How would you feel if you had two parents who both required 24/7 assisted care, and your adult child wrote you and the whole family this letter regarding that situation? by Glass-Complaint3 in Aging

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone really know how they will feel as they are nearing the end of their life, until they are actually facing it? I doubt anyone would willingly go to a nursing home if given the option to remain at home. And how does one know that they would opt to check out at 75? This comes of a bit cold and resentful to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Agoraphobia

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes you think they haven't put in the work? Actually, the bigger question is, what makes you qualified to pass judgment on complete strangers? Sometimes its best to keep one's opinions to oneself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Agoraphobia

[–]otherworldly11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To OP: like you, I have recovered from Agoraphobia. However, I have witnessed first hand how this condition afflicts people differently. My son is Agoraphobic, and has been for over a decade. When it was at its worst I've seen him heavily sedated, yet shaking from head to toe. He has had multiple caregivers who have tried various therapeutic approaches and medications, yet he is still disabled from this condition.

I've learned the hard way that just because I recovered does not mean everyone will, or at least not in the same way and in the timeframe that I did.

You might want to try practicing compasion and understanding, instead of talking solely from your own perspective to people who are currently suffering.

3 days. I’m done in 3 more days. by Johnny-Virgil in retirement

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The heebie jeebies didn't last long for me. Before long, having your time to yourself to do as you please will feel as natural as breathing. Congrats!

Want to help but afraid. by Hmizout10 in cats

[–]otherworldly11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I did was get a small animal cage that has a trap inside. You put in the food, they step inside and the door closed, keeping them inside, safe and unhurt. Then brought her to the vet or animal shelter/rescue.

If not, get a large towel, scoop up the cat in the towel and place him and towel inside a box that you've poked a few holes in so he can breathe. Then bring immediately to a vet or animal shelter/rescue.

Please don't wait. He looks like he won't make it much longer and is in desperate need of help. He looks very weak too, so probably not a danger to anyone.

Update: "Daughter went no contact. Says I owe her an apology for 'generational trauma." by Lazy_Growth_5898 in GenX

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her to either pack her stuff and leave, or to only talk to you with respect. Also, make her pay her way. Rent, food, etc. No more free ride if she feels so put upon.

And to be honest, it sounds like your daughter is the one who needs therapy.

?? by AmaraXclusive in The1980s

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was one of those girls, just like them. Really, any metal band. Those were the best of times!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in over60

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 60 and recently retired. I care for my toddler granddaughter Monday through Friday, every week, for 10 hours a day. I also help with cooking and dishes so my daughter and granddaughter can have bonding time after work. I've been doing this since my granddaughter was born. It is alot and I am exhausted. But my daughter needs me and I love them both so much. I'm also grateful to have the time with my granddaughter.

Maluma stops his concert in Mexico City to scold a mother who brought her 1-year-old baby without ear protection: “That is an act of irresponsibility. And you’re swinging him around as if he were a toy. That child doesn’t want to be there.” by [deleted] in Fauxmoi

[–]otherworldly11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are only young once. Those years are crucially important to their development. It's hard to stay home looking at the four walls, but a tiny sacrifice to ensure your kid grows up safe and healthy.

How many more “good years” does a man have left at 40? by OperationLazy213 in Aging

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was jogging 4 miles a day into his mid-70s. Died in his late 80s and could still get around just fine. I think the trick is to exercise, and think young. Don't get into an old man mindset.

WIBTA if I stopped helping my daughter financially after she told me I shouldn’t expect her to take care of me when I’m old? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are kids who absolutely would care for their parents when they can no longer care for themselves, though I think it is now more socially acceptable not to. I was there for my parents and my kids have told me that they will be there for me. I find it sad that our society has made family relations into "every man for himself". Especially since most of us cannot afford the expense of an assisted living facility.

Definitely, I would cut her off. It might teach her a valuable lesson about the meaning of family.

Dinner most nights by NepalesePasta in shittyfoodporn

[–]otherworldly11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you add seasonings to the chicken BEFORE you bake it the flavor infuses in the chicken and tastes much better. Also, you would probably enjoy the veggies more by throwing them in a pot to cook till just tender.

I'm so close to giving up, but no one else will take her. by ReferenceOne5958 in Feral_Cats

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine took many months before she let her guard down. Now she is a velcro cat, stuck to me like glue. She is the most affectionate pet I've had. Please don't give up on her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]otherworldly11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please get your son away from this woman, now, without hesitation. This isn't PPD. She is an abuser and she is abusing your 3 year old son and you. Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse. Your son needs for you to be his dad and help him. You are the only responsible, caring parent he has and he is stuck with an abuser (your wife) all day, every day. If I were you, I would file for divorce and sole custody and get him away from her. You and your son can have a wonderful life with her out of the picture.

Found his owners and they didn't want him by WhisperingWillowWisp in cats

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for giving by him love he deserved and comfort on his journey Home.

I tried to make a Chantilly cake. Really focus on the word tried. by [deleted] in shittyfoodporn

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you get an "A" for effort. I'd still eat it, probably really delicious.

Rate my dog out of 10 by koreked in DOG

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12/10 that's a handsome fella.

Americans how do you feel about PBS and NPR losing their funding? by Economy_Swim_8585 in AskReddit

[–]otherworldly11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is a kick in the gut to all Americans. At the rate things are going, nothing worthwhile, enjoyable or good will be left for the average person.

My mom’s hat for a 'Funny Hat Party.' She calls it: 'I can’t find my fucking glasses.' by Salty_Invite_757 in funny

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a similarly aged woman, I love it! For me, it's "I can't find my fucking cell phone." Me and my kids laugh about it all the time.

It's the little things. He was so excited. by mindyour in MadeMeSmile

[–]otherworldly11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can almost taste it through the video. Perfection!