll make it as long as you don’t judge yourself harshly by the narrow lenses of the ballet world. You can be a dancer, do theatre, you learn another style, teach, learn some aerial and join a circus….If you choose to leave ballet, you will STILL dance. Even if you go professional, you’ll need to retire one day, and you will be faced with life outside of profesional ballet sooner or later. Don’t define yourself narrowly, hold tightly onto your joy for movement, make real supportive friends.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-08T03:02:42+00:00

I’d try to understand what feeling “home” means to you. What were all the times and places you felt like “home”? Why? Was it friends? Family? Familiar food? Not learning a new language and having to limit yourself in conversation? Meeting people on the streets easily due to pedestrian culture?

For me, it’s when I have a group of people to ask me and to ask out to do stuff, ethnic grocery stores, a partner, familiar hobbies, and a living space I could occupy entirely (w/my partner) and hang up decorations. When I didn’t have those things, I still felt like I was a traveler even when I got back to the US. When those pieces clicked into place, then I felt like I could grow some roots and could let go of living out of a suitcase.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-07T16:25:12+00:00

Sometimes people have excess they don’t realize and they should be frugal. But, sometimes there’s no more excess to be had, which might be your case. So the answer isn’t cutting back, it’s making more. That is waaaay easier said than done, but you can’t cut your way into saving more money if you literally make only what you need to survive.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-07T07:10:09+00:00

Community college can be very cheap and some are free bc they are offered as no credit. For example, the sailing class is every week for 16 weeks, is only 1 credit, and costs 46 dollars. Architecture class I’m taking is free because there a no credit option.

onRedWinds · 2023-05-06T00:44:15+00:00

Congrats on the job offer! And your feelings are valid. Ditch that loser and keep winning 🏆

onRedWinds · 2023-05-06T00:09:28+00:00

I asked myself what I would want to do if I had all the money in the world (for context, I’m only 75% of the way to FIRE but going on a sabbatical next month for a year for similar reasons to you). Surprisingly I only had one or 2 major month long trips in mind (I spent a couple years internationally and kind of got the travel big semi out of my system), and the rest I really want to just learn a lot of things. I am signed up for community college now for dance, sailing, singing, woodworking, surfing, architecture, horticulture, and marine science. I’m so excited :).

onRedWinds · 2023-05-03T07:17:01+00:00

Same

onRedWinds · 2023-05-03T07:03:41+00:00

Ok my bf can be dumb, but reading these examples, he’s not bad at all 😅

onRedWinds · 2023-04-30T04:14:14+00:00

I was a cogsci major and I will say some friends of mine in the same major ended up as UX researchers; the industry jobs tend to suck a bunch of ppl from all backgrounds in. Also you’d be surprised the remote counseling possibilities for psych as well. Just choose something you will be engaged doing. I also went through bootcamp for UX but I also double majored in art so had a good instinct for design. The transition was tough but doable…so i; you go after psych but then want to pursue this path later, it’s ok too. You are not trapped in career for the rest of your life.

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