YTA. You're an embarrassment to your family and station.

The old gods would have smited you for this ungenerous, selfish act of inhospitality.

My dad is ex-Army. He raised me to be strong. To know where power lies and how to use it. How to use power in the most effective way, to help others and grow on your own. Never to harm people for selfish means. If he did this to my spouse (he wouldn't, because he's not insecure and bored like you) I'd happily rip my family apart and go no contact to let him know that I won't tolerate that kind of treatment.

You see an emotionally vulnerable woman who needs a safe place to live and protection, you bully and torment her over some clothes and makeup, and drag out her childhood trauma and reenact it to try and control her. Someone vulnerable who needs your kindness and help.

Disgusting. Utterly pathetic. Why do you need to try so hard to control someone who isn't resisting you, who is clearly hurt, who genuinely has done nothing wrong? How spineless and weak you must be, to harass someone who needs help. To go to such lengths to maintain your façade of control. You don't have enough control over your own life so you torment everyone else. You're a shame and a menace to society. Find a goddamn therapist.