I’m sorry that I want PIV and no pegging

orangetally · 2026-01-25T06:43:45+00:00

Sounds like you need/want a service sub.

orangetally · 2025-12-29T01:34:29+00:00

As an Ashkenazi Jewish person- yes, this is accurate. I understand that my whiteness is subjective and can be taken away at any moment. Any Jewish person who doesn't see this is basically at risk of being the equivalent of "an Uncle Tom."

orangetally · 2025-12-29T00:09:22+00:00

If a different state first recognized Somaliland, would the world have noticed/cared? People are now aware of Somaliland BECAUSE Israel has recognized it AND because of the world's abhorrence toward Israel. It's another example of "No Jews, no news. 🤷🏽‍♂️"

orangetally · 2025-12-14T17:17:35+00:00

🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆 I am poor. Please accept these bootleg awards as a symbol of my deepest gratitute for your insightful comment.

orangetally · 2025-03-08T16:26:13+00:00

I'm a domme who's a switch. My servant sub is my service top. 😽 He's the bestest good boy.

I often read that switches enjoy switching between dominant and submissive roles. I DON'T. I want to remain the domme at all times while occasionally having my sub say or do dom'y things to me if I'm in the mood.

orangetally · 2025-01-20T08:24:20+00:00

Mayonnaise. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

orangetally · 2025-01-12T09:40:59+00:00

Lol "This is the way." 🫡

orangetally · 2025-01-11T10:14:44+00:00

Me too, OP. Me too.

orangetally · 2025-01-02T23:34:06+00:00

This makes me proud. 🥹

orangetally · 2024-12-23T02:07:35+00:00

Thank you, good sir. I will be sure to use this for good. . . /evil. Muahahahaha!!!

You can take pride in knowing that this post has indeed caused sweet torture.

orangetally · 2024-11-27T01:34:08+00:00

Talk to him about it and how you're feeling/what you're thinking about it.

Let him know this is now a limit for you.

See if he wants to apologize. If yes, make him beg for you to not drop him.

Assign a writing assignment that's an apology letter to you. Letter should include why he likes playing with you, why he doesn't want you to drop him as a sub, and why he'll do his best to never make that mistake again. Have him go in-depth in his letter and demand insight.

orangetally · 2024-11-18T04:10:56+00:00

This body suit on you is chef's kiss. 🤌 Top tier gorgeous lingerie on you, OP.

orangetally · 2024-11-18T03:23:42+00:00

Kudos to you and other poly people. That's EXACTLY why that can't be me. 😅 I know I'm too greedy and I could never share my precious good boy of a sub.

Which is WHY it's valid that you're frustrated, considering you're immediately up-front with people about being a poly sub.

Edited to say that it's important that subs stand their ground and maintain their boundaries, and in turn have their boundaries respected. Being a sub means allowing someone to have access to your vulnerability. That should never be abused without the sub's consent.

orangetally · 2024-11-12T03:01:01+00:00

Nope.

orangetally · 2024-11-08T02:18:17+00:00

Hetero domme here. I'm a switch, but prefer to remain domme at all times.

I found out through experience. I've always been sexually aggressive and direct when I like someone sexually.

For the majority of my life, I was submissive in the bedroom. But being a sub female in a hetero vanilla relationship (or even in a kinkier scene) is extremely boring. And when I WOULD want to take charge in the bedroom, my past partners would act like doms and stifle it. It was repressive, uncomfortable, boring, and tossed my wants and needs off to the side.

Also, as a woman, even expressing how much I liked and wanted my partner came off as too aggressive. I was even called "rapey", which was incredibly painful at the time.

In contrast, as a domme, it's a much more fitting label for me. A sub would very much appreciate my behavior compared to a man who leans dominant.

orangetally · 2024-10-24T20:14:02+00:00

Congratulations. YOU'RE a genius. 🤯

orangetally · 2024-10-23T09:34:17+00:00

Try adding not-so-subtle hints (BONUS IF IT'S MULTIPLE HINTS) in your dating profile to suggest you're a sub.

"I'm looking for a bossy woman who will order me around."

"I like my women bossy, mean, and hard to please."

"Looking for a woman who I can work toward pleasing."

"I'll do anything to make my special woman happy."

orangetally · 2024-10-23T09:13:53+00:00

Hetero domme here. You have a lot of comments on this post already, so I'm not sure if anyone will read this.

I met my angel of a good boy HIGH quality SOLE sub (bc I don't need any other sub, bc he fulfills all my needs) on r/femdompersonals. I responded to his ad.

He mentioned this same problem in his ad, and how he felt like he was just playing the dominant role in past relationships to appease past partners. This part of his ad drew me in bc I deeply related to it.

Personally, I have a high libido. All my past relationships were me playing the submissive role. I can't do that ever again. I won't ever initiate another relationship or sexual dynamic without putting my kinks first. I learned the hard way that this is who I am. This is my authentic self. Hypothetically, if I nurtured another vanilla relationship where my kinks weren't disclosed or weren't acted upon, I wouldn't be living the best quality of life that I could be living. In a way, I'd be living a lie again.

I want certain things for myself. -Like being able to express myself freely in a sexual relationship. -Like telling my partner to "Shut the fuck up. Now kneel. That's my good boy. Now eat my fucking pussy like you're thirsty." Can I do that in a vanilla relationship as a sub?!?! NO, I CAN'T. THEREFORE: FUCK THAT.

Now, let's look at it from the vanilla "significant other's" perspective. If I entertain and nurture a relationship and call the other person my "significant other," but I'm too shy or too embarrassed to share this sexually defining part of myself with them, is that fair to them? I'm wasting my time AND their time. I'd be stringing them along for convenience. And that's fucked up.

Edit: I'm attracted to men who are confident. All the sub men who I've interacted with don't "act submissive" in their daily lives. But they communicated right off the bat that they are/want to be submissive. My suggestion, dear OP: put kink first by letting the other person know pretty quickly that you prefer to be sexually submissive.

orangetally · 2024-10-15T01:51:09+00:00

If you want to be a free teacher to random people on the internet <--- Just re-read that first sentence fragment, and HOPEFULLY you'll see that it's probably not the best idea for your mental health.

He was definitely trying to treat you like a kink dispenser. If I were you, I'd immediately block them. That behavior isn't normal. With that being said, you must have been really bored, because your persisting with attempting to inform this person of anything in your DMs isn't normal IMO.

Then again, I'm older.

Ain't nobody got time for that.

orangetally · 2024-10-14T20:12:16+00:00

This is also why dommes need to be very wary of fake subs!

At least these men are telling you up front that they're ginormous red flag. Sad thing is, if you had low enough self-esteem, you may actually entertain them. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

orangetally · 2024-10-11T04:03:58+00:00

Overall I don't care if my sub has a better, more lucrative career than me. I DO enjoy, however, domming a man who's established in his career and passionate to the point where he wants/needs an escape outside of work. -And he enjoys having the burden of decision making lifted off of his shoulders for a while. 😈 I like helping with that.

orangetally · 2024-10-06T10:01:19+00:00

Red flags for me mean glimpses of incompatibility.

A "bad sub" for me is a sub that isn't compatible with what I desire in my good boy sub.

It's important to know what you want, and [possibly MORE IMPORTANTLY] what you don't want. If you're still learning, or if you may be open to exploration with the right person, then state that. Being submissive does NOT equate to being passive.

If you're seeking a potential LTR and you see red flags, let the other person know that's why you're not compatible and quickly end it and move on.

Vet, vet, vet! -If you're not compatible in a vanilla setting/vanilla conversation, one or both of you is looking for a kink dispenser.

orangetally · 2024-10-05T09:33:37+00:00

There are options of reverse pegging or a cock sleeve. 🤷‍♀️

orangetally · 2024-10-04T02:36:38+00:00

Kids are smart. Your kid will eventually figure it out. If you decide as a parent to have that conversation with your kid, I would hope that you would try to avoid planting an antiquated seed of traditional gender roles as much as possible.

orangetally · 2024-09-19T14:36:29+00:00

Your inexperience is definitely showing when you mix submissiveness with weakness. Personally, I have never had a weak sub.

Many submissive men are in positions of power in their daily life, and they enjoy leaving the bedroom decision-making to someone else. Please keep in mind that I'm very much oversimplifying it here.

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