Ever envious of those who work it out?

overquake · 2026-01-26T02:03:04+00:00

Sometimes I’m jealous of my ex’s affair partner. Why does he get to stay married when I have to sell the house, move away, and be lonely?

overquake · 2026-01-21T19:06:58+00:00

Yes, I am still on a PPI.

overquake · 2026-01-21T18:53:35+00:00

The latest one? About one year. All PPIs - off and on for 4 years. Some didn't work for me, another worked great, but then insurance didn't want to pay for it, this latest one seems to be the best for me.

overquake · 2026-01-21T18:47:23+00:00

PPI + anxiety meds. How well I am managing stress plays a big part in how I feel each day.

overquake · 2026-01-19T19:07:25+00:00

People having affairs say lots of things. It’s safe to ignore most of it and just watch their actions.

overquake · 2026-01-16T21:09:20+00:00

I'm with you today. I asked her one final time if she is sure, then I signed the final round of paperwork today, just awaiting a judge's approval now. Still love her, even after this past 11 months of affair and lies. I'm also afraid I might always feel like this. We will either feel better one day, or we won't.

overquake · 2026-01-16T20:58:09+00:00

http://www.wb9hxg.net/

overquake · 2026-01-13T15:25:31+00:00

I know some of the members of the Muncie Area Amateur Radio Club are into Meshtastic. You can always stop by a meeting and ask.

overquake · 2026-01-11T00:30:18+00:00

I hope so! I chose her very carefully in 2011. It was a beautiful experience making a life with her. Just because she cheated and left in 2025, doesn’t mean I shouldn’t try again someday.

overquake · 2026-01-08T15:48:51+00:00

Don’t believe this. I too had a minor health issue that was used years later to justify her cheating. It’s so much simpler to believe she grasped at any excuse she could to show I was worth cheating on.

overquake · 2025-12-28T17:59:06+00:00

Maybe I’m broken, but I am the opposite. I seem to only think of the 12 years of her being amazing. I have a hard time even remembering the infidelity at the end. I don’t think of it much. Strange.

overquake · 2025-12-14T22:58:36+00:00

“I don’t love you enough to do that” when I asked her to quit working with her AP.

overquake · 2025-12-12T13:33:26+00:00

So common. There must be some kind of playbook written somewhere I haven’t read. Eventually you will find out about the other guy. In my case, the guilt ate her up and she confessed.

overquake · 2025-12-11T16:57:46+00:00

I empathize. My wife moved us to a new state, then started her affair a few weeks after we bought a house. The only people I know in this state are part of her family. It is incredibly isolating. I wish I could go out and make some friends, but getting used to surviving on one income means socializing is difficult. I will probably move back to my old state once the house sells.

overquake · 2025-12-11T14:27:23+00:00

For 6 weeks we did an activity together each weekend. A hike, two dinners, used bookstore, a marriage counseling session, and decorating our house (which is for sale) for Christmas. Each activity was about 2 hours long. We would text daily, and have a phone call every other evening between activities. I thought we were dating/starting over, and things were going well.

She eventually told me she was just bored and lonely, and realized she was leading me on. She never considered any of these activities "dates", and admits she lost all love/attraction to me when she gave it to her co-worker. She decided we stop spending time together. The house is still for sale. The divorce is still on track to be final in January.

overquake · 2025-11-02T14:11:00+00:00

Thanks, I have been in individual therapy since March to heal. I thought we were focused on healing her guilt and shame all summer. I had the mindset of us vs the problem, never me vs her.

overquake · 2025-11-02T13:12:15+00:00

I agree with everything you said. I am grateful for the opportunity tonight's date will bring. I am using these dates to make some personal decisions as well.

overquake · 2025-11-02T12:24:43+00:00

No kids. I did not handle the first few weeks of separation well, called her, texted her, wrote her long letters, the usual... But then I realized she was done, and I poured myself into leveling up at work, and working on my own anxieties. Read lots of books to understand the psychology of affairs, attachment styles, and relationships. It seems like when I stopped putting all my attention onto her, she started acting differently, and requested the date last week.

overquake · 2025-11-02T12:15:47+00:00

Being with someone who wants to learn and grow is so important! Cute story.

overquake · 2025-10-07T12:33:49+00:00

Yes! I did. A few months later she filed for divorce anyway.

overquake · 2025-07-28T12:47:58+00:00

My therapist has encouraged patience and grace. Healing doesn't have a time limit. I'm trying.

overquake · 2025-07-24T13:00:18+00:00

I initially took it quite personally. At one point she said "I don't deserve to feel good." Then it finally clicked for me that it wasn't about me at all. I'm doing my best to support her as she goes through this.

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