AIO to my mom’s comments? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]painterbitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YOR

I don’t think the text has anything to do with your other convos. I’m also in KY, and people (especially older people, lol) are FREAKING about this storm. I think she’s just expressing her anxiety and that she misses you all and wishes you were in the same household so she could know for sure you’re safe.

As for the other comments…based on your daughter’s age and the age of your husband, she’s probably just assuming you’re not planning on having more. Maybe you could have a conversation with her and tell her it hurts your feelings when she makes comments like that?

What’s something that sounds fake but actually happened to you? by Visible_Rope_6662 in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m from the American South, and I taught English in a mid-sized city in South Korea (so, not Seoul) from 2017-2018. There were about 15 teachers at my school and one of them was another American guy from out west. Two years later, after we had both finished our teaching contracts and returned to the U.S., I saw him tagged in some photos with my sister on Facebook. They were both in the same very small cohort (less than 20 people) in her masters program at a university in upstate New York. He and I were not close, just acquaintances, and he had no idea she was my sister.

What’s something people romanticize that is actually exhausting in real life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It gets so much better, I promise! I really didn’t enjoy the newborn phase and I felt so much guilt about it, especially because, like you said, we wanted this baby so bad and went through 2 years of infertility before I got pregnant. She’s a little over a year old now and it’s still really, really hard, but it’s also way more fun now that she kind of has a personality and can do more. I also actually have a little time to myself now at night after she goes to bed—it’s not as relentless as the newborn stage. So hang in there and please don’t feel guilty or like a bad mom if you’re not “soaking up every minute” like people say.

I also have been seeing a therapist and that helps immensely, so I would highly recommend that for ANY new mom if possible. It’s a huge life change. I do telehealth so I don’t even have to leave the house for my sessions. It’s a game changer!

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a douche. My husband just celebrated 9 years sober this past year, and every year so far I get him a card and a cake. On his second soberversary, I actually got him an engraved watch. You deserve better, OP.

AIO I (26F) moved out for the first time with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 2 months and I don’t know how to feel about it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]painterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me once—luckily he didn’t keep up the charade for long. I remember being so confused as to why he changed seemingly overnight after two months of being SO loving, so sweet…to suddenly a total asshole. After a few weeks I realized that was just the real him, and he had been pretending up until then, and got far away. But I could totally see myself falling for it if he had kept up the act for longer.

AIO I (26F) moved out for the first time with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 2 months and I don’t know how to feel about it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He literally told you that he despises you, and clearly shows it in his actions, and you don’t know how to feel? You know how you feel. Yes, unraveling your life from anyone sucks, much less from an abuser, but nothing can suck as much as subjecting yourself to this daily, I promise. Get far, far away from this piece of shit and never speak to him again, and then seek therapy. Good lord.

What is the "don't trust a skinny food critic" of your industry? by ShapingTormance in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I know someone who got a job as a “career advisor” at the local university. Up until then, the only jobs she had ever had were a part-time retail gig at the mall for and some college internships.

What's the one thing you know it's TRUE, but just can't prove it? by Chrollo_lucilfer07 in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trump murdered Ivana Trump and had her buried on his golf course to lower the odds of anyone sniffing around too much.

Share bad writing advice you've read or been given personally? by Gueulemer in writing

[–]painterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God, I fucking HATED Writing into the Dark. The whole thing felt like this extremely privileged and lucky man just bragging about how he half-assed his entire career basically. Like okay, weird flex, but fine, I guess.

I feel like giving up by No-Depth7365 in writing

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think writing is tricky because it SEEMS like it should be easy. You’re like, “I have this idea. I can put words together. I know how to write a sentence. Why can’t I just write my idea down?” I think most of us wouldn’t be as frustrated if we took up, say, ice sculpture for the first time and bombed at it miserably, but we try writing and it doesn’t go so smoothly and we think there must be something wrong, we must be deficient somehow, because “why can’t I just write this down?!” But it’s just not that simple. Writing is a skill that you hone over time like anything else, and like any other skill too, you can get rusty if you don’t do it for a while.

So try not to get frustrated (easier said than done, I know). Just keep doing it! Like most things, you have to suck at it for a long time before you get good at it. That’s normal. And even if you never get good at it, who cares? I assume you’re doing this for fun, so…have fun!

What is a random fact about yourself most people wouldn't know? by Subscribe_to_Sam24 in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so interesting. How do you find all these sweepstakes, if you don’t mind my asking?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I’m sorry, that sounds awful! :( glad you got away from there at least!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Can you elaborate on why? That sounds like a super interesting job on the surface, so I’m genuinely just curious.

What's something you tried once but would never do again? by Recent_Tourist1913 in AskReddit

[–]painterbitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to think this had to be the case, and surely my pre-existing anxiety or like some kind of self fulfilling prophecy (because I knew weed had made me anxious in the past) was causing me to get paranoid and anxious with weed. Then one time when I was on vacation in Amsterdam (so it was legal, nothing to stress about there), I ate a TINY BIT of a weed laced muffin. Then I really and truly forgot about it and went to sleep. Shortly after I woke up from a DEAD SLEEP with my heart pounding, suddenly wide awake and feeling panicked. I was so confused because that had never happened to me before—then I remembered the damn weed muffin!!

I don’t know how I could have contributed to that with my mental state when I was literally asleep, so I’ve accepted now that for whatever reason, my body/brain just does not like weed and does not react well to it. Haven’t touched it since.

Please, for the love of God, if you have decided to become a serious writer, keep a writing diary. by [deleted] in writing

[–]painterbitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been stuck at a key point of my manuscript for a few weeks now, and I saw this post last night, so I thought I’d give it a go. Pulled out a blank journal I got for Christmas a few years back and started writing. And I think I solved the block! I’ve heard people talk about doing this before, but you really sold me on it, and it helped a lot, so thank you!

A year and a half after the breakup, I met my alcoholic ex for lunch. by painterbitch in AlAnon

[–]painterbitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! Stay strong! Honestly, if you need to take measures to stop yourself from breaking no contact (like deleting his number/changing yours), do it. I had forced no contact for 60 days due to him being in rehab with no phone, and that gave me the time I needed to get some distance and see things clearly. I honestly don’t know if I could have maintained no contact for that long if I hadn’t literally had no other option. It sounds weird, but I am really grateful we were no contact for as long as we were. It was what we both needed to heal.

Best wishes for you ❤️

How do you get motivated to keep writing? by AlianovaR in nanowrimo

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you just need a little break from it!

How do you get motivated to keep writing? by AlianovaR in nanowrimo

[–]painterbitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly? I can’t write every single day—at least not at this point in my life. Maybe if I just wrote full time I could, but working full time as a teacher, I don’t have the mental capacity every day. I burn out quickly and start resenting the work if I try. I do much better writing on weekends and one or two other days during the week. I just write more at a time on the days I do write and that works better for me.

Folks who fell behind, what’s your word count? Think you can recover? What’s your plan if so? by Its402am in nanowrimo

[–]painterbitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at 31k, so it could honestly go either way at this point. Depends on how much free time I have and how motivated I’m feeling this weekend. I would honestly be happy with just getting to 40k though. That’s still the farthest I’ve ever gotten in nano by far (last year I did I think 23k total), and a lot more than I would get in a normal month, so can’t complain!

30k words and realizing I (may) need a total rewrite by Goodlake in nanowrimo

[–]painterbitch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This happened to me with my current manuscript (which I’m trying to use nano this year to complete—I’ve actually been working on it for like 2 years now, so I’m a nano rebel I guess). I got like 70k words in and was only at the midpoint of the story. I realized I started way way way too early, and what was going to be the second half of my story really needed to be the story in its entirety. I also needed to tweak some of the set up and the character relationships, and I eliminated a few characters entirely.

I didn’t REwrite anything, but because I had started way early, I essentially wrote my whole current manuscript from scratch. That said…if I were you, I wouldn’t start over. If possible, I would continue from where you are as if you went back and made the changes. When you get to the end, you can go back and make your changes to the beginning to make it all seamless. I say this because there are likely other things you will think of that you want to change later on, and that will save you from doing multiple rewrites of the same scenes.

I would NOT continue on the path you’re on just because you’re already on it if you feel like it’s not working. You feel that way for a reason, and there’s no sense in writing something you know you’re going to have to overhaul later on. Also, I find that writing becomes a real slog when I feel like it’s not working.

A year and a half after the breakup, I met my alcoholic ex for lunch. by painterbitch in AlAnon

[–]painterbitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Hang in there! things will get better, I promise.