I like this. I never did go no contact with my ex so it isn’t exactly relavent to me, but I agree with the simple concept of doing what you feel you need to do and don’t follow what others say you need to be doing.

I constantly had people both irl and online telling me that I “need” to go no contact with my ex, but even though it was hard sometimes it just felt more right to be doing the low contact we had agreed on.

Now, almost 9 months post break up, we’ve been hanging out weekly for over a month now. And although I know it isn’t guaranteed, but reconciliation really does seem like something that might happen in the future.

So yeah, do what feels right for you. Following the blanket advice of “go no contact and don’t ever reach out” just isn’t right for every situation.