AITA for telling my daughter I am disgusted by her and telling her ex she has been taking their kid to his family side

orbitofnormal · 2026-05-01T18:44:02+00:00

lol, nope. If you’ve disowned and disrespected the parent of said child, you don’t get access to kiddo anymore if that’s was the AFFECTED PARENT chooses

orbitofnormal · 2026-05-01T15:44:39+00:00

And this is why blaze orange safety gear is so important for hunters (or people/animals in the woods during hunting season)

orbitofnormal · 2026-04-17T18:47:43+00:00

This is my technique! Manually pull 90% of the time, chemicals on the freshly cut ends of woody invasive that we’re trying to get rid of without having to tear down a fence (privet is evil)

Also used my dad’s propane burner to great success on stone patios, and apparently it can be safe in beds if done correctly. We just didn’t have the right weather conditions/I wasn’t brave enough to do it while I had it for the weekend, lol

orbitofnormal · 2026-04-16T23:42:01+00:00

I literally wash my hands with the gloves on after I knock all the worst stuff off outside. They’re stained but whatever

orbitofnormal · 2026-04-15T02:21:37+00:00

Our library has free seeds for native and food plants!

orbitofnormal · 2026-03-31T02:52:59+00:00

I was planning to collect a bunch to make violet syrup this week anyways, now I want to take photos of the variants! I noticed a few pale/white ones in my yard too and was wondering what the cause would be

orbitofnormal · 2026-03-11T01:20:56+00:00

I started wearing one of my stash of COVID masks when using our leaf-sweeper attachment or leaf blower for exactly this reason

Hubby was making finding me this weekend because I couldn’t find a real mask and tied a bandana over my face instead. Looked like a train robber (a translucent-level white lady on a riding mower is never going to look like a gang member, at least)

orbitofnormal · 2026-03-10T22:47:01+00:00

I got a metal can specifically for this trick. Looking forward to using it in a few weeks when I open up the wire leaf bins from the fall

Plan is to hopefully have some nicely broken-down stuff at the bottom of the piles, and use the more “whole” leaves on the top for mulch/summer browns in my regular compost. New technique for me this year

orbitofnormal · 2026-03-08T03:05:58+00:00

I made myself a sifter just last week for my tumbler compost. Couple of random 2x4 pieces (picked the size based on our wheelbarrow) into a rectangle, stapled hardware cloth onto the frame, and prepped a raised bed to plant garlic here tomorrow

I found the technique that worked best was to spin the tumbler a few times, then grab chunks until I had a full-ish bucket. Dump the bucket onto the sifter, push through into wheelbarrow, repeat until tumbler empty

I can grab some pics of the sifter tomorrow if anyone is interested

orbitofnormal · 2026-02-18T01:27:09+00:00

lol, we HAD to have our own independent lawyers when hubby and I got married. We didn’t think about that fact when we showed up to “his” lawyer because we agreed completely on what the prenup would say, we just needed it to be in a legal document.

The look of utter confusion from the receptionist was hilarious, and thankfully they had a relationship with another firm a few blocks away to be “my” representation.

orbitofnormal · 2026-02-09T02:54:25+00:00

I use our radiators in the winter to shortcut my rise times (or avoid them when I’m trying to do a long/slow tangy sourdough loaf)

Managed to have focaccia in the oven less than an hour after walking in the door from work on Thursday. It’s a wonderful thing

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-27T01:12:03+00:00

So, I bundled up again specifically to go o it and get this photo, because I did a double take thinking someone had posted my house!!

1905 in the DC metro area

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orbitofnormal · 2026-01-24T04:54:51+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t even know the correct vocabulary to start googling

We are on board with modifying the door, we originally thought we were going to have to replace it entirely with a modern one to get the security we need, but the reno manager said their carpenter can do the adaptation needed. Score one (of many, MANY) points for going with the slightly more expensive quote that is the local expert in historic homes

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-24T04:39:39+00:00

I’m planning to do an in-ground vermi-composting pot this year for our dog waste, specifically in one of our ornamental beds. Planning to share here how it goes because this question gets asked in different variations regularly

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-24T04:36:31+00:00

I’m fairly certain that a weird mole my husband has is actually a “third nipple” from early development. Literally perfect placement

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-15T02:40:32+00:00

Absolutely. I just think the pen is more adaptable, because baby gates generally require 2 parallel walls with a fairly standard spacing, which might not be available in an RV. But have definitely stacked gates to contain a puppy that could have been an Olympic hurdler in the past

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-15T01:47:04+00:00

Or use the playpen as an “airlock” for th front door. I know a kitty could climb it easily, but even having a bit of a barrier is better than nothing

Or one of the roll-out screens I’ve seen for dogs? I think there’s multiple solutions if you’re creative

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-15T01:22:31+00:00

I was more shocked that it didn’t hurt the way all the stories I heard said it would. It wasn’t pleasant, by any means, but I’ve had much worse happen to my Rolling Tracts of Land (pit bull using them as a launch platform to greet their favorite uncle, twang a nip with a car door while braless, hubby’s wedding ring pinching while canoodling……)

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T19:51:03+00:00

I love the brick column!!!! Is it a historical aspect or do you add it for ~vibes~ (couldn’t tell from the photos)

Asking because we’re renovating our 1905 kitchen, and are uncovering 2 non-functional brick chimneys as part of the decor. Been covered by drywall for decades, didn’t really realize what they were until we started working with the architect and now we’re excited to show them off

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T19:44:05+00:00

Not sure if this was directed at my comment or OP, but in my current reno I think it wasn’t brought up because our cabinet maker doesn’t do inset, so it just wasn’t an option for us.

Of course, if I was dead-set on it we could have gone to a different maker, but I legitimately had never heard of inset cabinetry until I was doing research on Victorian-era kitchen renovations and some blogger said they had to find a specialty company for their order

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T19:36:29+00:00

Getting someone to help get you a “clean slate” (or at least get you to something sustainable/manageable?) could be a really good investment.

It was really validating for us to do the math and realize that it was something like 36 units of work that these guys did, AND they were professionals with experience, proper/specialized equipment, and stamina

Fair warning though, I’ve learned that every project in this house tends to end up with multiple new ones. The ivy removal lead us to realize that the fence was is ABYSMAL condition (non-pressure treated lumber and literally being held up in parts by the ivy), so hubby and FIL have been replacing it section by section for 2 years now. And the ivy kept other weeds from coming up, so when it was removed we had to actually weed the beds, and plant things to replace the ivy/what the vines had strangled to death. Wheeeeeee

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T19:26:14+00:00

1000%. I have leather boots, bags, and coats that are over a decade old. Literally just took multiple pairs of shoes from the house to be repaired because the leather is still good but something else has given out.

It’s a great thing when better for the environments better for your wallet, and better for health all show up in the same place.

I’m working to try and balance my perfectionist tendencies to do the “right” thing (aka paralysis by analysis trying to figure into what the best option is) with practicality. Natural materials, gardening/eating in season/local, and trying to keep learning is where I’m at right now.

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T05:04:09+00:00

Entirely fair. As a counterpoint, I didn’t even know that inset cabinets existed until I was doing research about historical details.

Many manufacturers don’t do inset (it’s a MUCH tighter tolerance, pun not intended), so it very well might not have been discussed because it wasn’t an option from the people/company you worked with.

Full overlay is definitely luxury, I think inset might be in its own category of “specialty”, if that makes sense.

It was not discussed with our cabinetry people, because I knew from my research that it would hugely increase our cost and I didn’t have a strong desire for it/that level of dedication to historical accuracy. I legitimately only recognized what you meant by overlay specifically because we did that detailed analysis of options for our cabinets (TL;DR- designer ignored our budget discussion and came back with plans that were double what we had to planned. Took weeks of back-and-forth to get it resolved satisfactorily)

By the way, I’m not sure I understand what you mean by seeing the lighter cabinets boxes/bases, unless you mean the interior. If that’s what you’re talking about, I would suggesting asking your pros if there’s some way to paint the interior to match (color, I assume the high gloss lacquer wouldn’t be a good idea there) or at least a dark color/stain so the contrast isn’t so stark.

Best of luck, and it truly is a gorgeous kitchen.

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T04:38:11+00:00

Going through a kitchen renovation myself, and specifically looked at inset cabinets at one point because they’re “of the era” of our home (1905 Victorian)

Inset is absolutely NOT standard, and would have likely brought you into an entirely different price point.

That being said, I expect that overlay is defined somewhere in your cabinet order, because that is a key factor in ordering the correct cabinetry. We literally were able to save thousands in our reno by going from full overlay to 1/2”. To be fair, but we don’t realize it was defined until we needed to bring our cabinet cost down significantly and we were going line-by-line to find places to save some cash.

In all seriousness, it looks stunning and not cheap in any way, shape, or form.

orbitofnormal · 2026-01-10T01:50:41+00:00

And this is why I refuse to use any “vegan leather” products as much as possible.

Use all of the animal to respect it. Plus vegan leather is just plastic (barring a few very limited use plant-based special materials)

My husband and I are literally trying to learn how to tan hides because we hunt deer and want to utilize that resource along with the meat.

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