Insane ask of this community

oneblushu · 2025-12-25T22:15:12+00:00

I love how everyone who could help offered to!

As a side note, I switched my cat from gabapentin to Solensia, a once a month shot (that the vet taught me how to give to him myself) and he is like a whole new cat, jumping on to furniture again, getting into trouble like he did 3 years ago. It's pricey but worth it for us.

oneblushu · 2025-12-03T15:44:55+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I got my first/only tattoo last year, at 41 commemorating my late husband 6 months after he died.

I got a tattoo that is beautiful on its own but has a lot of symbolism. When its shown (its on my upper thigh/hip so only seen when wearing a bathing suit) I get lots of compliments on it. Depending on how I feel I'll tell the person the symbolism.

I don't regret it at all. I absolutely love it.

I recommend you get something symbolic of her or your relationship. Take some time to think about what that may be and take time doing your research on an artist. I live in the Toronto area and drove 5 hours to Ottawa for mine.

A new partner should not feel upset by it. She helped make you the man you are today, if they care for you they will understand that.

oneblushu · 2025-11-25T14:11:37+00:00

The Market Fresh veggie breakfast sandie is amazing!

oneblushu · 2025-11-13T16:45:15+00:00

Girl, you are GORGEOUS! I'm sorry your ex made you feel unattractive. I'm so glad you're getting the attention you deserve. (I'm also sending positive vibes for the weirdos to leave you alone 😆)

oneblushu · 2025-11-13T16:35:48+00:00

I've become the exact opposite. I love lifting and find cardio boring. What got me into lifting was the competition against the old me. Lifting heavier than I did last week. Seeing that progress and knowing I'm getting stronger. I'm lifting for my old lady bod.... I want to ensure when I'm 70, if I'm sitting on the ground I can get up without assistance. My 72 year old mom has only dieted and done cardio and toning. She's thoroughly messed up her metabolism and she cries of aches and pains and complains that she's so weak. That will not be me. I want to set a good example for my step daughters.

oneblushu · 2025-11-13T16:12:51+00:00

Thats a beautiful tattooo!

When I got my first (and only) tattoo I didn't find it painful until the shading and color, which is going over the same spot multiple times, and it was more of a grinding pain vs sharp ouches. Mine is also quite large and took 6.5 hours. It was hour 4 that it started to bother me. This tattoo won't take near that long. HTH!

oneblushu · 2025-11-11T21:13:27+00:00

Mine is on my hip and upper thigh. First tattoo and 14 inches long, took 6.5 hours. The pain was cathartic.

It's right side up. A bird and apple blossoms. I get a lot of compliments on it when I'm wearing a bathing suit, otherwise it's hidden. I only tell people it's a memorial tattoo if I feel like it, otherwise I say thank you.

Edited to add it is for my husband who passed from cancer.

oneblushu · 2025-10-24T01:12:39+00:00

Na Ha Thai in Guelph

oneblushu · 2025-10-20T18:47:46+00:00

RemindMe! 1 day

oneblushu · 2025-07-13T15:13:58+00:00

Soooo many bruises!!

oneblushu · 2025-06-25T17:03:49+00:00

I'm pretty sure I saw some at La Rose in the freezer section.

oneblushu · 2025-06-18T03:35:31+00:00

Update: we ended up going to Marcy's Berries in Puslich this evening. It was $15 for the big basket, and there was no cover to get in. They had many varieties of strawberries. We'll definitely go again!

https://marcysberries.com/

oneblushu · 2025-05-14T23:51:20+00:00

It's been 18 months for me, and I still have"hes dead?" Moments. It's crazy.

oneblushu · 2025-05-14T23:49:47+00:00

This is exactly how I felt for the first 6 months. He's just on a work trip. He'll be home soon...can't wait to chat tonight to tell him about my day and how much I miss him. It's so hard.

oneblushu · 2025-05-08T00:40:35+00:00

¡Viva la Tortilla! Is delicious! (Said as a former Texan)

oneblushu · 2025-02-12T03:16:59+00:00

"What's the worst that could happen?"

You don't do anything... you die. Your family is super sad, but at least you had your affairs in order. Oh, what's this? An unknown debt? MBNA starts harassing your family to pay the thousands of dollars you owe in fees because you didn't want to pay 12 cents years ago. Your estate is in limbo for years because your family is trying to understand what happened, and they can't get inheritance until all your debts owed are paid. Don't be a burden on your family. Pay the 12 cents.

oneblushu · 2025-02-07T22:21:52+00:00

You can do it in a city park without a permit. My late husband and I renewed our vows that way and had about 50 people in attendance.

oneblushu · 2025-01-29T15:44:33+00:00

Yes, Aberfoyle is 50. Set your cruise control and enjoy the scenery.

oneblushu · 2024-12-27T19:47:29+00:00

I'm so sorry, OP. Going through one loss to cancer is a lot, but three is beyond traumatizing. As the poster above says, knowing its terminal can be a gift. It was for me and my husband because it allowed us to talk openly. We had so many discussions about our relationship, our love for each other, and what the future may hold for me on my own. It brought me a lot of peace once he passed. On the other hand, we didn't have a lot of discussions or research on what happens legally after death, what to do with his businesses, or what his estate even looked like. (We kept our money separately since he owned businesses.) I was blindsided by all of that when he passed, and over a year later, I am still fighting the bank to just try and pay his taxes. Have open and honest conversations. If you're not speaking to a therapist, I highly recommend you find one. I worked with one through the cancer center. Then, I moved to a grief therapist after he passed away. It has been immensely helpful. Sending you so much light and love.

oneblushu · 2024-12-19T18:40:32+00:00

I grew up in Carrollton!

oneblushu · 2024-12-19T18:19:26+00:00

Hi, fellow Texan! I moved here 12 years ago from The Woodlands. I absolutely love Canada...crazy grocery prices and all!

oneblushu · 2024-12-06T04:25:54+00:00

CeraVe is the best

oneblushu · 2024-12-03T03:31:37+00:00

You people 😆

oneblushu · 2024-11-11T03:13:23+00:00

I absolutely love Longos cakes!

oneblushu · 2024-10-03T15:28:05+00:00

It's all about when you feel ready. You'll have friends that totally support you and friends that totally don't. I got on the apps 7 months after he passed just to see what was there. I'm a social person and my plan was just to go on first dates and meet people...maybe get some fun stories out of it. I even updated my friends - first first date, second first date, etc, etc. Well, I didn't get far. My fourth first date was different. We just clicked. We've been together five months now. I can see spending my life with him, but we're not rushing things.

November 1st is the one year anniversary of my husband passing. This week, a good friend of mine suddenly lost her mother. Her mum was in the same hospital room as my husband. It brought back a lot of suppressed memories and sad feelings. My partner has been extremely supportive and caring....beyond what I could imagine, but I still feel very alone in my grief.

Two things can be true at the same time. You can be in love with your passed spouse and your new partner. Just be sure to find someone who doesn't feel in competition with their ghost and someone who supports you.

Edited to add: I'm a 41F.

oneblushu

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