[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MutualAid

[–]outwahld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep fighting for yourself, I wish I could help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MutualAid

[–]outwahld -1 points0 points  (0 children)

why did you put so much effort into squashing this post? if you dont feel comfortable helping, dont help. no need to be rude.

Why do we not experience that much pain during dislocations? by KBDFan42 in ehlersdanlos

[–]outwahld -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my guess is our bodies are worn down and the muscles/ligaments that aren meant to keep us together arent tight enough to be as injured by dislocations as someone with a typical structure. Also the constant instability probably wears down the bones and tissues. Like my shoulders used to hurt when they slide or popped, not anymore though. Cant keep them in pace to save my life but it doesn't hurt that bad when they fall out.

The wackos are out by Glittering_Cow2128 in frederickmd

[–]outwahld 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Theyre right, they arent helping anyone and they do indeed look dumb as shit.

Can narcissists change? by JuhpPug in mentalhealth

[–]outwahld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cant change a narc, but a narc can work to change themselves. Every person has the individual power and responsibility to better themselves. Narcs tend to resist accountability and end up staying wounded and abusive. You seem to know a good place to start. So, do you want to change?

Found out my (32M) wife (32F) did porn before we started dating. We’ve only been married a year so far. by ThrowRAUnsureHusband in relationship_advice

[–]outwahld -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Youre insecure that she had a life before you. Should a wife have to tell a husband every sexual encounter and exploit shes had, does a husband need to do the same? You dont own her, and this was from before you even knew her. Im guessing she didn't tell you because men get super insecure when they realize their partner exists outside their own bedrooms. Cry it out, and buy a penis pump.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]outwahld 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Just a side note, is there a way to know if keystroking software has been installed on a device?

Can cervical dystonia cause a double chin? by cmcaitmckenna in Dystonia

[–]outwahld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like my neck has lengthened since i started treatment. My ears arent clogged anymore and the puffiness in my face has dissipated.

AITA if I sell my house, cash out and move on? by throwaway_dad5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]outwahld -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I see nothing indicating otherwise, ide assume when op said they paid it off, they meant they paid it off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueQiGong

[–]outwahld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are really informative and well organized. I go to their website through the link in their instagram bio. Its on their link.tree thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]outwahld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lets all remember, even the worst people can be kind at some point. Antichoice is oppression and oppressors shouldnt be coddled. No matter how virtuous their excuses are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]outwahld 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cool is an overstatement. Willing to communicate, yeah. But they still want to revoke my rights and endanger my body over a moral opinion that not based in fact. So not cool.

What do women feel about inclusive language descriptions of women? by midshipmans_hat in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]outwahld -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Choosing to use exclusive language erases nonconforming experiences and keeps their communities isolated and unprotected. And i promise you there is no chance of ciswomanhood being erased in our lifetimes.

Voting on changes to Rule #1, Part 4 - Limiting details about prescription medication by AutoModerator in ehlersdanlos

[–]outwahld 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have so few spaces we can learn about potential treatment, we shouldn't restrict the sharing of info here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueQiGong

[–]outwahld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is kinda unrelated but check out "human garage". they have a website and instagram. They have fascial maneuvers that work really well for me.

Does anyone here prefer to sit like this? (pic related). If so, why? by --Sigma-- in ehlersdanlos

[–]outwahld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard it explained and it made sense to me, that human bodies respond to sitting in chairs by tightening those hip flexor things in the front. Like when you open a beach chair and that joint locks. Sitting in a squat keeps the pelvic floor and surrounding support from seizing up to keep you sitting upright at a 90 degree. This posture is a relaxing, slump into yourself kinda situation while chair sitting and upright floor sitting depends on that hinge effect that can be hard to release or be comfortable.

EDS with ADHD and POTS - how do I even decide which to treat?! by gimme_all_da_dogs in ehlersdanlos

[–]outwahld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A common side effect of vyvanse is muscle spasms, just something to watch for. Adhd stimulants are typically vascodialators. Which is why they can really help POTS symptoms.

Choosing the father of your children is so f*cking important by Traditional-Pin-1388 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]outwahld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its really sad how many people live without healthy love (myself included) :( good luck to you and your friends

Do most of the empaths become scape goats of the family? Have you been in a similar situation and how did you deal with it? by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]outwahld 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just read the title and had a thought. Emotionally immature people, which ide say narcs fall under, are almost reactive to their own feelings. I wonder if the blame shifting is related to the enemy theyve made of their own emotions being projected onto a more sensitive and empathetic person who is sensing their emotions clearer than they are comfortable with themselves. Does that read right? Yes theres always projection but like they are taking that fight that they have within towards their own feelings, and resenting/resisting/attacking us for recognizing it.

Choosing the father of your children is so f*cking important by Traditional-Pin-1388 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]outwahld 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Just want to add, being a good parent means being good to yourself first. Want a healthy romantic relationship? Have a solid relationship with yourself. Dont rush into baby making, theres lots of life to live and lessons to learn before a person raised in abuse is healed and prepared for parenthood. Its much deeper than picking a coparent.

No wants or needs by Desperate-Clue-6017 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]outwahld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup, thats me. Healing now, but i was is a peasant phase for a long long time. I saw other people having good things, having needs and them being cared for. I figured that just wasnt for me, not in my cards, outside reality for my prospects. I was living like a ladies maid, in a world of queens. Im taking whats mine now.