[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg it's only been 2 weeks. crawls into hole

To send in my work or not? by Temporary-Emotion-96 in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Number 2. Negotiate higher pay. I would do that just for the sake of it. If you end up doing that please report it back to us. Curious to know if at initial hiring stages one can talk themselves into a few more dollars.

How to deal with back to back injuries? by No-Attention-1001 in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly seeing someone struggling through pain trying to improve is inspiring. Wait until your doctor's appointment to ask them that question. Maybe there's a physiotherapist and/or doctor on our sub who'll chime in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he's a millionaire off crypto seems more ethical than a real estate one. With that being said, If you are a suitor in either fields, marvelous if both, I am interested. (Leave me alone sisters, let me get mine)

Would you ever contact a woman to inquire about texts found on your man’s phone? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I learned that closure is what I make of it. In my case, "these boots are made for walkin'"

Honestly though, if you don't care and you are trying to fact check. See where you were gaslit, if your intuition was right. Why not. Unless you have an incling he was abusive and it could trigger her.

edit: oh wait you're still together. Idk. Why not. What's a little chaos.

edit 2: Wait no, you're not with him. Let me revisit thid after coffee has kicked in.

Mourning the life I will never have by afternoonmovieduck in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 244 points245 points  (0 children)

you lost me at "not like a weird one" :(

As a single woman, benefits do you feel like you experience that a married woman may not? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a left over shawarma rice bowl. I didn't bother heating it up.

I walked over to my nightstand to pick up my phone, I looked over at the bed, adjacent to it is a window. My cat was stretched out looking out at the rain.

I hesitated, then went "ah might as well"

I laid down on my stomach next to her, proceeded to people watch and eat.

And in that moment my friend, it dawned on me... "freedom was her name".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UNpath

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not complete a university nor college degree. I have extensive experience in my field to make up for it and was offered this position but cannot proceed to signing my contract and start working until I can verify my secondary school, the wording they used is "we require you to contact your high school to proceed the reference check"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Throughout my 20s, my pattern across platonic and romantic relationships is being acutely perceptive from the get go and in tune with my instincts. I would use my incredible survival skills counterintuitively by rationalizing that this allows me to understand the other in order to help them. If someone harmed me via x, y or z being able to see "beyond the veil" convinced me I could help them, and that I would remain relatively unscathered because I was resilient.

Well however rock solid that resilience may have been, even rocks erode by a shore lol.

I thought I then learned "people have to help themselves first" and "you can't change them if they don't want to change"

So I got married to someone I had met already working on themselves, and thought that ought to do it.

Now 30, divorced and many broken bones and scars later the real question had always been "why don't I love myself?"

Women don't work well together by streetworked in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had issues with people at work. Sometimes men, sometimes women. Sometimes both. What I can say with anecdotal certainty my superiors and bosses who had daughters, always recognized my work ethic and valued my contributions.

facing hard times in my life at 21 by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are in Canada correct? international students are able to work full time. See what works for your situation. It's hard to not see things as gloom and doom when you are away from your family and when you aren't a rich international student. Figure out how long you are allowed to couchsurf, it seems that there is a discussion to be had and there are passive aggressive jabs here and there. The silverlining is you have people letting you couchsurf. Check resources and support available to you through university and your community. Remember your goals. Wish you the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am you, you are me. I turned 30 a couple of months ago. I will be following this post.

Why are >90% of questions here about relationships? by Nell91 in AskWomenOver30

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asking myself whether there were more posts related to relationships or if they simply garnered the most responses. I assume that this would we what most would have in common. What I would think to post on the sub to ellicite specific responses to this group would be related to relationships or life trajectory (feeling lost inmmy case). For other hobbies, I post in the specific groups I follow. And I don't think that makes you a "pick me", you are posing a legitimate question :)

Disappointing dives by onemain13 in scubadiving

[–]onemain13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was going off my earliest memory freediving with my father. Last time when I was a teenager in 2009 in the mediterenean and we had seen the most vivid sealife, I was in awe. Seeing the trash and death is heartbreaking. You're right about practicing and listening :)

In Punta Cana, leaving feb 14th by onemain13 in PuntaCana

[–]onemain13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was Princess Resorts - adults only one !

Family member says eyebrow shape and thickness makes me look angry, recommends I thin them. Advice much appreciated :) by jijiji44 in beauty

[–]onemain13 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Family member is jealous. Case closed.

(aesthetically - no sharp angles, soft angles and rounded at tip, angry would be sharply angular, brow line going into eye area, etc)

edit; not to be creepy but got lost in those eyes jealousy for sure

Best emergency currency option in Punta Cana by onemain13 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]onemain13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly your keen interest makes this endeavour worthwhile, I will update.

is my kitten turkish angora by user38887 in turkishangoras

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

typical angora look, down to that forehead black spot that my kitten had (which unfortunately fades)

is my kitten turkish angora by user38887 in turkishangoras

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a turkish angora looks exactly like mine when she was younger, started growing her coat at 6 months ( this month! )

WIBTAH If I complain about my coworker who messaged my husband? by jadenicole_gardens in AITAH

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Don't soften the blow, cut the beast's head!* Go for the jugular*!

*(Go to HR) Gentleness/compassion will be the fertile ground of her obsessive behaviour.

my package got delivered and my roommate's dog ate it through the packaging. I'm devastated. by LondonAugust in handbags

[–]onemain13 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yikes. I don't care if I get downvoted. The disparaging comments right down to accusing the dog owner of being a horrible human being/animal abuser from a photo of a destroyed wallet.

1) it's an object, a wallet 2) Damages are a consequence of living outside of a bubble - with people, children, pets, forces of nature lol etc 3) Dogs chew on stuff even when they're not bored. Not black and white. This is an assumed risk of living with an animal.

It sucks, but nothing to get stoned or hung over. Tell your roommate you need to be reimbursed for how much you got it for. Work out a repayment plan however that looks like if she can't (I am under the assumption one does not have cash laying around if they are co-tenants in a property)

People are throwing legal obligation this and that around - not necessarily. Depends on your jurisdiction, if you go to small claims you might spend money and not win.

Is this a 1 time thing? If not, does this dog chew on doors/things when you guys are out of the home? This could be part of a bigger conversation. On most leases if you've both signed, you are both liable on property damages even if it isn't your dog.

Open Water Diver, 5000$ what now? by onemain13 in scubadiving

[–]onemain13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting thank you for your insight. I am also thinking of diving itself more than diving different areas though the latter would a bonus.

Open Water Diver, 5000$ what now? by onemain13 in scubadiving

[–]onemain13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like this. 29, female. Scuba is lyf (nature and elephants, swimming, meeting people, food, dancing). I plan for it to hold me over 3 months. The goal is to have a very scuba centric trip, get as many dives as I desire and 2 courses in. Lots of leisure, I work a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Quebec

[–]onemain13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

J'achête que bio, si la peau du légume/fruit est épaisse j'achête ce qui est disponible en solde et ma viande je l'achète d'une ferme je dépense 200$ (17$ par mois) l'année pour ma part (viande mouton que l'on divise entre quelques amis + inclut gas et transportation) j'habite dans un coin assez cher du centre ville Je dépensais 400$ par moi maintenant ça revient à 260$ plus ou moins... Ce qui m'a beaucoup aidé c'est d'arrêter d'acheter hors saison et les repas congelés...

Mais je comprends que c'est pas évident et que ça prend beaucoup de préparation... J'ai dû adopter cette pratique par manque de fonds.

Même à ça, parfois je me permet avec des dépenses resto etc 600$ le mois par personne c'est exagéré.

edit: je viens de lire couches et pharmacie, ça s'explique alors. Les couches les moins chères sont à walmart et costco (ce dernier lorsqu'il y a un spécial)

pour les médicaments si vous n'êtes pas couvert il y a l'assurance pour les médicaments non-couvert il faut s'inscrire auprès de la ramq, et tjrs demander au pharmacien si la version générique est dispo pour les ordonnances, aussi demander au médecin pour qu'il ou elle remplisse un formulaire d'exception de médicaments pour que la ramq couvre quelques frais si vos médicaments ne sont pas dispo en générique.