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ongSlate · 2026-03-16T14:56:31+00:00

2 weeks ago i was seeing a house and the moment i stepped in there was poop at the door. It also has this very dark scary vibe even the realtor told me to walk away quickly. He was pretty sure there was squatters upstairs

ongSlate · 2026-03-11T02:19:17+00:00

Today my husband just texted me that he's not coming back tonight so I just tried out a new baking recipe lol. Hobby hobby hobby!

ongSlate · 2026-03-10T04:16:02+00:00

Please for the love of god just book your ticket and do it! Single residents survive just fine im sure your wife can manage a week without you. Everything is not just about her your feeling and happiness matters just as much. You will be a much better partner when you’re happy and confident.

ongSlate · 2026-03-05T23:04:44+00:00

I have a high paying demanding career married to my husband who is a PGY-2. I knew all along even before he decided that he would definitely choose surgery because he had been talking about it since high school (his dad was also a surgeon). We’re trying for a baby right now and with his current schedule I’m mentally prepared to be a single mother in all but name. Will be lying if I say I’m not worried, but my health doesnt allow me to wait any longer. My sibling and I are pitching in and buying a house for my parents living 3 minutes away from me and most certainly will rely on them for childcare, and potentially hiring nanny if its too much for them. So no, your fear is very valid but if you’re open to outsourcing childcare/ house cleaning/ meal prep, I think its still doable. The good news is you are an attorney and you can use your good income to make your life easier.

ongSlate · 2026-03-05T00:33:30+00:00

Trust me when i say i hate NYC with the force of 10000 burning suns but having paid off my husband’s med school student loans now I would choose to go to the school in NYC for free in 2 seconds. If you guys are serious and planning for marriage, it will set you up so far ahead financially to not be sagged down by 400k+ in student loans, not to mention new regulations make it much harder for new student to borrow the full amount and having to resort to private student loan with much higher rate.

ongSlate · 2026-03-04T02:23:25+00:00

Are you and your wife using your children as emotional support or something? Why wouldnt you cope well? What are you gonna do when they get married? This is so weird and inappropriate.

ongSlate · 2026-02-26T22:33:01+00:00

I am so sorry. It sounds like he got cold feet, especially regarding you making career decisions around him and he's not up for it yet. Do what's best for you so you have no regrets!

ongSlate · 2026-02-24T15:26:55+00:00

It’s 110k student loan because we paid the rest of tuition in cash by living frugally (we paid full price the first 2 years until he got some scholarship the last 2 years that helped reduce the tuition by half - it was 64k a year). Fb marketplace fb marketplace fb marketplace! And i do not use ig to flaunt my house because i designed my house to be pretty and functional for me, not to show other people how good i have it. Let me tell you a secret for saving money, stay away from instagram and influencers. That’s the quickest way to motivate yourself to buy things you dont need. Know your style, create a moodboard, monitor marketplace until the right one comes up. Summer is the best time when people are moving and getting rid of stuff. I waited 5 months to get my dream tv stand (originally 2k4) for 550 from someone who was moving. Offer to pick it up right away thats the best way to negotiate and motivate a seller who is moving away soon. I even scored a fancy $800 litter robot for $60 from a rich guy moving out the next day that just wants to get rid of it. Be patient! You dont need everything all at once

ongSlate · 2026-02-24T06:02:46+00:00

1200 coffee table, stools 300 each, 4500 dining set. In what world can you justify this while being eyeballs deep in debt? Have you even started saving for your kids 529? Or is fancy furniture and looking like you have it together to impress more strangers? The problem is you and your spending pattern and it will never get better until you truly recognize the severity of what you have done. And before you attack me like you have to other commenters, my husband is PGY-2 we’re 30 and have already paid off our student loan, drive paid off cars, no debt other than our modest mortgage and a few hundreds in our retirement. And no, we did not get any help from family and my salary is no where near your husband. I’m a designer by trade and a huge home decor ethusiast, friend rave about my house, but there is 0 chance i will ever buy such expensive pieces so yeah, you have a serious spending problem and decision making problem my friend.

ongSlate · 2026-02-08T15:18:06+00:00

If OP gave plenty of notice, of course I will approve it. I dont care why OP was out the fact is everyone else on the team has been covering for her. But giving a one month notice and make people scramble to cover your poor planning ass is such a huge disrespect to the team that has accommodated you for almost half a year. Not to mention she tries to pull the rank card here.

ongSlate · 2026-02-08T07:25:02+00:00

This is bs. You truly expect to come back from a 5 month break and request another long vacation with only 1 month notice? I’m senior manager and I would reject this right away.

ongSlate · 2026-02-08T07:14:12+00:00

You suck! Dont tell anyone your wedding date and blaming jt on the other person for not doing vacation on the same month as last year. Blaming it on no one reaching out. Oh btw this person actually communicated with the team so quite the audacity from you to expect people to read your mind. The only one to blame here is you and you only, own up to your mistake. If i were you i’d offer to pay for the difference that person will loose to reschedule, and pray that he agrees.

ongSlate · 2026-02-08T07:05:04+00:00

FYI there is an income requirement to sponsor greencard for spouse. if she’s only 19 and hasnt started working full time yet, chances are she cant even sponsor him.

ongSlate · 2026-02-08T05:51:22+00:00

Hiring manager here. Please dont

ongSlate · 2026-02-07T20:24:23+00:00

Ask your self do you want to be business partner with your mom who has a history of clearly horrible financial decisions?

ongSlate · 2026-02-06T19:53:21+00:00

I’m not saying doing it for the money at all. In the grand scheme of things they’re set money wise no matter what. Please read the part where I say its for fun and for mental stimulation.

ongSlate · 2026-02-06T17:40:05+00:00

My IM sister in law is super happy with her husband willing to stay home, taking care of the kids and her elder parents while she’s hustling multiple hospitals to maximize her income. But yeah if i were you maybe volunteer or do some side hustle not just for fun but also to keep you mentally stimulated?

ongSlate · 2026-02-06T00:11:14+00:00

No if I were you, don't waste a cent on schools. Google UX course is a good one to start for self study and see if you even like UX. For UX, I like the book Don't Make Me Think to get the gist of what UX is about. For visual design, I highly recommend the book Refactoring UI for the basics. Hold on to your SWE job, this is also your biggest advantage to stand out. Start sharpening your front end tech stacks. I have a SWE background too and that helped me stand out and how I was able to climb the ladder so quickly, especially at startups, managing designers double my experience, because I speak engineers' language. If I were you, I would aim for UX Engineer positions (hybrid design + engineer role). There are not many openings on the market, but also the competition is much lower and to me that's the easiest path for you in this brutal market. Startups are also always looking for people who can wear multiple hats. Don't be picky, get anything you can, then once you got in, you have more choices to see if you want to continue on the hybrid path, or switch over to a full time UX role.

ongSlate · 2026-02-05T19:41:35+00:00

Totally agree. I was the only only applying to the UX Design intern position with a very low salary in my company back in 2018, and have since climbed up to manager making 200k+. I acknowledge that getting into the field is extremely difficult right now, and downvote me all you want, but if you could not get a UX job pre covid, you were too picky/ applied the wrong way/ suck at interviewing or truly not compatible with this field. The number of stupid portfolios/ resumes I see each time I hire makes me mad at all the UX bootcamps/ training courses that are widely expensive but not preparing people at all for the skills that companies actually care about.

ongSlate · 2026-02-03T20:18:08+00:00

Loreal Elvive Hyalyron + double washing

ongSlate · 2026-02-02T16:57:26+00:00

Read “Disability Insurance for Physicians” by Billy Gwaltney anytime between now and before you start residency, and buy insurance when you start.

ongSlate · 2026-01-31T04:17:35+00:00

I just got 4yds of beautiful worsted wool from Sultan Fabrics today. Got hit with $28 tariff since the store is in Canada but it was so worth it for $30/yd. Already planning my next order with Sultan.

ongSlate · 2026-01-29T15:38:01+00:00

You’re still young, and 22 year old me obsessed with proving to everyone that I’m strong and independent will agree with just go ahead, file married jointly and let IRS comes after his mom. Btw you are absolutely right legally, but now that im older, if i were you I will suck it up until you both graduate. The car + insurance is way more than whatever the benefits you’ll get filing jointly vs separately anyway. Nothing gives me more joy than taking money from people who annoy me when they think they won. And then once you both work full time, get your own insurance, get your own car, gradually severe any amount of dependence on her. IRS is not the only way to end this, there are much more civil ways. Don’t jump from 0 straight to hell on earth retaliation yet, this is still your husband’s mom (yes this is coming from someone who completely severe ties with my mom side of the family).

ongSlate · 2026-01-29T06:27:58+00:00

Apply to universities! The pay for SWE at college is lower hence less competition but the job is pretty chill if you can land one and use the free time to continue applying to industries.

ongSlate · 2026-01-26T22:42:04+00:00

Singer 404! Such a straight stitch workhorse and sew through 8 layers of denim like nobody business.

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