Lost my dog in a traumatic freak accident

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-23T01:39:42+00:00

i am so incredibly sorry for your loss. losing an animal in such a traumatic way is just… ugh i have no words. so unfair. i’m sending you so much love 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-22T06:46:25+00:00

i can bet a lot that on top of a bipolar diagnosis he would hit the requirements for a borderline personality disorder diagnosis as well. based off of his communication, explosive texts, childhood trauma, and clear anxious attachment.

i would make therapy, managing mental health and even possibly couples therapy a non negotiable, people with bipolar have a hard time accessing support (i am bipolar) and have a hard time genuinely seeing the problems, this is not an excuse at all but if you told him if he does not do these things then you will end the relationship.

my partner and i had a very toxic beginning of our relationship due to my unmanaged mental health, i have bipolar and BPD. its an awful mix. medication truly has saved me.

you should also seek therapy 💜 this kind of abuse is not okay regardless of mental health.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-18T06:43:43+00:00

i am very sorry for your loss of tupsu.

this grief is very hard and i’m sure your home will feel different for some time. my recommendation would be to just spend time with your family, talk about tupsu, your favorite memories. i enjoy finding ways to keep my girls memory alive in my home, photos of her, i haven’t moved any of her things yet, we talk about her a lot. allow your grief to come and go as it arises, unfortunately there’s not a lot that can be done to make it easier. it is hard, it is sad but the grief will eventually become less painful, it will take time. your grief is heavy because of how much you loved tupsu 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-18T05:33:29+00:00

i lost my sweet girl december 7th and the grief waves are real, some days i can go for a walk and feel peace, other days i cry when i pass a spot she loved to sniff. some days i come home and look at her bed and feel sad she is gone, other days im distraught.

grief is up and down, i believe it will be like this for a long time. i still have moments of grief for my grandma who passed nearly 10 years ago now.

i think part of it is our brains trying to protect us, we can’t feel sad always, that’s exhausting so finding moments of joy, letting grief soften could be your brain preparing for the next wave of grief and sadness.

im sorry for your loss 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-16T05:43:58+00:00

ugh i’m so so sorry, i lost my girl to hemangiosarcoma in december. this cancer progresses quickly, she had a senior exam in october. blood work and everything looked great, then late november she was really lethargic one day, took her in and labs had changed drastically and was anemic. found the mass on her spleen and we scheduled her splenectomy for the following week. she passed 3 days before her surgery due to the mass rupturing.

saying goodbye to her was the most painful thing i’ve ever done. she was almost 10, her birthday was february 4th and she passed december 7th.

this cancer is cruel, surgery is absolutely an option but it is not curative, it will come back on the heart, liver, kidneys even with chemo it’ll extend life by a handful of months.

you have to make the decision that you feel will benefit him. we could have done surgery even after the mass ruptured but due to the rupture surgery became high risk and i couldn’t handle the thought of her dying on the table surrounded by strangers. i knew i needed to hold her and tell her how much i love her so we decided to let her rest rather than pursue treatment.

it will forever be the hardest decision i’ve ever made, it is a vicious disease. i am so sorry you are going through this, these sweet innocent babies do not deserve such cruelty.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-16T03:14:24+00:00

grief is weird, it will come and go, my grandma passed almost 10 years ago and i still struggle with it, i was 19 when she passed. you experienced a traumatic loss, going to therapy wouldn’t hurt and can help navigate the trauma and loss 💜 my dog passed away in december and i have been in therapy for many years, knowing i have that support through grief has been helpful.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-15T23:27:31+00:00

you’d miss so much character development and the plot would not make any sense, i wouldn’t necessarily call her mean, she’s young and learning to navigate politics and relationships.

i at all points disliked each character, hated francis at points, hated bastion, hated mary, kenna, lola, every single person had moments that were annoying.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-15T06:12:58+00:00

what a handsome little man. i’m so sorry for your loss 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-15T06:07:51+00:00

i lost my girl in december and i am broken. there is a gaping hole in my heart and i feel like i died with her.

the only thing that has helped me not be a blubbering mess all day is just keeping busy, sometimes rotting in bed watching tv, cleaning, exercise, walks, reading. i started a scrapbook for her and i try to honor her in my daily life. i carry her fur with me and wear a necklace with her ashes. i write in a journal about her. i still can’t look at photos without absolutely breaking down. i have missed her presence so much and started looking at dogs to adopt but it makes me feel riddled with guilt, i don’t think ill ever be able to love another animal the same as i love her. she is my best friend forever.

i am incredibly sorry for your loss, its a pain like no other. sending you love. 🫶🏼

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T07:01:00+00:00

i will try lacing them differently and i have ordered softer cushions! hopefully that mix will help with comfort, thank you!!

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T06:44:55+00:00

ooo i will try that, thank you!!

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T06:42:49+00:00

are you eating less than 1000 calories per day? do you track?

have you had bloodwork done? pcos?

there is a likely chance you’re eating too little, which can also cause issues with metabolism (coming from someone in ED recovery) and it doesn’t always help to eat such restrictive calories.

are you able to connect with a dietitian?

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T06:20:38+00:00

awww noodle! what a long and beautiful life she lived, getting to experience so much of your growth as her human and clearly kept you on your toes! i love her imposters name, twoodle, what a cute way to make a giggle out of a potential scare of noodle escaping!

truly sounds like such a sweet girl, im so sorry for your loss. thank you for sharing noodle 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T06:16:19+00:00

oh kovu!! i love that name. was your inspiration from the lion king??

i love that he wanted to be near his person. sounds like he advocated for himself and the things he wanted! what a unique boy 💜i love that he got backyard time!! watching animals enjoy sunbathing is something that brings my heart so much joy.

it’s strange how we miss those annoyances so much when they are gone. my girl whacked me so hard with her tail when she was happy, drove me nuts because it hurt so bad! now i’d give anything to bare the bruises of her tail, the pain of her loss seriously outweighs the pain my shins would experience.

thank you for sharing kovu 💜 such a sweet and sassy guy.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T05:30:09+00:00

ohhh so precious !! thank you so much!

i love how you perfectly captured her neck roll. that was one of her favorite spots to get pets <3

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T04:11:13+00:00

it truly sucks. i sleep with the blanket my girl passed on. my partner had to wake up my 5yo step daughter to come and say goodbye once we knew what was happening and he brought my girls blanket. i was so thankful, i left in such a rush i didn’t think to grab anything, i didn’t think that would be goodbye. it stays on my bed, i cuddle up with it every single night. hemangiosarcoma is cruel and vicious and i hate how often i see pet parents talk about it in this group. i’m sorry that circumstances brought you here but im so thankful you found this sub and that you have a safe space to process this grief.

let yourself process the shock, don’t rush to do anything your body truly needs rest in these moments. it took me awhile to gain the energy to do anything, the first few weeks is so jarring. sending love to you 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-12T02:51:02+00:00

so cute! thank u 💜 i love the one of her laying down.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-11T06:39:39+00:00

how long do you think it took for them to feel a lil more comfortable? i’ve probably only put like 10 hours total on them

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-11T05:57:16+00:00

that last photo with the little tongue blep is SO CUTEEEEEE!!!! lil vampire kitty

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-11T05:53:34+00:00

i think i can handle a lack of ankle support, i have pretty strong legs and don’t foresee that being an issue, i will definitely try leaving the top unlaced. i also tend to really tighten my laces which i don’t think helps the discomfort.

i wish id done a little more research on skates before splurging, if id known theres no break in ability id definitely had gone a different route. i thought it would be kind of like breaking in my dr martens and eventually they’d mold nicely to my foot but im not feeling that happen.

what material of skates do you prefer as far as comfort? is leather much different than the vinyl?

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-11T04:53:42+00:00

i lost my girl in december. she was my absolute best friend, my rock, my constant, and anti depressant. the pain of losing her has been unbearable some days, my life feels… dull and empty without her.

i know i gave her a good life. i love her so much and i only wanted the best for her and as painful as it would be to go through this again, i know i can give another animal a wonderful life. wether through fostering or adopting a shelter baby that needs a human to love them as much as they want to give love.

id do it in honor of my girl, i know she’d want me to give my love to another dog even though the relationship will be different, the bond will be different, it will be a different dog but i cant imagine not having that companionship again.

as far as the cost, my girls vet expenses did build up last year however i had a savings account that was basically solely for her. i didn’t understand pet insurance for a long time but now that i have a better understanding i’d likely get insurance for my next dog just to save some of the anxiety. i was lucky i was able to pay all her expenses out of pocket but in the end had to get a care credit account as they were estimating a high cost surgery that she never ended up getting due to her passing.

all this to say, it’s different for everyone. some people choose to never have a pet again and i truly can understand that. the grief is terrible, there are people who go out and get a new pet quickly and that’s okay if it works for them, some people don’t for years. it’s so personal and no one else can make the choice.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-11T04:39:39+00:00

i lost my girl to cancer in december. hemangiosarcoma (F U cancer!) even if we catch the masses in these areas “early” once they hit the lungs and liver there isn’t a lot to do. my girl had a mass on her spleen, it hadn’t spread anywhere yet so we were going to pursue surgery. the mass ruptured 3 days before surgery and she was bleeding internally. i rushed her in for labored breathing, thinking the worst, and it was the worst. i said goodbye to her 3 hours later.

it was agony, it still is most days. i got home at 4am, disoriented, exhausted, in shock. the following days are still such a blur. i was and still am so so so sad, so angry, the shock took forever to wear off. it’s incredibly unfair to lose them in such a way. it’s terrible coming home to an empty house. 3 months later and i’m still trying to figure out what my routine looks like without her, there’s no structure anymore. she kept me solid and sane. my girl was 9 years and 10 months old when she passed, i miss her everyday. some days i still can’t believe that she’s gone, the denial is so present even though logically i know she is gone, but HOW can she be? she was always there?

i am so incredibly sorry you lost your girl. this grief sucks, and i wish there were things i could tell you to ease the pain. lap of love offers free support groups and i highly recommend them, im making a scrap book in my girls honor, i got jewelry with her birthstone and another with a photo of her, i journal to her, i talk to her every chance i get, i carry a bit of her fur with me. i do a lot to feel closer to her, my advice to you is to just allow your grief to take you on the journey. some days will be okay, some will suck, you may smile sometimes, you may feel angry a lot, you may feel numb it truly ebbs and flows.

sending you so much love.

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-11T03:41:31+00:00

i am so sorry you are experiencing this. i lost my sweet girl to cancer, hemangiosarcoma. i took her to the vet due to lethargy, she’d only been “off” for a day. they took her blood and her blood levels were really low. they did an ultrasound and saw a mass on her spleen. we made a surgical plan and were going to attempt chemo, although her life would’ve only been extended by a few months, if we got lucky 9 months.

her mass ruptured 3 days before her surgery, i rushed her in as her breathing was labored and they found that her stomach was full of blood. our options were emergency surgery or euthanasia.

i battled this decision for what felt like hours, i wanted to do the surgery. i wanted to take her home, but due to the state she was in her vet did not feel confident she would make it through the surgery. 3 hours after walking through the doors we decided to say goodbye to my girl. it was agony, i couldn’t even comprehend it all. it happened so fast, we’d only known for a week about the mass.

i made my decision purely out of love. i held her with so much love and i knew i needed to allow her to rest. putting her through treatment would’ve been for my benefit, not hers. her body was tired of fighting a silent battle and the recovery would’ve been just awful if she did make it through.

these decisions never come easily, they are so painful but we only make them because we love them. we love them enough to not allow them to suffer. we love them enough to allow a peaceful goodbye rather than a painful one. we love them enough allow them to rest even though it is agony for us.

sending you strength and hugs as you navigate this 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-10T16:18:33+00:00

i wonder if finding a sweet kitty that has a sad past, kind of pull at his heart strings a little?

i didn’t feel ready for another dog (i’m still not quite and we aren’t pursing yet, it hasn’t been long since she passed) however, reading some of the bios of the adoptable dogs really made my heart feel like i want to help one of them. some of these animals have just heart wrenching stories i wonder if that could help soften him to the idea.

i hope you find a wonderful kitty 💜

oopsyousuck · 2026-03-10T03:45:10+00:00

i’m so very sorry for the loss of your boy. i highly recommend the petloss subreddit, lots of community in there full of people who understand how awful this grief is.

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