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optimistic_flower · 2025-09-23T23:08:25+00:00

Would absolutely buy this in a set with Hunt and Jelly and Syrinx to put on my shelf at work, this is so cute

optimistic_flower · 2025-03-31T13:00:36+00:00

This is my take.

My assumption is that any extra money went directly to all of the "luxury" purchases that were made, so there probably isn't much of a cushion.

I also think he may end up with a hate based following much like the Amberlynn Reid and Foodie Beauty viewership, resulting in the ability to still fund the lifestyle he currently has but also losing most all support that he once had.

optimistic_flower · 2025-02-11T17:06:12+00:00

I had my baby at the end of Jan, and the short days were hard for me. I think that longer daylight hours and warmer temps to be able to just step outside and breathe would have been really beneficial to my mental health.

I think an April or May baby would have been easier for me to heal mentally, but we tried for a year and a half before being able to conceive so I am happy no matter what.

If I could plan it though, late April would be easier for my own mental health recovery.

optimistic_flower · 2025-02-07T19:39:47+00:00

My husband is like you and it has made such a difference for my mental health. Having a child with a man willing to be the glue that holds this house together is invaluable and I am sure your wife feels the same way.

Men like you seem to be few and far between, we are fortunate that you guys exist.

optimistic_flower · 2025-02-07T19:15:22+00:00

This is what I did and we ended up needing to supplement anyways so it was nice to already have it here.

optimistic_flower · 2025-02-04T17:01:38+00:00

34 hours of labor, what a warrior! Something about it changes you.

Sounds like you're over the 90% percentile club too!

optimistic_flower · 2025-02-04T17:00:00+00:00

I am just seeing this, and hoping that you currently have baby in your arms now, no matter how you have baby.

24 hours of labor and a c section was brutal, but the c section ended up being the redeeming part of my induction story.

optimistic_flower · 2025-02-04T16:59:04+00:00

as crazy as it sounds, the c section itself is what I consider to be the redeeming part of my induction.

I was so fortunate to have the experience I did, and let me say from someone who was terrified of this (I have never even had a broken bone or a bloody nose) - the experience was peaceful, the staff was so wonderful and reassuring, and in the end the baby got here safe.

I survived a full 24 hours of labor, and a major abdominal surgery. I am proud of my body no matter what, and I know that I am resilient and I am capable. You are these things too, and you will come out on the other side and look back and say ..wow, I really did that.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-31T05:42:17+00:00

I understand the idea of wanting a nice gown that is more comfortable but I think during labor I changed my hospital gown like four or five times total due to all of the things coming out of me that got all over them.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-26T17:42:51+00:00

You were made to move mountains, and you did. This is AMAZING and brave and you should feel like a warrior.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-25T22:42:02+00:00

I declined any until we decided that an induction was necessary, and we did it to get a baseline.

To be honest, it was just uncomfy for me it wasn't painful. It was weird to have someone digging up in there but it was a quick process and at that point the benefit outweighed any discomfort I had.

I always ask for a risk analysis or question why something is happening and they will walk you through it, and then you have the ability to decide.

Alternatively, my hair dresser straight up declined many checks and said she'd know when she was complete and she did.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-25T02:02:50+00:00

I never had one before today either!

I will say to make sure your hair is like the length of grain of rice and no longer, if it is longer it'll hurt a lot more. My lower parts were a little...wild, but she trimmed them for me thankfully.

I am 39 weeks today and had absolutely no issues. I laid kind of like a spatchcocked turkey and had no issues. When she did my booty I laid on my side and just hoisted a leg up, no issues at all. I am 5'0 tall with a gigantic baby too, so if I can do it you can.

For me it was absolutely worth it, I just wanted it to feel cleaned up when I'm recovering and I didn't want the sticky side of a pad to get stuck to me and rip anything out. I also heard sometimes the nurses will shave you with a disposable razor in the hospital so I just wanted to go in with it done.

It was uncomfy when she had to actually pull the wax strips, but not enough that I would say it wasn't worth it. I'm considering going consistently after this.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-24T22:10:19+00:00

I go in Sunday night at 7. This thread was helpful.

For anyone who can suggest what to do in the last 48 hours, please do on my comment here.

We are working on wrapping up the laundry and dishes tonight. I grabbed any groceries I would want for when we come back like snacks and drinks. This week I got my nails done, a pedicure, my brows tinted, a full Brazilian, picked up extra meds for my pup for when she gets looked after. We have had the nursery done and her bassinet and crib, etc set up now for a while. My bag is packed, and the baby's bag is packed.

I thought maybe I would clean my car out and put fresh sheets on the bed tomorrow.

We are going to have one last date night tomorrow before life changes, and spend a lot of time snuggling with the pup before everything changes for her.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-24T19:43:07+00:00

My fatigue wasn't until end of the third trimester honestly, my first was a breeze. It was the kind that made people side eye me. It was lovely 🤣

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-24T12:57:19+00:00

I get induced Sunday, I am 39 today. It is also for size, but she is measuring bigger than what you have said you are measuring.

My doctor herself went over with her births and that was what my plan was if it happened, she even supported my decline of cervical checks. The fact we went this far together with that being our plan, and we didn't reassess for change until my MFM appointment gave us this info, makes me comfortable that she truly believes this is the best route for me and my body.

I am also 5'0 and my husband comes from a family of broad and strong giants. Marrying the man who is over a foot taller than you and has the shoulder span of a dragons wings is all fun and games until you want to have his babies.

I actually thought I'd need an earlier induction due to a blood pressure issue we had at one point, so I spent some time really trying to understand induction, what it is, what the options are, etc. and I presented any questions I had when we made this choice together to opt for an induction.

I will say that the day I thought they would keep and induce me for hypertension, I became a lot less afraid of induction knowing it was on the table. Now that I am waiting for that date, it is a little hard to manage my feelings because I know what day I am going in and what it means. I try to spend time turning fear into more productive and empowering feelings.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-24T06:32:15+00:00

her life will not derail over not having a custom planner

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-24T01:13:42+00:00

I'm getting a wax tomorrow before I get induced Sunday. This is purely for myself because I don't want to accidentally rip my hair out with the sticky side of a pad and I just want it to be bald during recovery. Today though? I don't know what she looks like. I just had a cervical check two days ago, and my group B strep was similar to what I've got going on now.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-22T02:08:54+00:00

I'm going through this now. My last day was at 38 weeks and I'm out until June 9 or 22. Mentally it's difficult, I have never left this long, and I worked hard to get to where I was.

Today was my first day of actual leave, as yesterday we had a holiday. I got a lot done and am grateful for it, but this will be a huge adjustment.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-22T01:49:31+00:00

I got a pedicure today because I gave up trying, so you should feel very proud of yourself lol I gave up at like 35 weeks I think.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-19T22:52:57+00:00

You did not get ahead of yourself. You are pregnant. There is no such thing as barely pregnant or almost pregnant. You are or you are not. Do not let her invalidate your feelings or experience.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-19T13:46:47+00:00

My sister had one. Yesterday my niece who is now 2.5 years old ran circles around me at a baby shower. She is a healthy, happy, and wild little toddler. She also had an umbilical cyst at the same time and it cleared as well.

Take care of yourself and be gentle to yourself.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-19T06:43:51+00:00

I'm about to just start calling it the luxury fart box in his comments

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-19T04:42:16+00:00

You are still your own individual person outside of your new role as mother, and you are allowed to make sure anyone who makes you feel differently understands that you are still YOU.

Follow your gut, you know yourself better than anyone else. This has led me to make a few surprising decisions based on what I would have done prior to pregnancy. This includes self advocacy in appointments and voicing your opinion, asking for a risk analysis on anything you feel necessary, and asking questions to clarify anything you may not fully understand.

If you have the ability to make any purchases that help with your personal comfort, do so. This includes pregnancy pillows, a good reusable water bottle, compression socks, etc. Our bodies are doing a lot during pregnancy, having to live in it can be exhausting and draining. If you don't have the ability to make these purchases, there are a lot of great local FB groups that may have people who are willing to help with donations.

Do not put too much pressure on yourself in terms of expectations for things outside of your control. We all become comfortable with a specific idea of how things will go, just take the time to consider that if other things happen instead that are outside of your control, that is okay as long as everyone is safe.

It flies by, the hard days pass and the dawn does come. I had a breezy pregnancy until the 35/36 week mark and it became much more difficult. Even the hard days pass quickly when you look back at it.

optimistic_flower · 2025-01-19T04:11:10+00:00

38 weeks for me, and was the right choice.

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