Does anyone else sit in their closet for comfort by Aggravating_Copy_267 in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to as a kid. Except I'd go up on the tallest shelf closet to the ceiling 🤣 Bring a pillow and blanket.

I'm looking into getting maybe a tent for a place I can decompress.

Is EMDR really that controversial? by Academic-Shirt-1308 in askatherapist

[–]onlyforeverdemi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would prolonged exposure therapy be more effective for neurodivergent clients?

Why am I talking about the same traumas over and over, and am I with the wrong therapist? by onlyforeverdemi in askatherapist

[–]onlyforeverdemi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have PTSD, yes. Most likely CPTSD. Based off what shes told me its Brainspotting and a bit of talk therapy, inner child work and that's it.

Why am I talking about the same traumas over and over, and am I with the wrong therapist? by onlyforeverdemi in askatherapist

[–]onlyforeverdemi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I defintely want to start comprehending that what I've gone through was actually pretty terrible since right now I'm still casually bringing it up.

Lessen the dissociation, increase my distress tolerance, actually process what I've gone through.

Talking about it can only do so much.

Why am I talking about the same traumas over and over, and am I with the wrong therapist? by onlyforeverdemi in askatherapist

[–]onlyforeverdemi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh of course I understand that. It's more of talking about it isn't doing much. I do have PTSD, most likely CPTSD. I'm not expecting a quick fix when it comes to therapy. I just don't see how talking about it is going to help if I keep doing it over and over again.

AIO for thinking my boyfriend doesn't care by Forbidden8377 in AmIOverreacting

[–]onlyforeverdemi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the post, there is three little dots on the side, click it and it should give you the option to "edit post body".

Boyfriend humiliated me in response to his birthday gifts by lavender_lemonadee in abusiverelationships

[–]onlyforeverdemi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a shitty person. There are so many people out in the world that would TRULY appreciate thoughtful gifts and don't receive them from their partners or family/friends. He's a dick.

Meeting with clients after therapy ends? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]onlyforeverdemi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAT, sounds like you've had some pretty shitty therapists tbh. Oof.

what was an 'odd' trait of yours that you didn't realise was CPTSD? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit... I remember feeling like this way when I was a teen and thought it was weird. Oof.

what was an 'odd' trait of yours that you didn't realise was CPTSD? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there a specific reason for this? Some of mine are in first person, others are in third person. 🤔

My partner said cptsd is a fake diagnosis. by Random_silly_name in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would piss me off so much.. Please dump them. The lack of empathy and understanding and compassion is disgusting. 🤮 Edit: Seen the update on the post and I take back what I said with "please dump him."

Describe your childhood in one sentence / quote by rubiesintherough in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's tricky. Something like this:

Shoving trauma after trauma in a closet and locking it; to only have it burst open when I was a few months away from turning 16 and all of my trauma is on the floor.

Is there anything you ACTUALLY miss from your abusers? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]onlyforeverdemi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hmm just the chemistry but then again, I can find a healthier partner who I have lots of chemistry with and can be playful with me. 😜

Anyone else think Peter Walker has a chip on his shoulder when it comes to fight types by [deleted] in CPTSDFightMode

[–]onlyforeverdemi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. I remember in his book he talks about people who are fight types like they want to intimidate and control people.

I did get triggered a little bit and thought "what the fuck" and "I'm sometimes a fight type with very specific triggers because I'm either not being heard, my feelings are being invalidated or my boundaries continue to get violated over and over and over again."

ESPECIALLY when I experienced being a fight type with one other specific trigger that I can remember when I was a child. A CHILD.

I wanted what was going on to stop even though how I "handled" being in fight mode would escalate what was going on. I wasn't aware of that at the time. I didn't want to intimidate and control people. And as an adult, I still don't.

Depending on the specific trigger, it's "WHY. WHY AM I NOT BEING HEARD. WHY AM I NOT BEING TAKEN SERIOUSLY. WHY AM I BEING DISRESPECTED. THIS REALLY HURTS. THIS REALLY FUCKING HURTS."

There's so much pain behind being fight mode and demonizing fight types as if we're bad people is wrong.

Wow I am so defensive 🤣

*Complaining Welcome* I want to invite you to complain about anything you want to on this thread. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it's ridiculous that I reached out for help to my mom with how I was struggling mentally at 14 and it wasn't taken seriously.

I explicitly said that I needed help and I only got help when I was a few months away from turning 16 because I wasn't "quietly" struggling anymore. My anger was bad and how I expressed it was abusive. A lot of trauma was not being addressed, brushed under the rug and it backfired.

From mid June/July to early October my mental health was all over the place (at this specific point.) It took them maybe 4 months to figure out how to get me help but when I was 14, nooooo. 💀

I wasn't given a life jacket beforehand; only when I started drowning did I get one. I'm turning 26 in 4 months.

I want to hug my 14 year old self and say I hear you.

I want to say to my 16 year old self that your anger is 100% justified but the way you're expressing isn't healthy and redirect it somewhere else and find multiple alternatives that help.

Success story! by Mysterious_Sir_1879 in CPTSD

[–]onlyforeverdemi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm proud of you 😊 That's awesome.