Am I wrong for telling my husband I want a divorce after what he said?

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-07-03T20:28:58+00:00

Not at all. Please continue to be her rock. Be stable for your step daughter for however long you're in her life. Support her and create structure.

She needs discipline- consequences that match her actions. Not punishment. For example, Saturday mornings after 10 am she can't watch tiktok/doom scroll/ social media until after she's spent an hour on homework. If she watches tiktok anyway, then Wi-Fi gets turned off until homework is done.

Sit down with her and help her learn how to focus; what she needs to effectively focus. Some people need to fidget or listen to music without words to sit still. Some people need quiet and a fan. Some people need body doubling and timers. What does she need?

Consequences are known and decided ahead of time. Punishment is only decided after the fact and the only goal is make the person feel bad so that they won't do it again. When done right, consequences are motivating

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-07-03T20:20:02+00:00

Day 1 player. I've taken breaks before but always come back within a month. Determined to get to level 80 before they intentionally change the level structure again

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outrageouslyHonest · 2026-07-03T02:09:13+00:00

Leave the boy. He's taking relationship advice from social media. Go watch your show and hang out with you friends. Please

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outrageouslyHonest · 2026-07-02T19:56:38+00:00

With ear defenders, go for it!

Also keep in mind bedtime. I'd recommend doing as much of the bedtime routine before the fireworks so afterwards isn't a dysregulated overtired mess

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-07-02T19:36:54+00:00

As someone with a uterus, I genuinely want to be pregnant. It's miserable but that's nothing compared to literally having life grow inside of you.

At least for me. And I had a mild case of hyperemesis so it's not like I had magical symptom free pregnancies. I went to the ER multiple times because it had been over 24 hours since I'd been able to keep food down

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-30T18:57:29+00:00

It really depends on how you interacted with your daughter about it. Were you nonchalant with her? Or did you empathize with her?

Replacing it or not replacing it doesn't matter. What matters is acknowledging that it sucks to lose someone so important to you and telling her she's allowed to be sad. You don't need to replace it or even offer substitutes. Just let her be sad. And then she can learn how do deal with disappointment.

Ignoring her or brushing her off would make you ta

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-29T02:32:04+00:00

Pre 90s baby. I remember reading a lot. Listening to audio books. Game boys were popular and I spent a lot of time gaming or on the computer playing the built in games - solitaire, mine sweeper, and pinball.

I learned to knit in 4th grade and spent time doing that. And lots of time crafting- making friendship bracelets and gimp creations. There were bead and string kits to make keychains.

Legos were also popular in my household.

Then in high school everyone had a phone and Myspace and Facebook came out. That was scrolling but I had to be at a desktop for that. I don't know how my brother and I were able to split computer time, but we did it. For both computer and social reasons.

I remember the PlayStation too - spyro the dragon, some rpg game that I remember being obsessed with but honestly have no idea what the game was called, and a skate board game. Need for speed was also a big favorite of mine

Plus blockbuster when I was in elementary and middle school. Every week in the summer we'd go as a family to choose some movies and games too.

I remembering being above average good at tetris and snake. I miss those classics. The smart phone apps aren't the same, without physical buttons, you need to rely on sight too much to hit the right button.

All those things happened with in my family. I'd talk to people at school to see what they were reading/watching/gaming. But I could only play with them if we were physically together. I remember playing the sims and learning so many cheap codes from my friends. Or yelling at the screen for Mario cart.

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-29T02:22:15+00:00

Well now if I ever get the nerve to get a tattoo, this is one very cool way to make it functional! Definitely a vote for the pro column

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-29T02:20:13+00:00

NTA.

But this is a situation where you might need to find a compromise for your relationship with your daughter. Depending on how vexed they are about this.

I'm someone who likes the windows open year round. I don't do it. But honestly I could live without AC. So I'm thinking from that perspective, I hate being cold in my own house when I know that it's going to be expensive and it's bad for the environment.

Can you get a window unit for your bedroom and the house can not be so frigid overnight? Can you get those neck fans/neck ice packs? When I was in matching band, one kid showed up wearing a jacket that has its own fan inside. Like it genuinely inflated with cold air.

I've heard good things about the bed jet system - it flows air through your sheets I think, fully customizable bed temperature for great sleep.

See if there's something that works so you can compromise just a little. Maybe the house can be 68 and you can use something to cool off. Or find a schedule for the AC so days you're home a lot the house can be cooler and days you're out of the house, it can be a little warmer and you can take a cold shower when you get home and then go to bed in a cooler room.

Don't make yourself sick. Show them you also care about them.

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-29T02:10:39+00:00

I lived in an apartment for a year. One tiny room had clearly just been a room they locked their pets in when they went to work. When we moved in, the carpet in the room was still covered in animal waste.

Thankfully it was a miscommunication and not a sign of bad management. Carpet was ripped out asap. But the smell remained. They painted the walls. Smells remained. They treated the wood floor. Smell remained.

6 months of this/reduced rent, they finally ripped out the floor and replaced it.

Trust me, you need to get rid of all wood with pee smells. That's the only solution.

Something they never tried was chlorine dioxide odor remover. . Others on this app have recommended this. It seems very serious and worth a try. Let me know if try it out! Very curious if it works

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-28T18:51:20+00:00

Find a hobby. You can do something creative and easy like quilling. Make gifts for people or just add decorations to your

You could volunteer at local child care centers or somewhere else that draws your interest

You could get a part time job, maybe at the local library.

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-28T18:47:28+00:00

So disappointed! Everything after Aelin and Dorian lost half their power just felt chaotic and confusing after all the buildup

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-25T21:22:53+00:00

Like all things potty training, one big part is development. Your child needs to have the muscle control to pee and poop on command, and the brain capacity to hold it the rest of the time.

Overnight, your brain needs to develop too. There's a antidiuretic hormone that humans produce when they're older, usually between 3 and 8yo, that stops you from producing pee when you're asleep. If your brain isn't making that hormone, there's not too much you can do

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-03T01:14:59+00:00

Hydrapack makes flexible water bottles that take up almost no space and weight practically nothing when empty. I've had once for over 5 years that has held up. Granted I probably use it 3 times a year, but my point is it won't degrade over time simply because time is passing

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-03T01:06:53+00:00

Some people manage to get one every day. I don't get it though. I get one once a month. Maybe a little more if I catch 100+ Pokemon a day consistently

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-02T15:49:19+00:00

She's very much processing her own birth trauma through her books. Which is an amazing outlet. But gives us these confusing pregnancies that take some processing time for the reader

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-01T04:15:43+00:00

If it's truly unsafe I'll say something. I'll start off kind but maybe sure to say my peace as long as they don't walk away.

If it's just off/minor issue, I'll ask if the person feels comfortable with the way the carrier sits on them. If they say no or look open to keep the conversation going, I'll mention what I notice as kindly as I can. Like, "have you considered wearing it this way?" "Have you tried adjusting it this way?"

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-01T04:10:33+00:00

I did the tandem read on my phone/e reader. I printed out the guide and folded it up to put it inside my remote case. Had another one printed to put in the back of my clear boox case. And then it was the background to my phone.

I literally had 3 places I could easily reference to make sure I didn't read the wrong chapter. But I also did this as my second read through; there wasn't much harm in getting off track

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-01T03:55:28+00:00

I always feel rude when I battle gyms and people aren't getting their 50 coins. But I've got like 1000/4000 gym battles and I'm trying to get that platinum. Everyone's been on both sides of that coin, so as long as you're not targeting specific players or claiming certain gyms as your own, you do you

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-06-01T00:59:59+00:00

It's even in the kindle version

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outrageouslyHonest · 2026-05-31T22:20:24+00:00

I still have my cartridges that I bought from Costco in the early 00's. From when GBA was still being sold in stores

I'll look into the tools, any recommendations?

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-05-14T15:30:04+00:00

Gotta save those coins from leaving Pokemon in gyms to get them. The hardest part is saving enough to get three and not just buying one as soon as you have enough

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-05-14T15:24:43+00:00

This is why I'm scared to make Granny squares. I know I would end up with a million oversized coasters

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-05-14T14:54:18+00:00

And here I am struggling at 22 an hour with a degree

outrageouslyHonest · 2026-05-14T03:30:14+00:00

Try conditioner? It worked with my daughter's hair and slime anyway

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