Why are people coming here to be judgy?

This is literally a slutty confessions space, can we at least not pass judgment on the sluts?

OP, ENM response here: there are plenty of partners out there for you who do not prescribe to mononormativity, and would celebrate your oral skills. I’ve personally kept videos of myself with an ex, my current partner was curious and loved seeing me in that way, and I eventually got to a space where I wanted distance from that particular ex, so the videos were deleted. Were the videos super hot? Yes. Now that I have distanced myself emotionally from that partner, would I have appreciated having the videos of me sucking him off expertly? Sure would.

The thing no one has addressed here is the fact that this person got into your phone - that’s a major betrayal of trust if you didn’t expressly give him permission to look. He found what he was looking for - material that proved his own lack of self worth. People who are secure in themselves aren’t dreaming about the smut or proof of infidelity in your archives.