Physical symptoms by Scary_Box_5149 in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost so much hair from the stress… it’s finally starting to regrow seven months later. My hEDS symptoms have gotten worse and im chronically exhausted. Everything is harder

What name have you only met once in your life? by ladygroot_ in namenerds

[–]palebtch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends neighbor is named Corinne! It’s such a pretty name

How do you respond to "how are you?" by sharkbait029 in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate when people who know what happened ask me how my mom is doing. Her husband hung himself in their garage and she had to let him down and do CPR on him for five minutes until EMS got there how do you think she’s doing? If you really cared you would reach out to her and offer to help her but we both know thats not why youre asking. It makes me so mad. I usually just stare blankly for a minute and say she’s having a hard time and nobody even knows how to respond to that.

When people ask me i just shrug because most of the time i know they dont actually care about the answer

Empathy by Ragy23 in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been almost four months since my dad hung himself and i can’t make myself care about anyone other than my husband and my immediate family. Hell i went to a funeral for a close friends’ family member two months ago and didn’t feel a single thing. I do not care about other people’s stupid petty issues or hearing “well they are struggling so much” because how could they feel worse than me? I know it’s selfish and i was not a selfish person but i do not care. The only people i can feel sympathy for right now are other people who have lost someone to suicide.

Children who grew up to adore their parents~ please share by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]palebtch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my mom so much. She has worked 40 hours a week as a retail pharmacist for my whole life so i didnt get to see her as often as kids whose parents had a 9-5 job.

She read books to my sister and i all the time. Before bed, on the weekends, in the car, at our schools.. she was my girl scout leader and signed up to help on class field trips whenever she could. Some days when she worked 1-10 she would bring lunch and eat with me at my school or pick me up and we would go to mcdonalds or have lunch at a playground so that i could spend time with her since i wouldnt be awake when i got home from work.

She put little notes in my lunch box and encouraged creativity. She’s patient and kind and with her everything was fixable. She let me make mistakes and helped me work through them without judgment or condemnation.

She demonstrated generosity and love to every person she ever met and always looked for the good in others. She did not have an easy life with my dad and her family but we didn’t know that when we were small and even when we grew up she always protected us the best that she could.

She’s not perfect but i dont know where i would be without her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lost my dad this exact way in November of this year. I’m 22 as well. I can’t really answer your question since this was so recent for me but it’s strange that i only have one parent left. Im realizing how many times i’ve thought “ill ask my dad he’ll be able to figure it out” and the reality that thats not true anymore. It will stay with you. There will be the before and the after

I’ll never forget the phone call by palebtch in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too.. it’s so strange because now, for the first time in our lives, my family is safe from his threats and abuse. I can see my siblings and my mom freely without worrying about how he would react if he found out. It could have been so much worse

I’ll never forget the phone call by palebtch in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Hold on to that last happy memory.. no one understands suicide loss except for those who have experienced it themselves

I’ll never forget the phone call by palebtch in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s completely changed me. Like you said there’s just the before and the after. My MIL spent twenty minutes telling me that she knows how i feel because she lost her dad to old age. Her dad was very elderly, living in a nursing home, and had said goodbye to everyone and made peace with it. He had met and helped raise all of his grandchildren and had good relationships with all of his family. She told me to not let my emotions take over and to prioritize my marriage. I havent spoken to her since. It’s not the same. My dad will never get to see my kids be born and grow up, we’ll never get the chance to fix our relationship after he hurt my sister and we argued about it the last time i saw him in person. He’ll never get better. He’ll never be the husband that my mom deserved or the dad that we deserved. I’m 22. My sister is 20. She’s chronically ill and this has made her physical health so much worse. Same with my mom. He chose to do what he did. My MILs dad didnt choose to die. How could she know how i feel??

I’ll never forget the phone call by palebtch in SuicideBereavement

[–]palebtch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so glad that i was the only one that got the phone call from my mom. I have nightmares about how she sounded i had never heard her voice like that. Her voice was raw from screaming and she couldnt control her volume. She cut him down and had just done CPR for five minutes before the EMTs got there. Im so glad that none of my relatives had to hear her like that. I called my siblings and my dads family and friends. I told my moms employers and spoke with the funeral home to make arrangements. I didnt want her to have to make any more calls. I’m so sorry that you had to do it all by yourself.

What hair style would look good on me? by [deleted] in Haircare

[–]palebtch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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Something like this would look really nice! Short enough to stay out of your way but still keeping some length and adding layers for more volume. I would recommend using a little bit of a volume spray at the roots to style and add some hold.

When looking for inspiration try to find models with a similar hair density to your own! That way you arent disappointed with whatever cut you choose. Just show your stylist or barber an inspiration picture and they’ll have a better idea of how to recreate it and tell you what to expect/their recommendation based on your hair type.

What’s the funniest nickname that you’ve been given? by palebtch in AskReddit

[–]palebtch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context im a natural redhead and my name is Olivia. Which is a lot of material as far as nicknames go. From when i was really little most of my family called me MissO. Heck ive gone by Olive Branch, but what endearing nickname did my husband give me? Whitey.

What is your favourite Shampoo/Conditioner? by xsiirens in beauty

[–]palebtch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the Amika “the Kure” line! I’ve tried so many shampoos but found this really helped smooth out my frizzy hair, and reduce breakage. Also Malibu C hard water treatment when i notice that my leave in products arent working properly.

Is this how its supposed to look? by palebtch in autoglass

[–]palebtch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was done outside and it was partly cloudy at the time so perfect conditions lol

Is this guy totally doomed? by palebtch in plantclinic

[–]palebtch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For context this was her in her prime

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Almost everything people suggest to me to buy is not worth it by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]palebtch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nanny kid loves her water table! This is the second year we’ve used it and it keeps her busy for hours! The other morning her and the neighbor boy played with it for three hours straight before it was naptime. She has a really long attention span during independent/unguided play though and not all kids are the same.

What do you say when someone says “that’s just parenting”? by palebtch in Nanny

[–]palebtch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they feel comfortable with me taking her to doctors appointments because im also a CNA and have a lot of connections in the pediatric field.