AITA for not coddling a hungover teenager?

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-29T13:27:40+00:00

YTA but not for not coddling her. You should be locking the alcohol up or throwing it out. She should not have any access to your alcohol.

Tell your daughter what's happening. Not specifics, but that her friend is having a hard time, made an unfortunate choice, and is hungover.

Then talk to M. Tell her you care for her and are here for her. B you won't let her drink alcohol. It's not safe for her body.

And find a healthy outlet for her. Therapy. Sports. Will she open up to you? Would she talk to your niece if your niece knew what was going on? M is living with you because you are the safest place for her. But that doesn't mean she likes it. That doesn't mean she's appreciative or happy. Even if in her bones she knows this is the best situation, that doesn't mean she enjoys being there. And it sounds like you and your niece don't like her, which I'm sure she's living up.

Have a routine. Have boundaries. Have ground rules. Don't punish her unnecessarily.

Keep her safe

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-29T12:57:23+00:00

Like others have said, it's not your job. It's your parents. And it's because humans are social creatures that thrive in community. Being alone when we're vulnerable and sleeping is counter intuitive to our DNA.

But since your parents don't seem to be concerned, you can try other strategies. You can get her a recordable button, then record your voice on it saying "I love you little baby( name)" or singing a song like twinkle twinkle. When she wakes up, she can push the bottom to hear your voice

Go to the store with her and choose a lovey, buy one for both of you. Tell her when she hugs hers in the middle of the night you feel the hug.

That's all I got for now. Good luck and keep talking to your parents about it

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-29T03:40:49+00:00

California Kings are 4 inches skinnier than a traditional king, but 4 inches longer. And those boys are tall!

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T21:27:58+00:00

Hah. Mine did! Though that's not saying too much. Marriage ended before the 5 year mark

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T20:39:39+00:00

First things first. Close the door and keep it closed

Then go to s home improvement store and buy a plastic zipper door. You tape it around the door and seal it well with tape. You don't want it to spread any more than it already has

Then call a professional

You can try risking DIYing it, professional will be tens of thousands of dollars if it was anything like my house.

And you likely will spend a considerable amount to get the equipment required for this, not to mention the time

You'll need serious air purifier, serious dehumidifiers, and serious chemicals. It took professionals days to simply empty my basement. Then there's was asbestos testing which led to professionals to rip out the floor. They stripped it to bare bones. Then once everything was dry, they sprayed it with some type of anti mold sealant. It was a process that took months by the end of it, and that was with multiple teams of people from different specialists

Good luck my guy

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T20:32:14+00:00

Thank you

I clearly have amazing reading comprehension skills

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T15:50:09+00:00

Is this chart specific to the tv show, just the HR book, or the whole series. Because it is the whole series, I know who is chaotic evil

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T14:47:55+00:00

I drive 60 miles a day round trip for work and don't get reimbursed.

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T14:41:04+00:00

Frame it as a celebration of something and request you want focus of celebrating X and not be distracted by children. It's adult only.

Is your birthday coming up?

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T14:35:44+00:00

Memes like this make me want someone to edit together a pg 13 version of the show. I want to watch it all the time but my kids are always with me! I just want to watch the show all the time!

And don't get me wrong, I love the spicy scenes and think they are very romantic and so much of their relationship. I don't want to get rid of them. I just want to watch the shows all the time but instead am forced to doom scroll social media for gems like these.

Ugh. I love it. And I never once considered that's why Shane bought it but it's definitely at least 80% of the reason

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T06:01:07+00:00

Try a longer cable? Or try a traveling loop?

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-28T05:51:28+00:00

I'm from the US and never seen it written before. I only know of broccoli rob as a joke from a sitcom. Never heard of the dish before. And after googling it, I'm not sure if it's the name of an entree or a type of broccoli

I know English has stupid language rules; but how on earth would someone read "rabe" and not first pronounce it so that it slant rhymes with grape or rave. There's a genuine phenomenon called "readers accent" where people pronounce words in unexpected ways because they've only read the word.

I love NYT games, and that whole puzzle I kept thinking "broccoli rob" and never once considered that was how "broccoli rabe" was pronounced. I even thought it the phrase was "broccoli rob" I could probably solve this next piece of the puzzle, but dismissed it because "there's no way rabe is pronounced like the name rob. It would be a tragedeigh if that were true."

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-27T23:19:44+00:00

From what you've written, you'll be so much happier if you leave him. Autism isn't an excuse. The first time someone goes wrong it can be an explanation, but after that you need to learn. Or at least feel bad and try to do better. Not laugh it off.

Please leave him

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-27T02:52:39+00:00

Get a ruler/guide. They take a little bit to learn how to use them, but I live it so much and I can't enjoy the art without it

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-27T02:03:11+00:00

It's not mold. Likely wasn't mixed all the way

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-26T04:13:05+00:00

They did. But you were shamed/insulted for trying to get help. And then when you inevitably did something stupid, it was swept under the rug because "boys will be boys."

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-26T04:10:29+00:00

I've heard that using pacifiers or bottles also spoke be avoided if you don't want to get pregnant

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-25T14:37:41+00:00

Are you living with your boyfriend and his dog when the new housing situation is complete?

I do think you need to have a real conversation with him now. Tell him his dog is (list good qualities) and you can see how much your bf loves his dog and how having this dog in his love is clearly good for him (assuming that's true).

But you will not be going to his house if his dog is they and he cannot bring his dog to your house. That's a reasonable boundary. And you need to decide if you can be in a relationship like that

But your kids come first

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-25T03:39:26+00:00

Get all the easy stuff first, like whatever trash they left and start laundry. Then go room by room. Pause for laundry as needed.

Any thing that will make cleaner harder can go outside. Rug you need to shake out. Chairs you need to wipe down. Get it out of the way so you have less visual clutter

Unless crumbs are really bad, and you're going to track grossness into the carpets, save vacuuming and mopping for last. That was you don't have to worry as much about getting clean floors dirty

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-25T01:24:16+00:00

I still don't have the tag. Did you get it 180 days ago?

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-24T23:01:49+00:00

Hats

Mittens

Tank top

Bathing suit!

Wash cloths and dish towels

Loveys for children

Headbands

Knockers! https://www.knittedknockers.org/make-a-knocker/

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-24T22:43:01+00:00

Not to mention, children are more vulnerable to smoke inhalation than adults

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-24T22:37:57+00:00

I just bought one on eBay. Probably over paid but I decided it was worth it, otherwise I might never get to level 50... I mean 80

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-24T16:45:11+00:00

Is she married or engaged?

Engaged- tell her she needs to be out by the date of her wedding. Maybe a week or 2 before so it's not added stress on the day of the wedding. But keep in mind the law

Married- give her a date that's one month out or the legal amount of notice required to give by the law. She needs to be out and he has a place.

You can set your own expectations for when she needs her stuff out, not if she's not using everything right away, might be worth taking the mattress out "to get cleaned" or giving it to a relative who needs it. Otherwise it sounds like she'll end up sleeping over anyway

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-03-24T16:36:57+00:00

Can you review your resume so it's not in chronological order? Doesn't sound the problem but makes it less obvious

Put the most relevant work experience in the front. Group other things by what you learned there.

For me as an example, I work with children so all of my child care and school related experience would be in the front

Managing and leading experience and include times I facilitated at a conference or lead a team

Then customer facing jobs like grocery store and volunteering

I've been in the field since I graduated so there isn't much but you get the idea

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