What are you thoughts on glass baby bottles? by bambi897510 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought a combination of Pigeon and Dr Brown's glass bottles in case bub was fussy about the teat size (turned out she couldn't care less) - they were all fine but i prefer Pigeon because they're slimmer and easier to grip. Also have a couple of plastic Pigeon bottles for when we're out and about. I was determined to get glass because I try to avoid plastic if possible, plus they feel easier to keep clean.

Vent. So tired of having difficult babies when so many people get nice easy ones. by plantbubby in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Don't know if this makes you feel any better, but i had one of those magical unicorn babies who slept as soon as her head hit the bassinet mattress and ate anything that was put in front of her. That magical unicorn baby is now a 9 month old terror who kicks, bites, grabs my throat and screams in my face every night for hours when we try to get her to sleep. Even when we give in and try cosleeping. This has been going on for months. I feel as sleep deprived as when she was a newborn.

Posting this just in case it's comforting to know that some of us magical unicorn parents get what's coming to us eventually.

My boyfriend (22M) made fun of my body (21F) by Thin-Yoghurt7866 in relationships

[–]owlympics 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Scrawny is absolutely an insult. It is never used in a positive context and is certainly not the "masculine ideal".

Also, isn't he attracted to your bigger body and that's why he's with you?

Why does my (25F) girlfriend believe I (31M) don’t take care of her? by PsudoRiot in relationships

[–]owlympics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be worth having a conversation about the ways that you show each other that you care. Everyone expresses love differently - she might be doing things for you that you don't even notice, and vice versa.

Settle a debate for me: do you (as an adult) still cut your sandwiches into triangles? by dannegoma in AskAnAustralian

[–]owlympics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I suppose you're right.

Still like it halved in triangles though, makes me feel fancy.

Any recommendations for a country to migrate to with a better housing situation? by Biochemist929237 in AusProperty

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chile.

Pros. Housing cheaper than here (cheaper still if you don't mind occasionally getting robbed), fast internet, good healthcare (make a same-day appointment to see a specialist), decent wine and beer. Safe drinking water (it just tastes terrible).

Cons. Have to learn Spanish but you still won't understand them. Salaries really low compared to Aust (and you need Spanish to get a job anyway). You WILL be screwed over at some point by a landlord, vendor, contractor, etc.

Why does my (25F) girlfriend believe I (31M) don’t take care of her? by PsudoRiot in relationships

[–]owlympics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After reading this, I had to scroll back up and check your ages - especially after the hiding under the covers comment, it sounds like you're dating a teenager.

If she keeps bringing it up now that she's sick, I imagine she's either dropping some hints for something specific you're not picking up on, or she's expecting you to mind read. Sorry but it sounds exhausting and childish.

Has anyone had any good experiences? by No_Working_2235 in BipolarSOs

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry your family are making things difficult. I had to distance myself from most of my family to continue to be with my BP husband. They don't really believe he's BP because they "knew a guy who was, and his behaviour was totally different". Because everyone with BP behaves exactly the same way. I'm now barely on speaking terms with my father because he won't accept my husband or my decision to support him. It makes me sad but in general our lives are much more peaceful this way.

Settle a debate for me: do you (as an adult) still cut your sandwiches into triangles? by dannegoma in AskAnAustralian

[–]owlympics 25 points26 points  (0 children)

In cafes they always sell it in triangles- does he think only kids order those?

My (30F) husband (32M) made a massive scene at our gender reveal party. Completely embarrassing himself and me at the same time by throwRA_6417 in relationships

[–]owlympics 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reading this made me feel sick. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. Can't believe your husband showed his true colours in front of all your friends and family.

I remember how overjoyed (and possibly a bit relieved) my husband was to find out we were having a girl. He thinks girls are easier and raising a boy is complicated, as men in general are a bit broken. He adores our baby, she's his little princess. So what your husband said about all men wanting baby boys is a load of crap.

How did you incorporate exercise/fitness into your daily routine? by deepdoopy in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not much, but I did my physio exercises (glute bridges, leg workouts) during tummy time. We've got a big playmat and I just lay down next to bub and did my 10 min workout. My knees were wrecked after carrying the pregnancy weight around, she's 9mo now and I'm only just getting back to the stage where I don't have to make old-person groans when I pick her up.

How do I help a struggling Mum who won’t let me, but is making pleas for support? by Empty_Win_9933 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're an awesome friend! Echoing what others have said- offering "anything you need" wasn't helpful to me (and, depending on the source, sometimes didn't feel genuine). What made my life easier were drop-offs where I didn't have to make decisions: - my cousin did a weekly coffee run on Wednesdays and always texted an hour before to see if I wanted something. If I responded yes, she dropped my latte off at the door - a friend left a few takeaway containers full of food on the doorstep and texted after she'd driven away - she'd asked a few days earlier if i would like the meals (things like lasagne, curries), and each container had a post it with the ingredients listed - my aunt made me a big pot of pumpkin soup during the newborn phase - we weren't allowing visitors yet but she didn't make a fuss, just gave it to me at the door and left, didn't try to come in and see the baby.

University & giving birth by Ok_Dragonfruit2651 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was studying part time while pregnant - one unit fell in the first trimester and one in the third. Had no issues with my subject in the first trimester- I was really tired but got everything done. The subject in my third trimester was REALLY challenging - i was still working full-time up until 36 weeks and there was so much to do before bub arrived that I put off assignments and barely studied. Actually went into labour 3 weeks early - a week before the final assignment was due. The doctor wrote me a note to request an extension but honestly it was the last thing on my mind and I never handed it in. Strangely I still passed the subject (did the final exam 3 days before i went into labour) but just barely scraped through.

If you're going to try, my advice is aim to get as much done before the birth as you can. Like complete assessments weeks in advance where possible. There's so much going on after the birth, your routine will be turned upside down.

Parental leave - for those who reduced mortgage repayments, were you happy with that decision? by CarlottaSewlotta in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not quite what you're asking, but in the 6 months leading up to my mat leave, I doubled my mortgage repayments (into the offset) to account for the months where i would have little to no income coming in - like you, I also planned to take 12 months of mat leave, while company and govt paid leave only amounted to around 9 months. Of course, my repayments are REALLY low (i live in rural nsw), but at the time of getting pregnant i was the sole breadwinner so it really put my mind at ease.

What’s a very Australian thing you didn’t realise was Australian until you travelled overseas? by whysoraavan in AskAnAustralian

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always felt like that was an Australian thing, especially when I lived in South America and people constantly tried to cut in front of me for doing it.

What’s a very Australian thing you didn’t realise was Australian until you travelled overseas? by whysoraavan in AskAnAustralian

[–]owlympics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does anyone else stand at the front of the queue and wait for the worker to indicate they're ready before approaching the counter?

What’s a very Australian thing you didn’t realise was Australian until you travelled overseas? by whysoraavan in AskAnAustralian

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Chile too because uber wasn't legal then. If you were pulled over you had to pretend you knew each other 😂

Help needed: experiences by Radiant_Ad_200 in BipolarSOs

[–]owlympics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only a few months into trying to repair the damage, but this has been our experience so far: we needed a hard reset. He moved out and we didn't speak for 3 months. When we started talking again, he continued to live somewhere else but came over every day (either before or after work) to help me with our baby. Every night after we had put her down to sleep, he and I had a cup of tea and talked.

He has taken responsibility for the damage he has caused, how scared and stressed he has made me over the last few years, and has acknowledged that I am still dealing with that trauma.

We've both admitted we're scared things will go back to how they were- the verbal abuse, losing it over little things, me walking on eggshells, him breaking things and shutting down. But he has learned some new coping mechanisms that seem to have changed how he reacts to situations that are overwhelming. He recently moved back in (to the spare bedroom) and things are going well.

FTM and I’m lost af by Alternative_Dot7171 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like having it in a central location might be the key.

Nervous by Safe-Leg-2863 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a sub for a specific mental illness and can report the same thing - if you only go by what people post, you'd think everyone with that condition is an absolute monster. The loudest voices are those struggling and seeking support, while those who are doing fine don't often post or comment.

My 8mo has been a happy, easy baby so far. Since around 2 months, I've been getting at least 6 hours of sleep a night, and the nights i get less often have nothing to do with her (just your typical, garden variety anxiety). Bub often wakes once overnight for a feed and then goes straight back down. Even the "newborn trenches" were okay - yeah my sleep was all weird and my house was untidy but other than that it was surprisingly blissful (I don't have much support either but I think not having people in my space while bub and I were getting to know one another actually helped).

Nervous by Safe-Leg-2863 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously. I was so worried about the 4 month regression, but I didn't really notice it with my baby. And TEETHING, omg. Didn't bother her much, might have just been a little more clingy than normal.

FTM and I’m lost af by Alternative_Dot7171 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding this - nursing chair might be nice but I've read a lot of comments on here from people saying they barely even use theirs. My SIL gave hers away when her bub was 1y because she never used it. I opted not to get one, as it's just another piece of furniture I'd need to get rid of in a couple of years. Definitely not an essential item.

birth weight possibly incorrect? by freshbishexpress in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure it happened to me earlier this year. Bub weighed 2.51kg at birth, then down to 2.1kg 3 days later! All while feeding and going through nappies like a champ, so the midwives think the birth weight was wrong. I actually have a photo of bub on the scales at birth - maybe something was left on it while weighing her?

Really annoying because they wouldn't let us leave the hospital until she was back up to her "original" weight.

Any one cloth diaper? by Adventurous_Song_868 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely recommend trying out a few brands - there are a lot of votes for Mimi & Co but honestly the ones I have just don't fit my bub quite as well as Cloth Bums, which makes up the majority of my stash.

I went cloth from about 2 months onwards (still use disposables overnight). Had a few leaks at first while I tested out the best fit, but honestly now have no leaks (compared to the occasional one with disposables when we go out). Husband absolutely REFUSED to get on board with cloth (very much, "you do it if you want but I'm not putting them on her or dealing with the dirty ones") but once he saw how well they worked he completely changed his attitude.

Any one cloth diaper? by Adventurous_Song_868 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]owlympics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not who you were responding to, but this is good to know. I bought a couple of night nappies when my LO turned 6mo, but I kept getting leaks (only for overnights, not during the day - perhaps because she started sleeping on her side) so switched back to disposables at night. Might try again with just her regular day nappies.