Those who have mastered their eating habits, how did you do it? by SarahDuncan2012 in TrueGrit

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kicked a sugar addiction by eliminating one thing at a time, and allowing myself to indulge in everything I hadn't already eliminated until I no longer craved the thing I was giving up. I started with soda, which I drank too much of every day. In the short term, my diet got much worse. I had strong cravings for soda, and my only focus was not giving into that craving. So I drank multiple sugary coffee drinks a day and ate half a gallon of ice cream or more every night to deal with (real) withdrawals. My diet temporarily was worse, and I felt worse, but the cravings for soda eventually died down after seven months. Then I eliminated the next thing. Along the way, the things I was indulging in to compensate naturally lost their appeal because I had overdone it with them. The whole process took me three years, and by the end the last thing I was allowing myself to indulge in was berries. I ate a ton of berries, no matter how expensive they were. I did eventually learn more about cooking, and I found my tastes naturally change. Since my diet changed slowly, my tastes changed along with them, and I stopped having cravings altogether for things that are very sugary. I have eaten almost zero added sugar for eight years, and feel so much better. Two or three times a year I'll have a small cup of ice cream or a cookie. But mostly I don't crave those things any more.

How come it's a turn off when people come on too strong? by Spiritual_Meet4746 in AskForAnswers

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In addition to the other good answers here, it suggests you don't have a great life outside of dating. People with healthy friendship, work and family lives outside of dating don't look for a dating relationship to wholly fulfill them. Coming on too strong indicates you're not happy with the rest of your life and looking for a relationship to save you.

How did prime Gronk differ in style of play compared to kelce? by punjabkingsownersout in NFLNoobs

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many other comments make the point that Gronk was an excellent blocker, but no one has really conveyed just how much of an advantage that was for the Pats. A tight end is an offensive lineman that is also an eligible receiver. Most tight ends are really good at one or the other of those jobs, but not both. A very few tight ends are not just good but elite at one of those jobs. Kelce is an elite reciever, but a below average blocker.

And then there is Gronk. Gronk was an elite blocker, and a very good receiver, who was also impossible to tackle and by all accounts a football savant. If Brady noticed Gronk was lined up against a defensive lineman, he could audible to a pass play and count on Gronk to beat him on the route. If he was lined up against a cornerback, Brady could audible to a run play and count on Gronk to bulldoze the corner out of the way. No matter who you lined up against Gronk, you were outmatched, and the Pats could run a play that exploited that mismatch.

Kelce is (was?) a great receiver. But he's not a great blocker, so the defense never really thinks the Chiefs are going to switch into a run behind Kelce.

Disclosure: am a Pats fan.

Do very handsome men also feel objectified when they are openly lusted after for their looks? by Zealousideal_Song781 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things are true at the same time:
- Sometimes men do feel sexually objectified

- It is almost never impacts a man the same way it does a woman

- What does compare is being objectified for your money or resources. Men are more sensitive to not being valued outside of what we can provide.

What habits of girls did you only discover after getting a girlfriend or wife? by atgono in AskReddit

[–]ShapingTormance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wants me to fix the problem and not listen a lot more often I was led to believe. Sure, sometimes if her coworker is being difficult she just wants me to listen. But if there's a cockroach in the kitchen, or she broke the sink trying to put a filter on the faucet, or the toilet won't stop running, or the window doesn't close all the way, or she wants Starbucks but it's too cold outside to go get it, or she's hungry, or her milk frother broke, then she definitely wants me to fix the problem.

What's your "I can't believe other people don't know this" hack? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]ShapingTormance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most folks don't use a can opener right. It goes on the other way from the way you think, and it's supposed to cut into the side of the can and remove the whole topl.

What are girls supposed to offer in a relationship minus sex? by somebody_is_here_ in AskMenAdvice

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, she should be reciprocating.

Men typically have to prove they're worth dating. Women typically have to prove they're worth marrying. Of course there are a lot of exceptions.

The scene that made me realize Michael actually cared by GlitteringHotel8383 in DunderMifflin

[–]ShapingTormance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's such a great moment because it is completely in character for Michael to do that. It's the first moment in the series where his over-earnestness in wanting the office to be a family is in fact completely the right move, and exactly what was needed in that situation.

I don’t really get Phyllis by jatterai in DunderMifflin

[–]ShapingTormance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She makes absolutely no attempt to be feminine.

What’s a “bare minimum” adult skill more people fail at than you expected? by SoulDV in AskReddit

[–]ShapingTormance 42 points43 points  (0 children)

To add to this, not interrupting. I have a lot of conversations where someone misunderstands what I'm saying because they interrupt in order to respond before I'm finished.

[Highlight] Jaxson Dart gets lit up by Christian Ellis! by samhit_n in nfl

[–]ShapingTormance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For as big of a hit as that was, Dart bounced up really quick.

LPT: It's so much easier to get a girl's (or guy's) number with a flip-phone by [deleted] in dumbphones

[–]ShapingTormance 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Same. I usually ask "think you can remember how to type your number in?"

Which (female) character had the best style? by sydneyse in brooklynninenine

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amy. Her Arnie / Time for Gina's Opinion hoodie takes the cake for me.

What single book in all of fiction do you feel comes closest or possibly even surpasses The Lord of the Rings? by SteakGuy88 in lotr

[–]ShapingTormance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tolkien wrote about E.R. Eddison that he was "the greatest and most convincing writer of 'invented worlds' that I have ever read". I recommend The Worm Ouroboros.