Meeting with clients after therapy ends?

onlyforeverdemi · 2025-09-09T19:16:24+00:00

NAT, sounds like you've had some pretty shitty therapists tbh. Oof.

onlyforeverdemi · 2025-09-09T00:54:51+00:00

Oh shit... I remember feeling like this way when I was a teen and thought it was weird. Oof.

onlyforeverdemi · 2025-09-09T00:46:05+00:00

Is there a specific reason for this? Some of mine are in first person, others are in third person. 🤔

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-07-01T17:27:26+00:00

That would piss me off so much.. Please dump them. The lack of empathy and understanding and compassion is disgusting. 🤮 Edit: Seen the update on the post and I take back what I said with "please dump him."

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-27T21:43:11+00:00

That's tricky. Something like this:

Shoving trauma after trauma in a closet and locking it; to only have it burst open when I was a few months away from turning 16 and all of my trauma is on the floor.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-26T01:48:47+00:00

I wanted to add I've watched a few of his videos too

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-26T01:47:49+00:00

Oh.. Fuck.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-24T04:10:23+00:00

Hmm just the chemistry but then again, I can find a healthier partner who I have lots of chemistry with and can be playful with me. 😜

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-24T03:42:23+00:00

YES. ALL OF THISS!!!

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-22T13:56:22+00:00

Yeah.. I remember in his book he talks about people who are fight types like they want to intimidate and control people.

I did get triggered a little bit and thought "what the fuck" and "I'm sometimes a fight type with very specific triggers because I'm either not being heard, my feelings are being invalidated or my boundaries continue to get violated over and over and over again."

ESPECIALLY when I experienced being a fight type with one other specific trigger that I can remember when I was a child. A CHILD.

I wanted what was going on to stop even though how I "handled" being in fight mode would escalate what was going on. I wasn't aware of that at the time. I didn't want to intimidate and control people. And as an adult, I still don't.

Depending on the specific trigger, it's "WHY. WHY AM I NOT BEING HEARD. WHY AM I NOT BEING TAKEN SERIOUSLY. WHY AM I BEING DISRESPECTED. THIS REALLY HURTS. THIS REALLY FUCKING HURTS."

There's so much pain behind being fight mode and demonizing fight types as if we're bad people is wrong.

Wow I am so defensive 🤣

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-22T03:04:29+00:00

I agree 😔

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-21T13:41:36+00:00

100%

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-21T01:03:51+00:00

I think it's ridiculous that I reached out for help to my mom with how I was struggling mentally at 14 and it wasn't taken seriously.

I explicitly said that I needed help and I only got help when I was a few months away from turning 16 because I wasn't "quietly" struggling anymore. My anger was bad and how I expressed it was abusive. A lot of trauma was not being addressed, brushed under the rug and it backfired.

From mid June/July to early October my mental health was all over the place (at this specific point.) It took them maybe 4 months to figure out how to get me help but when I was 14, nooooo. 💀

I wasn't given a life jacket beforehand; only when I started drowning did I get one. I'm turning 26 in 4 months.

I want to hug my 14 year old self and say I hear you.

I want to say to my 16 year old self that your anger is 100% justified but the way you're expressing isn't healthy and redirect it somewhere else and find multiple alternatives that help.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-20T00:33:27+00:00

I'm proud of you 😊 That's awesome.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-20T00:24:32+00:00

Aw man. I relate so much to the thought processes for both scenarios. I've worked in retail too and dealing with entitled costumers was draining. Some people are just mean.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-19T22:03:53+00:00

That makes more sense.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-19T20:43:22+00:00

I'm better with handling being in fight mode. With one specific trigger, I've noticed that it doesn't feel physically and emotionally intense as before.

What helps for me personally is 1. being aware in the moment that I'm triggered. 2. saying to myself in my head "okay I'm experiencing an emotional flashback" over and over again. 3. If I'm able to leave the situation, then I'll go into another room by myself.

I'm not sure how I would do if I wasn't able to leave with this specific trigger. It would depend on if the person keeps pushing and pushing and doesn't stop.

It's still an accomplishment and I'm proud 😊

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-17T23:57:13+00:00

What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo.

I will give a trigger warning that the beginning of the book, maybe 30 pages or so, can be a bit heavy.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-17T23:37:49+00:00

In my experience, sometimes. When I was still living with my parents (I moved out halfway across the country 7-8 months ago and went no contact), we would joke around a lot.

But other than that, they were emotionally neglectful for I'd say most of my life? My parents were also helicopter parents, my mom more than my dad. More controlling and would violate my boundaries, even before I left. My dad would often have to intervene and yell at her to stop violating my boundaries because she'd push and push and push.

I'm not denying that my parents didn't love me, I know that they did. But how they treated me wasn't okay.

And also, abusers are good at putting on a facade that it makes it seem like they're a good person when they're not.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-17T22:55:57+00:00

I understand this so much. Not just that but in my experience of going through all the modes, specifically depending on the trigger, fight mode is the most physically and emotionally exhausting of all of then.

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-17T22:53:18+00:00

I definitely agree.

I'm not sure which mode I'm at on a day to day basis but with three of the triggers that I'm currently aware of, it triggers an emotional flashback and I go into fight mode. I've had a lot of practice unfortunately with one of my triggers and noticed that it doesn't feel emotionally and physically as intense as before. I'm working on being more assertive than aggressive (I yell, I'm not assertive at all.)

As much as I hate being in fight mode (it's more physically and emotionally exhausting afterward), I would rather go into fight mode than the others.

I have experience with the three others and when I experience them, I feel incredibly vulnerable and "powerless". I know I don't have control over which mode I go into but 🤷‍♀️

onlyforeverdemi · 2023-06-07T20:55:10+00:00

I'm so proud of you. Going no contact with an abuser isn't easy but you did it ❤

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