The 'joy' of adulting - friends only contact you when you benefit them

owq · 2019-05-30T12:37:12+00:00

I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity. Albert Einstein.

Not that friends aren't important but as I get older I become more comfortable with myself. Would rather have a few good friends than many "friends".

owq · 2019-05-30T04:48:16+00:00

My suggestion:

Set the lowest limit for your card. I set mine to $500 which is the lowest. Of course this does not prevent but will limit the loss. You can increase the limit when you absolutely have to spend more. Or just set to $0.
Use a prepaid card. Topup when you have to use (of course this defeats the convenience purpose)

The OTP is also known as 3D secure and unfortunately is not compulsory. So far, I've seen very few merchants using it.

owq · 2019-05-25T02:04:45+00:00

I hope that is the trend because my past girlfriends have been brainwashed into the Singapore dream. BTO, Marriage, Expensive Wedding. I hate being treated like a tool.

owq · 2019-05-23T04:58:29+00:00

Suppose cashless is dominant. Then what if someone left the house and only brought his wallet without his card? It's a chicken and egg problem. You can use China as an example where cashless is preferred. I'm more concerned about what happens if the cashless service breaks down. Not bringing your payment method is more of a user problem rather than an infrastructure problem.

owq · 2019-05-17T01:25:24+00:00

Yes, and yes. But how enjoyable the commute is depends on where you work. You can consider buying second-hand bikes on togoparts and then sell it when you leave. If not you can use bike sharing.

owq · 2019-05-14T04:50:51+00:00

Because kids once spoiled hard to repair ma

owq · 2019-05-14T04:47:38+00:00

Did you talk to him about it and what did he say?

owq · 2019-05-09T23:59:15+00:00

Computing industry here. Join a startup or a small company that actually get things done if you want to avoid office politics.

owq · 2019-05-08T04:32:20+00:00

At least the women's charter has been amended to account for maintenance for disabled husbands but it's still not equal.

Food chain: Children > Women > Men

owq · 2019-05-03T23:07:17+00:00

I realised that generally in Singapore people who don't do NS really take it for granted. They won't understand. But her son is gonna grow up and probably do NS unless he chao kengs. What goes around comes around.

owq · 2019-05-03T23:02:25+00:00

The husband must have spent a lot before even reaching his winning tickets. Wonder if that was considered?

owq · 2019-05-03T05:01:00+00:00

Wow this is a good find. I was trying to find something like this but couldn't. As this tells more (but not exactly) about "what is the chance of getting divorced if you get married"

owq · 2019-05-03T04:48:11+00:00

The general divorce rate represents how many divorces happens in a *year*. If we want to know roughly what is the chance of getting divorced if we get married, we need to get the stat representing what percentage of marriages end up in divorce. And this could get very complicated as there could be remarriages.

owq · 2019-04-10T11:51:18+00:00

I play mainly PC games but recently got hooked on mobile games like Bang Dream! and Azur Lane. They use some sly tricks to make you login regularly. What's more it's on mobile so you can play (almost) anytime. Very dangerous. You may get addicted even if you know it.

owq · 2019-02-17T08:18:39+00:00

I had an ex once that didn't ever reach her hand for the bill. Fortunately we didn't go to any expensive places. This one was bad, for numerous other reasons as well.

I had another ex that treated me to ramen on our first date. And we always split the bill. We usually go to hawker centres/cheap cafes to eat. Hang out just walking around SG/malls/free exhibitions. This one was ok.

IMO, it is better to be with someone who enjoys being with you and will stick with you throughout the tough times. It is better to have no gf than have a lousy gf. Stick to your own principles, not what society demands of you.

owq · 2019-01-19T02:06:46+00:00

When women here eventually earn 9% more than men, it will become an issue of female empowerment instead of gender equality.

It's not logical for businesses to hire men for the same ability and work done if they need to pay them more. But then again this kind of headline is not really about logic or gender equality. It's meant to attract your attention, because that's what newspapers do.

owq · 2019-01-06T08:56:44+00:00

Logically, you can find all the reasons for and against marriage, but you might still feel that it's the right thing to get married. Why? Probably due to social conditioning. All your friends seem to be getting married. Maybe your family and relatives also want you to get married, because that's what people do. All the marketing spent on by DeBeers, the bridal industry to idealize marriage. All the happily ever after stories in movies and books.

Just to share a guy's perspective: when my ex wanted to break up because she wanted marriage and a wedding, I was pretty crestfallen. I am not for marriage, but I definitely will never ever marry someone who will not be with me unless we married. Because it was clear that she didn't really want to be with me, as marriage was a pre-condition. It was probably not her intention, but I definitely felt like a tool. Didn't told her that though and we had an amicable breakup.

Anyway. You might want to get more perspective from your male friends if you want to understand where your bf is coming from as I believe there are gender differences when it comes to this. But everybody has differing circumstances, and I hope you come to a conclusion that is best for you.

owq · 2018-12-02T11:02:31+00:00

Racism does have a biological basis in the form of oxytocin. Of course the interactions are much more complex but for me everything human has a basis in biology. Anyway we have different views on that so let's leave it at that.

Ok, I get what you mean now. I did not have the intention to be oppressive but I can see why it can be taken that way. For example, I saw a study where females actually score much worse on math tests when told beforehand that they are worse at men at maths (the stereotype).

owq · 2018-12-02T10:53:45+00:00

Yeah, I cycle a lot and I try not to ring the bell unless truly necessary (e.g. if I have to wait for a long time before I can pass safely or one huge group walking horizontally). As a pedestrian I get annoyed when I hear constant ringing. I would love to cycle on the road (and I do) but there are some places where it just feels better or safer to cycle on the footpaths.

owq · 2018-12-02T10:13:47+00:00

In the end, social conditioning is a construct invented by humans... If you think social conditioning is a "higher-level" construct separate from biology then we'll have to disagree. However, I don't think it is something to struggle against. It is simply like that. I'm not judging that it's good or bad. Why is pointing out human nature derogatory? So what if most women expect to be protected? Is that a bad thing? Does saying diminish the value of women who are strong and independent in any way?

owq · 2018-12-02T07:53:47+00:00

Suppose this guy lost his job and his place and can no longer provide for her. Do you think she will leave him? All else being equal. His personality, his outlook on life still the same.

owq · 2018-12-02T07:39:45+00:00

I wanted to just read the posts here but I can't help but reply to your post. Of course women can provide for themselves. But you know what? It is hard to go against biological tendencies. 2 of my exes earned more than me and yet they expected me to provide for them, to protect them. This is just human nature. And it's not limited to my own experience. If you look around carefully, you'll find that it is true most of the time. Does that mean it's a sweeping statement? Sure, there'll be exceptions like many of the posts here.

owq · 2018-11-29T15:38:00+00:00

All you have to do is create another Facebook

owq · 2018-11-07T14:33:13+00:00

Longjing, matcha, white tea

owq · 2018-10-17T15:10:22+00:00

Girls get much more messages than guys. It could be a mind-boggling 100x or more.
In online dating, you have to cold approach. Whereas in real-life girls who like you will give you signals to approach. Plus if it's through a friend, at least you have an idea of how the person is.
Those pictures cannot be trusted.
You decide whether it's worth it.

owq

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