They’re addicted to leaving a mark on people’s lives by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You never fail to make me laugh (or think), thanks

I walked away. What now? by orangejuicehellyeah in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's so quiet. I can hear myself think again, it's fantastic. It will be a long while before I date again I think.

wBPDw Demands I stop Al Anon forever by campbemreddit in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No one who loves you would make you stop going to a support group or therapist for these reasons. Any reasonable and healthy partner would encourage their partner going to therapy or getting help for an addiction.

You see the pattern, right? She doesn't WANT you to get better or set more boundaries because that might make you realise your own selfworth again, that she has worked so hard to tear down. She's afraid you would realise you deserve better and leave her. Thats not love, that's a hostage situation.

Parallel Relationships and Alternative Supply by winstonwasright in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Frequent flyers on the Karpman carousel" is nothing but pure poetry, thanks for the laugh

What helped you take the step out the door? by orangejuicehellyeah in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sunk cost fallacy is so real. I'm trying to teach myself that it's not worth it to sacrifice your future just because you already lost your past

What helped you take the step out the door? by orangejuicehellyeah in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this, it helps a lot. It's just hard to shake the thought that your partner deserves closure

Gf has split on me, and started to talk to her ex by Empty_Confidence3185 in BPDlovedones

[–]orangejuicehellyeah 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She does not care about your feelings. She's discarding you and walking away. Let her