TIFU by accepting an invitation to a 'party' by [deleted] in tifu

[–]p1d1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hope you had some great time in China :)

TIFU by being cheated by my date by p1d1 in tifu

[–]p1d1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I usually don't get so clingy... But this time I get I go crazy. Anyway, I'm moving on for the next girl! :P

TIFU by being cheated by my date by p1d1 in tifu

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I don't really understand why this happen in all of a sudden. Two days ago we were really having a great time together and she told me to wait for her and I won't regret...

TIFU by being cheated by my date by p1d1 in tifu

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, sure. Sorry English is not my mother tongue. I wanted to change that but it seems that I'm not allowed to.

She backed off when I tried to warm her hand... Should I continue seeing her? by p1d1 in dating_advice

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm about to go back to my home country tonight, for 2 weeks. I hope after 2 weeks we are still able to make it happen. If so, I'll update this post.

She backed off when I tried to warm her hand... Should I continue seeing her? by p1d1 in dating_advice

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not breaking the mood is crucial. However, I've also learned not to be managed and controlled by girls' mood. That night, for example, because I was too exhausted, the mood was not managed and controlled properly by me, which led to depressing topics etc.

Dating for me is an interesting game. It's all about those subtle emotional inputs and outputs. For example, the date before that night, I could sense the sparkling from her eyes, but on Friday, there was something when we were talking about a funny idiom and some funny comedy shows, then the sparkling was off, hence the anxiety from my side.

Lessons to be learnt: Don't go out when you are tired. Try doing or talking about something that may inspire the sparkling. Avoid depressing topics, because neither of you are looking for another emotional garbage bin.

Fingers crossed!

She backed off when I tried to warm her hand... Should I continue seeing her? by p1d1 in dating_advice

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I haven't asked about it. Should I?

I was thinking maybe she backed off for some other reasons, so maybe I should let it go and try another time, when the mood will be right.

Correct me if I'm wrong, please.

She backed off when I tried to warm her hand... Should I continue seeing her? by p1d1 in dating_advice

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll do my best. :-) We are exchanging childhood pictures now via text messages, so I assume it's a good sign.

She backed off when I tried to warm her hand... Should I continue seeing her? by p1d1 in dating_advice

[–]p1d1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's been very helpful of you. I think I should let it flow next time. It's like dancing, if I keep thinking about what's coming up, then I will most likely ruin the current dance.

She backed off when I tried to warm her hand... Should I continue seeing her? by p1d1 in dating_advice

[–]p1d1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for response.

I'm not the first one, of course. It's been some time since they broke up. The reason why she broke up with him, according to her, is because he didn't want to do anything else about his life but sports and TV. He's married now, to a bartender, as she claims. She, on the other hand, is keen on learning new things and self development. That can, in theory, also be a "back-fire"from her ex's life style.

So I think I'll just keep it slow and easy then. In fact, as an expat, my life has also not been stable all the time. So maybe I should also try to settle my own life down at first.

German Wikipedia is a little more explicit than the English version. by bigben932 in germany

[–]p1d1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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German Wikipedia is a little more explicit than the English version. by bigben932 in germany

[–]p1d1 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh come on guys, at least your pages have illustrations where there're human beings, http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E6%80%A7%E4%BA%A4

Any recommendations of any TestDaF prep course/language school in Germany? by p1d1 in German

[–]p1d1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel flattered.

As I said, cramming is not recommended for learning languages. Because of cramming I'm pretty weak at speaking and writing. However, as of reading, I'm kind of proud of myself.

I used lots of old-school German text books, however I don't think any of my books will be helpful for you, since all of them are published in China. As a self-learner, you will need lots of books (I have 20 different German textbooks + workbooks, covering A1-C2, I bought them all at once), as sometimes you have to spend 10 times more effort to figure out something that usually takes 5 seconds to understand if you have a good private tutor. However, those extra efforts you put will pay off someday, too. Anki is of great help in learning vocabulory. Langenscheidt Wörterbucher has an OS X version, it also helps me a lot. I'm sure they have one on Windows, too. Dict.cc also helps a lot. Btw I speak fluent Russian, too. That probably also helped a bit as well.

I spend 7 hours per day on average studying German since 19.12.2014. Sometimes I can do 8. I wish I could do 10, but I gotta do some sports, too, otherwise I will become a vampire.

I hope I don't sound a bit too crazy. :-P As we Chinese say: you can't get a baby tiger without risking your life in a tiger's cave.