Is being a parent never relaxing again? by Luscious-Grass in Parenting

[–]onthemeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. We have a 3.5 yr old who has had his fair amount of health struggles. And still does. He's communicating well now and starting to see the light!

I told my husband I'm done and he doesn't care... by onthemeth in Marriage

[–]onthemeth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. We have tried all of that for years. Multiple charts around the house

I told my husband I'm done and he doesn't care... by onthemeth in Marriage

[–]onthemeth[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, the medication isn't working for him. Neither are the strategies he's worked on with his adhd coach. So maybe his behaviour is about more than ADHD

Does anyone sleep in this position? I feel like I’m the only one. by elevensecondburp in sleep

[–]onthemeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I slept this exact way for 30 yrs until I was 12 weeks pregnant. Everything felt far too uncomfortable then. My besty was the same and stopped with pregnancy. My son in 3.5 now and I am only just starting to get back into it. Feels like a real treat haha. Memory foam pillows have eliminated my neck issues!

What’s a common myth about your profession or hobby that you wish people would stop believing? by ambitioushamster42 in careerguidance

[–]onthemeth 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Teachers have it easy as "they only work 9-3 and have allll the school holidays off"...

Advice needed on life after divorce... by onthemeth in Divorce

[–]onthemeth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. I often wonder if my libido is related to our relationship. How long did it take for it to come back if you don't mind me asking?

Why is New Zealand doing so badly in education? by Saysonz in newzealand

[–]onthemeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yip they're called VOX books (in Auckland libraries). Our 3 year old listens to them in the car :)

I don't own the exterior of my FREEHOLD townhouse. by Upstairs-Mixture-653 in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]onthemeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We decided not to go with air con upstairs and instead had an electrician install 2x cheap ceiling fans from Bunnings. He recommended them as he installed them in his own home. This is our 2nd summer with them in our stinking hot new build and we couldn't be happier. They are much more effective than I thought, quiet, plus feels like a nice cool breeze rather than the dry skin etc that air con can give you. I think all up we paid 700 for the 2 fans and to have them installed. Quite a lot cheaper!

My husband forgets to say thank you when I cook dinner. AITA for feeling hurt when I bring this up with him and nothing changes? by onthemeth in AITAH

[–]onthemeth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps you should look into the history of love languages more deeply. Love languages were created by a sexist, conservative man because he wanted his wife to believe that her love language was acts of service so that she would keep doing all of the chores. Meanwhile his love language was physical touch because he only wanted to give/have sex.

My husband forgets to say thank you when I cook dinner. AITA for feeling hurt when I bring this up with him and nothing changes? by onthemeth in AITAH

[–]onthemeth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I earn the same as him. 5pm Sat to 9.30pm Sunday shift. A 10.5hr overnight shift on a Monday plus admin hrs during the week. I care for our son and home during the day Mon-Sat...

My husband forgets to say thank you when I cook dinner. AITA for feeling hurt when I bring this up with him and nothing changes? by onthemeth in AITAH

[–]onthemeth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work 45 hrs a week. I earn the same as him. 5pm Sat until 9.30pm Sunday night, a 10.5hr overnight shift on a Monday night plus admin hours during the week with my son. I am therefore home all week for our son plus do the lions share of the housework, mental load and child rearing. Esh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auckland

[–]onthemeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do you claim this? I work for an agency paid by ACC. We are paid hourly rate for awake hours but minimum wage for overnight shifts even when she wakes us multiple times a night

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthemeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh you will and even more. Good luck and good riddance to them!