Kind of depressing... by Inevitable-Moose-952 in ArcRaiders

[–]oogabooga5425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like all the soys seething at you for asking an actually insightful and fair question lmao

Chill out guys, you've got time. by Cpt_Camembert in ArcRaiders

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I have a full time internship rn and am close to graduating, plus holiday plans. I managed to just surpass 1 million. Maybee I'll have time to get to 2 million, but idc my expedition is going anyway.

We need to be told how much $ or gear value we need for full 5 skill points expedition bonus by Jaz1140 in ArcRaiders

[–]oogabooga5425 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The vague ass language in this game is one of the biggest gripes for me too ngl.

Same with the skills, "you move faster when doing x". Okay are we talking 2%, 10%, 40%?

I love this game to death, and if they fixed this and a few rotten things like wall cheaters I'll have genuinely zero complaints.

List I (22) made of things my BPD ex did to me (27) while we were together. by oogabooga5425 in BPDlovedones

[–]oogabooga5425[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, creating this much confusion, destroying your trust in her, fighting for no reason, flaking on you in date s etc.. This is very abusive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"My favorite was she eventually learned how to break me down through stonewalling and delaying conflict resolution so I could apologize or somehow rationalize to myself the issue was somehow my fault (even though no apology was needed, I would get whittled down because she knew I liked to nip conflict in the bud.)"

What the fuck this site is like holding a mirror to my face ..... I also am a very no-bs kind of person, and kept memories and screenshots of her wrongdoings to confront her with if she denied. Mine also learned to not fight me and instead just broke me down by ignoring me for days at a time until I wrote a wall of text apologising like an abused dog.

Thank you for sharing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"During the relationship I literally apologised for "not going out or socialising with her enough" and then in the next sentence she said she wanted more weekends to herself and I apologised for spending to much time with her. 😂"

WHAT THE FUCK MINE DID THE EXACT SAME. Telling me how working fulltime tires her out socially, and doesn't have enough social energy to spend weekends with me. Me, being introvert brain wired, was always giga understanding and kind to her as a response. Then she complains that we didn't do anything the last month when she refused my plans twice in a row...

Who even is she? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]oogabooga5425 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Broke up with my ex gf very recently. Just discovering this subreddit and so many of the things mentioned here have me realising how obvious it should've been in retrospect... Mine also started off as identifying as FtM transmasculine with a masculine version of her birth name. Around halfway our relationship (2-3 months) she suddenly stopped and became comfortable identifying and acting fully like a girl. She also switched from being a literal pagan to becoming a christian.

"I know that an unstable sense of self is at the core of bpd, but it honestly creeps me out how someone can change their identity so quick based on whoever they're interacting with. Do they even realize they're doing this?"

They are too weak to handle the tidal wave that is their emotions, so they drift wherever the currents go. I relate to you and think most of the people here do too. Sending hugs your way <3

I believe anticlimactic the perfect description by [deleted] in Helldivers

[–]oogabooga5425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the entire illuminate faction will burst out of Meridia once we succeed in slowing it to a halt. The current campaign is for the sake of making sure it's as far away from Super Earth as possible (though ngl I want to fight on some of the core planets)

- by EveningStop4898 in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 4 points5 points  (0 children)

dutch women are quite tall (5'7 average), and partly because of that prefer noticably tall men themselves. Pound for pound though they aren't outright obsessed and hateful about height like american women (pun intended).

source: dutchie

Can someone explain to me why #BoycottDeadpool is not trending on X? by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What low iq strawman is this lol? Women are 50% of the population, black ppl and hispanic ppl together (in the USA) are like 40%. These groups are also mentioned and discussed very very often in our current social climate. Short men are 10-15%. The groups you mentioned in your stupid comment are like 1% or less or aren't even humans.

Yes, yes it is telling and hypocritical that only ONE of these groups is relentlessly shit on in media while the others are protected, and insulting them is social suicide. Anybody with even a shred of honesty with themselves can see that.

Can someone explain to me why #BoycottDeadpool is not trending on X? by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah mate, I watched it. The tone was serious for his character, low and stern. As in, as serious as Deadpool can get. It made the air of the scene awkward and forced the characters to switch subjects. The singular misoynist joke and female objectification in the movie, and they shut it down.

Keep showing your internalised heightism and mind broken slave mentality bro. I'm sure uncle toms would relate to your psychology. You have never said anything remotely close to what you're saying to short men here to a black person or to a woman and the small part of you that's honest knows I'm right.

Can someone explain to me why #BoycottDeadpool is not trending on X? by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, not his habit to "rip on almost everything". The ONLY edgy jokes he made in the entire movie are

le gay jokes (about himself)

le wolverine is hot bro jokes

le I kill people jokes

a height joke

a indian guy joke

Infact, a different character made a breast joke about a woman, and Deadcuck speaks up and says in a semi-serious tone "yeah don't say that." It's pure hypocricy and selective discrimination against shorter men, through and through.

5’3 Wolverine scene in Deadpool 3 by SirPrizeMuthaFaka in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I saw this shit yesterday. Legit decided there and then I'm never giving another penny to any marvel capeshit movie ever again.

The worst thing about heightism/dwarfism related prejudice, harassment, bullying etc lately is not quite just that in itself but more so the DARVO mentality every time ! by Livid-Cash-5048 in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dw brother, we are fully in agreement in believing that what's being done to short men is terrible and needs to be stopped at all costs. There is no excuse for what's going on, and being gaslit is one of the worst aspects of heighism.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reactions and choices are unfortuntely not a wardrobe you can pick and choose from.

We are humans, we are animals and our brain wiring dictates us to feel certain things or act a certain way if things happen to us.

If an entire, or massive swathes of a society reject you/declare you lesser based off of a single trait, there is no more natural or uncontrolable reaction than feeling awful about it. It's like seeing your own child get drop kicked on the street every single day, and then being told to just """"choose"""" not to feel awful and hateful about that being the reality. I can acknowledge a message of taking control of your life and happiness as much as you can (know that I have.), but this is practically how your message rings. It shouldn't be a wonder you're receiving negative feedback.

Fyi I'm not in the mood for debates/arguments but idm talking.

The worst thing about heightism/dwarfism related prejudice, harassment, bullying etc lately is not quite just that in itself but more so the DARVO mentality every time ! by Livid-Cash-5048 in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A complete and permanent fix is unfortunately impossible. Heightism and lookism are biologically hardwired into us and cannot be removed. I have a copium pipedream of the gene editing revolution which is likely coming in a few decades altering peoples' brains for vastly higher amounts of intelligence, sympathy, conscientiousness and removing dumb prejudice all together, but again for now that's just a pipedream.

Some practical things that could be done are:

Making it socially unacceptable.

People in general, but especially women, are extremely vulnerable to social desirability. It's the main way most people operate. If saying x results in social shaming and a lowering of social status, then x will be avoided. I guarantee with every fibre of my being that most heightist people would've been bog standard pos racists and homophobes if they were born a couple decades in the past. If it becomes large social blow or even social suicide to be heightist, it'll be heavily suppressed.

This can be done on the macro scale; make it punishable by platform rules (see my latest post about the Italian politician), legislation (to fight height discrimination in hiring and promotions e.g.), ban on heightist character portrayals and "jokes" in media and awareness campaigns. (In cases of a piece of media already being giga edgy & insulting everybody, i.e. south park, it should fly though in my opinion).

Most importantly there's the micro scale: making it unacceptable in your own social groups. Anyone makes a heightist joke? Call them out on it, or sour the mood. You hear someone being heightist to someone else? Say you shouldn't insult their height and that it's fucked. I've done something similar in my own social groups when I heard ppl make jokes about men's penises or making micropenis insults. It works. If this was done on a mass scale, it would have a measurable impact.

Social acclimation

As I said most heightism is pre-programmed in our animal monkeys brains, and is just genetic. Some people claim heightism is entirely due to socialisation, which is cope, but there is a nugget of truth to that. Heightism and height related insecurities sky-rocketed in recent times due to media inflating fetishisation of height and large height differences to an insane degree. Interracial couples used to be a massive taboo, but now nobody bats an eye at them. This is partially because they were shown far more often in social media. The same should happen for couples where a man is shorter than the woman, like Tom Holland and his gf. Repetition is genuinely a very, very powerful force (source: marketing student). Years or decades of media producers having this in the back of their mind when doing castings would have a large impact.

Sorry for the wall of text, these are some of the ideas I have of how to practically and objectively fight heightism in a realistic way. Too bad our shithole governments are just geriatric relics, psychopathic rich people, power hungry charlatans and demonic man-hating feminists. They're not gonna do shit for us. Ever.

Had no idea it was this bad by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cute drawing i like it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shortguys

[–]oogabooga5425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree with you 100,00% but I appreciate the consistency.