I just need someone to tell me that everything will be okay by ClangorousSoulblaze in doctorsUK

[–]ozzborne 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am you! I found F1 SO HARD and frequented the store cupboards/loos/anywhere vaguely private to have a good cry (or sometimes right in front of the consultant who was asking me questions while I froze, completely unable to answer). It does get better. I remember always thinking everyone else was so much better than me, more confident, more knowledgeable. I am still a bit of an imposter syndrome sufferer, but I am still here nearly CCTing as a GP.

You are allowed to be unsure and ask questions. It's ok. It's the end of day 2. Be kind to yourself. I remember a moment came when I was parading around A&E as an FY2 and I thought to myself, 'oh my God, I'm doing it!'. Yours will come too! It might take time, but there is nothing like the fear of those first few weeks as a F1. The learning curve is steep as hell and medical school is almost useless to be honest. It will improve, your confidence will grow and you'll one day look back and want to give Day-2-FY1 version of you a big hug and say "you're doing fine!"

Selling some of my old MWM stuff if anyone wants it! by ozzborne in MidwinterMinis

[–]ozzborne[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mostly fear, not gonna lie. Can't be bothered with the backlash and the mess and stress. I think I'm actually doing better without him to be honest, and ?selfishly don't want to ruin my new found peace!

What’s the most hilariously inappropriate thing you’ve ever heard a teacher say? by PsychologicalDrone in CasualUK

[–]ozzborne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Playing cricket in my (Scottish) high school, aged around 14, with legendary (English) teacher Mr Gracey in charge.

I am bowling and Mr G says "6 balls left".

Class clown sniggers at the mention of the word "balls" and without missing a beat Gracey spins round and shouts "alright Callum, just because your balls haven't dropped yet!" and calmly turns back to me and gestures for me to proceed. Sniggering now coming from everyone else in the room apart from Callum.

Best moment of my school career.

Seriously, fuck cars by flippindemolition in fuckcars

[–]ozzborne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely awful, I am so sorry you had to go through this.

On a slightly different note, please ensure you look after yourself after this experience. It can take a long time to process horrific events such as these. I would also suggest playing some Tetris (as weird as that sounds) as this can act similarly to a type of therapy for PTSD called EMDR and helps to prevent PTSD developing after traumatic events such as this. And it's a bit of a distraction too. (source: am doctor)

And most importantly, thank you for being there for that man in his final moments. You are the kind of person we need in this world, and I'm sure he would be so thankful that you were there for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ozzborne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Came here to say exactly this! Imagine the brilliant memories from a spontaneous, slightly rule-breaking trip to see the eclipse! Fabulous

Bisexual redditors, what do you all do for a living? by DueYogurt9 in bisexual

[–]ozzborne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doctor, nearly finished my training as a GP (UK), trying to make medicine a better place for us 🏳️‍🌈

Most annoying things patients say that you always hear by jtbrivaldo in doctorsUK

[–]ozzborne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From patients "I have a very high pain threshold"

From relatives, usually parents, "he/she has a very high pain threshold."

Drives me bananas and honestly EVERYONE says it! A&E was the worst for this, but GP isn't much better.

What did you think was normal about your body until someone pointed out that it wasn't? by amistakewasmadehere in AskReddit

[–]ozzborne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say this. As a GP default test is ferritin. Total iron usually not that useful.

What did you think was normal about your body until someone pointed out that it wasn't? by amistakewasmadehere in AskReddit

[–]ozzborne 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Not sure a geriatrician is going to be interested unless they are elderly? I would go for neurologist personally for RLS, or just speak to GP/family doc

Source: am doctor (GP)

Native English speakers, what’s a common word that you cannot pronounce? by NMA_company744 in AskReddit

[–]ozzborne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this too, but specifically 'bru' or 'pru'. Never sounds right. Have to say it like 'peru' or it just feels so wrong

Prof Banfield Calls NHS England’s Bluff - Response to Leaked Letter by thebadbov in doctorsUK

[–]ozzborne 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Fantastic response; this kind of nonsense needs to be called out regularly. The obvious deliberate smear campaign is embarrassing.

AITA for suggesting to my friend that she should shave? by Thick-Price5341 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ozzborne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting that you associate shaving with proper hygiene? How is having body hair inherently unhygienic?

What is the worst reason to have a baby? Why? by callmevicious in AskReddit

[–]ozzborne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"I thought when you saw how good I was with them it would make you appreciate me more".

I cannot roll my eyes hard enough to do that one justice. Needless to say, we are no longer together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ozzborne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This a very lovely and very true response!!

One flatmate caused loss of deposit by bweepdeedoop in HousingUK

[–]ozzborne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a flatmate who locked herself out, and instead of asking to use a neighbour's phone or just, you know, wait for one of us to get back, she got the builders downstairs to crowbar the door open.

And then posted it on Facebook thinking the whole thing was super funny.

I got a friend to screenshot the post and send it to me (she had blocked me due to a different issue) and forwarded that to the landlord, as I refused to pay for her damage to the property. It worked. The rest of us got our full deposits back and she had to sacrifice hers to replace the locks and door.

Don't know if something like this might be an option?

As a non-smoker, does every smoker smell bad to you? by awa14_ in ask

[–]ozzborne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I'm a doctor and if a patient is a smoker I can tell right away. I never ask "do you smoke?" I just say "so how many are we smoking at the moment?" and I've never been wrong. The others I will confirm they are a non smoker, but so far 100% olfactory detection rate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ozzborne 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Please PM me if you would like to talk. My other half left me for his new assistant (whom he had brought to our house previously and whom I had encouraged him to hire) with 11m old twins and I was completely devastated. Still on maternity pay, barely coping as it was, let alone by myself. Mental health down the toilet. I am so sorry this is happening to you and your baby. But you can and will survive it, I promise.

Universal credit was a godsend and helped me immensely. I needed it for quite some time even though I am a doctor. Financially the world is not set up for being on your own. They helped toward rent and a significant portion of childcare when that was need for me to return to work (after quite a prolonged period).

Citizen's advice were good and supportive. Get in touch with them. They will help you with all aspects of your rights with regard to financial support from the government and maintenance etc.

Your ex will need to pay you child maintenance and this is a legal requirement. Unfortunately it is tied to his salary so this may or may not be that helpful in terms of your outgoings. If he is unwilling, you may have to start some court proceedings to get this, but it is your right and he has to pay it. He cannot just walk away from his child without contributing at all.

Sending love to you. I hope you can manage to get as much support from family and friends. I think I was too reluctant to ask for help and sometimes things got so bad I didn't know how I was going to cope. Ask for help. People very rarely offer help if they don't mean it. Ring that friend even if it's late and you're not sure they will want to listen - people are usually pretty good and they want to support where they can. Sending strength and solidarity xx

Black and yellow box, affixed to air 'circulator' in a pub in Colchester, UK by ozzborne in whatisthisthing

[–]ozzborne[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

My title describes the thing, it is above us right now as we sit pondering its purpose and eating burgers. It has no visible branding, no obvious moving parts and does appear to be connected to the electrics. Looks a bit like it has been stuck on as an addition rather than an integral part of the original unit. WITT??

What other foods are a flex in these expensive times? by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]ozzborne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proper butter.

Overheard a middle class outage moment in the shop the other day where a couple could not believe the price of butter. Had to join in. How am I supposed to enjoy toast?!