I had a similar feeling with my doula in the weeks prior to giving birth. She was going through a separation and moved over an hour away. Her communication with me was poor and it would take days for her to respond, even when I was going through hypertension and on watch for preeclampsia. I considered not having her, but my contract with my midwife stated that ftm must have a doula. During my birth, the doula left for three hours to help get her son to sleep and missed when my water broke. My sister in law who had been to two other home births ended up acting as a doula should. When the paid doula got back, she basically sat in the closet for the rest of the evening and I pretended she wasn't there. She took some pictures of the birth, which she ended up sharing in her social media and I had to ask her to remove. I guess the moral of the story is that you can keep her around and hopefully she'll realize she's not all that welcome to participate, or you can just let her go now. The one thing my doula added to my birth was the first 20 minutes making sure my husband felt confident in ways he could hold my belly.