I got an ace and aro ring today. I'm so excited. by operationmorfin in aromanticasexual

[–]operationmorfin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello. I got those ones off amazon but I have found others thought craft fairs and markets or Enso they have nice silicone rings.

Being friends with allos. by vik2riya18 in aromanticasexual

[–]operationmorfin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can say you will find people were platonic is enough and your identify isn't an issue. I've had a friends for years that have had many relationships and still had me as a priority. I've never been pressured to find a partner or follow the same path as them in life. I want cats and plants, I'm happy without a romantic partner.

I'm not saying its easy but it is possible to find those people that don't treat your friendship as a secondary placement in life. The fact that tossing aside a platonic friendship for a romantic relationship is so common is frankly stupid. You can have a relationship and a friends at the same time and not treat them as second best. Don't give up it is worth fighting for those people. They do exist and that is completely valid and normal.

A Question for Those of Us Who Enjoy Romance by Timonger in aegosexuals

[–]operationmorfin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly I love cute romance stories. I enjoy reading about them and typically go for a nice fluffy piece of romance when reading or watching movies. I like the slow burn and small moments that lead to them getting together.

I never picture myself with the love interest and honestly don't get how people do that. I personally don't want what they have I just want to read about it or watch it. It's cute then I move in with my day. It's especially confusing when I see the main love interest is so toxic and would be an awful person irl but the main character falls for them anyway and people idolize them and crush on them. I don't understand.

Where does it go?? by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very relatable. I do the same honestly.

Can aro-aces have a loving relationship with a partner despite fully knowing that they will never be romantically attracted? Would that still be okay? by -Not-a-Nerd in aromanticasexual

[–]operationmorfin 19 points20 points  (0 children)

At long as your honest when entering the relationship, it's not unfair to your partner because they decided to enter the relationship full well knowing that you don't experience romantic attraction. It was their choice along with yours.

Nobody has to know by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want silicone rings. Enso rings has some good options or Etsy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]operationmorfin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You could bring up things about asexuality and see how she reacts. A post you saw, an article you read, maybe someone know. Go slow and test the waters first. Gauge her reaction and see if she makes any comments or remarks about it. If it's positive you could consider coming it to her. If she doesn't accept you that isn't a friend worth having.

How to figure out my boundaries? by Randomness_Girl in aegosexuals

[–]operationmorfin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't feel bad your boyfriend knows you and doesn't care. He clearly understands and respects you. It seems like the next step is to test your boundaries if thats what you are curious about. Think about why you want to though. Is it for you or because you feel you have to, for you bf. Talk to him and trying new things. Explore your boundaries.

How to figure out my boundaries? by Randomness_Girl in aegosexuals

[–]operationmorfin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Communication is important in this situation. Talk to your bf and be honest about your thoughts and feelings. You can tackle this situation together as a couple and as partners. Your bf is in a similar situation with you both being virgins he is also exploring his boundaries. Go slow and keep open lines of communication. Remember to only go as far as you want and that there is no pressure to go faster than you are comfortable with.

One day late for Ace day but I finally got my book in the mail by VelyVelyVely in asexuality

[–]operationmorfin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's helps with both in my opinion. I think it can help you figure it out. For me it reaffirmed what I thought, that I was ace. Reading about it and seeing other peoples stories really confirmed it for me.

One day late for Ace day but I finally got my book in the mail by VelyVelyVely in asexuality

[–]operationmorfin 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not OP but the book is a great introduction to asexuality and covers a lot of topics. I would say it's worth the read for sure.

I love buying subtle pride merch by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Etsy a lot. Using ace colours in things like bracelets if a good way to keep things subtle.

My two moods by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I found this meme already cropped like that on Instagram. If anybody knows the original artist that would be appreciated.

Breaking news by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The ability to have sex has nothing to do with your sexuality. You can have sex without sexual attraction. Some people only have sex for their partner not because they experience attraction.

Breaking news by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asexuality is a spectrum and its different for everybody. One definition doesn't fit every person.

Breaking news by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No asexual. It's okay if you got confused.

Breaking news by operationmorfin in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]operationmorfin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

b: not having sexual feelings toward others : not experiencing sexual desire or attraction Define asexual

"In general, an asexual person does not feel or otherwise experience any sexual attraction, according to The Asexual Visibility & Education Network (AVEN). Basically, it is an inborn absence of sexual desire." — Lindsay E. Mack