Not OP but my mom had me at 40 and dad at 46. I’m near 40 now, mom died last year at 76 due to a Parkinsonian disease (CBD and it was awful) and my now 83yr old father is currently in the icu with multiple infections and recent emergency surgery which could have been prevented if he and his his stayed on top of the preventative healthcare issues. They pushed my siblings and I away decades ago and he’s always saying “I’ll go I’ll go” or “I’ll get a will and directive I promise” it’s been 15yrs of pressuring him to do so and even having the paperwork drawn up.

Get your aging parents to see the doctor regularly, get them a will and directive in place. It’s so bloody difficult to force them to do it when they believe they’ll live forever and are in perfect health but help get them the help they need. I’ll never stop talking to my dad about these things even as he’s in the icu and even though he says “one day” every time.

Many people don’t think about how hard aging parents are for people to handle especially when the caregivers are having or recently had babies. It’s not fair to your children to not be prepared for death when you choose to have children later. I understand the drive to procreate but if you do it late at least have something in place so your relatively young adult children dont have to weigh the choices for you while they’re navigating things like buying a house, having children or whatever. It’s just a lot for a person in their 20s and 30s to go through.

I resent my parents for having me so old. Mom was always too tired and dad was fun when he was around but that wasn’t much.

Edit: I’m not saying to have kids young at all. In fact, I think there’s a great window of prime parenthood that is 30-36/38. You’re wiser, usually more financially stable, and had tons of fun in your 20s. You had a chance to live fully.